To ask if you actually like or respect your manager?

[ThatSharpPombear]

Because I don’t. At all.

Mine is full of it - constantly spinning things, avoiding accountability and making empty promises. I’ve tried to stay professional but I’m finding it harder to take her seriously and it’s affecting how I feel about my job overall. I’m already looking into new roles but just wondered how common is it to just not respect your manager?

AIBU to think it’s more normal than people admit?

I absolutely love mine!

She's a strong hardworking woman and a great leader, but she has a lot of empathy and always goes the extra mile to help staff with lots of things.

Yes and no. Professionally competent. Takes on further management on our behalf (loves argy bargy). But can be a complete arse on a personal level. Champion gas lighter when caught out on his many inconsistanties.

But putting up with pains in the arse goes along with the concept of working, in my head. They pay me to do stuff that I otherwise wouldn't choose to do with my time. I agree to do the job that is most agreeable to me (I even enjoy it most of the time, when time spent with my manager, when he is in dick-head mode, is minimal).

Yes to both. My job is both technically challenging and safety critical. It is the diametric opposite of a bullshit fake-it-till-you-make-it sales or marketing role. My manager did the job herself for many years which gives her both expertise & credibility. She is always available for advice, but doesn’t try to micromanage. And she’s a very nice person.

I really like mine and I respect her too

New one (I'm still on probation) seems very hands off, almost too hands off. She's not great at communication - I often feel like I don't know what's going on, who is meant to be in (I mean, it's nice to know that someone has phoned in sick and won't be here - I can check planned leave.) But she can be very supportive with ideas and training and volunteering for stuff.

As I say, it's a new job. Left the previous one after 5 months, because although he was mostly okay as a person, he turned out to be a micromanager. I think a lot of it was down to inexperience, and I think if he gets more support, he could turn out okay. Just not with me.

Previous one to that I did like and respect. His predecessor- we got on okay, but I struggled to really respect him at times. His manager was a complete bullying arsehole, who didn't like me standing up to him, and my manager got it in the neck as a result, caught in the middle between us. He shouldn't have been allowed anywhere near managing people. He was eventually made redundant and despite having worked with some people for over 20 years, he pretty much vanished off the face of the earth.

It's much easier when you like and respect your manager.

No. For multiple reasons.

I like and respect my Manager, but I think she is a bit of an acquired taste. She knows what she wants, she has high standards and doesn't accept any bullshit. Work hard, follow policy and do a good job and she's great. But get on the wrong side of her and you'll know about it. That said, she is always professional and really knows her shit.

My previous manager was also excellent. I had an interim manager who was awful, micromanages and no people skills. He has a heck of a lot of knowledge, but he has a way of talking down to people.

I hope my team think of me as a good manager. I try to not micromanage and I'm happy to help and I've done their job so know what it's like. But I also have to answer to our directors and so I need to make sure the team are doing things right, which can mean picking out minor errors in their work which effects our figures.

Absolutely this. My company is full of managers who were promoted because they were good at the hands on bit of our work but have absolutely zero experience in managing people.
My manager did fall into this category but she has put herself through various training in people management which has made a huge difference.
The others don’t seem at all interested in anything like that but thankfully I don’t work for them.