To ask if you actually like or respect your manager?

[ThatSharpPombear]

Because I don’t. At all.

Mine is full of it - constantly spinning things, avoiding accountability and making empty promises. I’ve tried to stay professional but I’m finding it harder to take her seriously and it’s affecting how I feel about my job overall. I’m already looking into new roles but just wondered how common is it to just not respect your manager?

AIBU to think it’s more normal than people admit?

My manager is amazing thankfully. He’s fab.
I have always been lucky, I’ve had some not as great ones but no one truly awful.

I hated my last boss, he was a bully and I still have horrible memories over 10 years on.

Yes absolutely.

I’m a teacher so my boss is my Head Teacher. She’s fantastic, hands on, supportive. She always has staff’s backs and doesn’t ask anyone to do anything she’s not willing to do (and does) herself.

I was like this in my previous roles but my current line manger and all of the other managers in the service are so knowledgeable, approachable, supportive and trustworthy, it makes such a difference to the full team culture, I genuinely feel so lucky

I did not attend a meeting this morning in person because I have had a cough and did not want to inflict it on others. I joined via Teams and was not on camera except at the beginning.

Probably for the best, as I was advised of a useless manager leaving, and would not have kept a 'poker face'.

My boss was actually my friend first, and I still like her as a friend, albeit she's a bit flaky.... but as a boss, nope. She micro manages and picks the tiniest issues to raise which leave me feeling very small. I'm looking for a new job, not sure if the friendship will survive.

Yes, she's great, appreciative and stands up for her Team. And she loves cats!

I liked and respected my last manager. A really well rounded, clever, personable individual who was excellent at her job and who wasn't interested in the office politics. She retired, the world has moved on and I just keep my head down, ignore the crap and as I'm asked/ told.

Life's too short to get embroiled in all the office guff - easier said than done though.

Yes, he's very down to earth, relatable and easy to talk to. He's also fair and does his best to make sure our team are always ok.

Nice person, compassionate and supportive but not a strong leader & a bit wet.

I do like my manager - he is very kind and understanding.

BUT he is a lifelong civil servant on the wind down to retirement, so he is very resistant to change and everything takes a very long time. I’m not getting enough work to do as a result, which is frustrating.

Yeah, she's lovely and very competent.

I did, vaguely...he's the business owner and a very intelligent and easy going guy who gave me stacks of autonomy and had faith in my integrity, my work ethic and my competence.

A month ago he had an epic meltdown about company costs and started laying off key staff. When he asked me to consider a paycut I said I couldn't afford to...and since then he's been making little remarks about how he could do X, Y and Z by himself (i.e it's "easy" and doesn't need me as a specialist), and comments to others that he "doesn't know what I do all day".

So right now I am seething with fury and resentment and I will never feel the same about him again.

like but don’t respect. Isn’t great at her job but also has no time management skills and drops so many plates it is starting to crush our team.

I really liked my last one, and the one before her. Both of them very hands-off, let me get on with it, commended me on work well done.

Zero complaints from me about either of them.

I both liked and respected my previous manager, I neither like or respect my present one.

My manager is an amazing supportive man- he's actually two years younger than me but it got less weird over time. The manager I had before this one was awful so you can imagine the loyalty I feel to the current job!

No neither. I haven’t got a clue how she got her job to be honest.

Yes my LM is super supportive and always has my back.

Any managers sat here wondering if any of these comments are about you?! 🤣

I changed jobs recently.
my last job I liked (sometimes) but did not professionally respect my manager because she had blagged her way into a job that she was unable to do properly making life hard for everybody.
My current manager I both like and respect. She has a wealth of knowledge and is very kind with it.

Yes I do. She's been exceptionally kind to me during my year of immobility waiting for surgery and arranged for me to work from home and has completely supported me throughout. She rings me every week to check Im OK. I was terrified I'd get the sack but it hasn't happened.
I have no complaints at all.

I left my last employer largely because my LM was inexperienced, insecure, a micromanager, disinterested in her team's progress, was threatened by other people's ideas and capabilities. I was late-40s, experienced, good at my job. She wore me out.
Current LM is brilliant - she's smart, capable, experienced, hands off but supportive when needed, supports autonomy and embraces new ideas and ways of working. We're both in our 50s, she's a joy.

I LOVE my manager

Not currently but I have in the past and I miss that greatly. It makes such a difference.