To ask if you actually like or respect your manager?

[ThatSharpPombear]

Because I don’t. At all.

Mine is full of it - constantly spinning things, avoiding accountability and making empty promises. I’ve tried to stay professional but I’m finding it harder to take her seriously and it’s affecting how I feel about my job overall. I’m already looking into new roles but just wondered how common is it to just not respect your manager?

AIBU to think it’s more normal than people admit?

My answer is "yes" to both. She was a solicitor and I both liked and respected her.

Yup, she's great - very good at her job and very hands off unless I need her. I've generally had very good managers. Bad ones make life a misery though.

No and No.
He's awful.

My current manager is brilliant, to the point I'd class her as a friend now. But I've had some awful ones in the past. One was downright nasty and vindictive. Having a good or bad one can make a huge difference to how you feel about the job.

The one thing I've found is that awful managers are often aiming higher than their current role and somehow manage to get there! So you often don't have them for long.

Mostly, over my career, I have but not the last couple. Maybe it's my old age and lack of engagement, but I notice incompetence and lack of consideration in a way I don't think I did when I was younger.

I don’t particularly dislike him but he’s pretty useless. Plus side is that I also rarely ever hear from him!

I'm self-employed now but didn't respect my previous manager in the slightest. He was a nice person, but hated enforcing boundaries or telling people what to do.

He’s fabulous. And shit rolls uphill so his theory is that I am handling my stuff, unless I ask him, and he’s responsible too.

He expects hard work and loyalty. But when I felt there was an ethical issue (for me) and I told him I didn’t want to do something, he immediately did it himself. It needed done, I just wasn’t going to.

We have a pact that we’re retiring on the same day.

I’ve had a couple of astonishingly awful managers. But more good than bad.

My current manager is the company owner, and i adore him.
Previous managers, most ive liked without any particular degree of sentimental attachment, one i've really liked and am still in contact with albeit sporadic, and one ive actively loathed.

Can't stand the bitch. Lazy, incompetent and useless.

Yes & yes. My manager is brilliant at his job, really looks after & protects his team even when that means taking all the shit himself and he absolutely always has time for us. I am really grateful for him!

Mine is fantastic, she has been an amazing mentor to me and I massively respect her.

I've had bad managers before and it really ruins a job. My current manager is fantastic, can't fault him.

Like ans respect mine. Worked his way up. Always asks my view and feeds it up, shares credit, supports and offers opportunities and volunteers himself for the shit jobs so he is very much leading by example.

My worst managers were those that were too busy to manage and only saw us as tools to look good to regional management.

Move.

No respect for my actual manager nor any of the managers where I am. Utterly spineless and happy to drive people to mental health crises, long term sickness and eventual departure as long as they meet their targets. Public sector role which ll be no surprise to many.

Mine is both. Not always been the case.

I agree with the OP that for many people, there is not the liking nor respect there. Too many become managers because of technical/professional knowledge, or being good at their previous job. Not because they are good people managers.

Yes (mainly) but no, not at all. Very anxious, so micromanages and makes everyone feel utterly useless. I think I'm very close to burnout due to her. My old manager though - absolute angel who truly cared about managing as a job, rather than just being the senior professional on the team. I miss her terribly, but at least have a brilliant role model for my future career.

I used to but she's really disappointed me recently.

Yes and yes.

But in my last role, I didn't like or respect a senior manager that came in and it was my reason for leaving. She treated people like shit and wanted me to do the same to my team.

No. My managers an actual joke.

No. Currently off on stress because I’m his latest punching bag, but I have a disability so he’s walking a FINE line and even HR has told him so

There’s been ones in the past that made my life miserable but I love my current one, he’s really good, clear communicator, takes accountability and really pushes us if we want it to move up the ladder/get qualifications etc and always happy to argue the point with higher ups on behalf of the team.

My immediate boss can be a bit wishy washy but his manager who I also partially report to is fab. He is a man of his word and always listens.

I have worked for some shocking people over the years but equally some great managers who I have learnt a lot from.

For me, I want someone who is a good balance of being supportive and also allowing me to do what I am employed to do without micro managing.

Current manager - fairly ok but not the best.
Previous manager - exceptionally fantastic.
One before that - the most unlikeable and incompetent fool ever.

My current manager is absolutely lovely - good at her job, a laugh, flexible understanding, doesn't micromanage. I get on with her really well. I also get on really well with the head of our section; he's great and we're quite similar people in a lot of ways.

However, I've worked for some absolutely awful managers in my time, and I feel your pain. I've left jobs because I've loathed my line managers before, or even if I didn't actively dislike them, just found them incompetent and clueless.