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To report this as benefit fraud

517 replies

ClareClareClareClare · 15/04/2025 15:08

A relative is claiming benefits, can’t work due to health but is one of those who is always complaining about something wrong with her but is always able to do the things she wants to do. Can holiday abroad, always down the gym, etc. When she was working she was always making complaints against employers- one of life’s victims.

She sold a property a couple of years ago and has squirrelled about £40k away through investments. I think has got her mother to do this for her.

I’m so fed up of seeing people like her take the piss. I 100% support a welfare system and it really pisses me off to see it abused like this. And meanwhile we are working our arses off and not able to afford the foreign travel and gym memberships.

I’m so tempted to report her secret savings to DWP.

OP posts:
Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 18:30

BuffetTheDietSlayer · 15/04/2025 18:25

Are you ever going to explain your ableist comments?

Anyway, can you explain how any of my comments were ableist

Certain people on MN always accuse everyone who disagrees with them on topics like this as ableists when they are far from it

ClareClareClareClare · 15/04/2025 18:30

I said UC, and possibly PIP.

OP posts:
BuffetTheDietSlayer · 15/04/2025 18:31

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 18:27

How dare you accuse me of being an ableist, I am far from it

Stating that going to the gym and going holiday is suspicious behaviour for disabled people, is ableist.

If it isn’t, can you explain why? I’m willing to listen.

ShanghaiDiva · 15/04/2025 18:31

ClareClareClareClare · 15/04/2025 18:29

Ffs she’s on UC.

And according to your post at 17.34 possible pip..
hence the comments people have made about non means tested benefits.so based on YOUR comment hardly surprising that posters have been taking about pip.

housethatbuiltme · 15/04/2025 18:32

Not all benefits have anything to do with savings, if health is her key issue there will be medical professionals involved and they often aren't income/savings related.

Its also completely ignorant to see people on their best day and just assume thats their absolute baseline.

The higher the benefits go the more they are investigated, multiple people with far more info (like communication with drs, referrals, test results and nurse assessments etc...) than you will have collectively decided what she is entitled to.

Why you think you magically know better than the people with that info is strange.

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 18:32

BlessedBeTheGroot · 15/04/2025 18:30

I am a "genuine" claimant, and get riled up because we all get tarred with the same knackered looking brush.
"Oh, you went to Costa, so you obviously don't have health issues so get a fucking job".

To be fair if you are on a limited income it is not very wise to be spending money in Costa / Starbucks / Pret

Notposting · 15/04/2025 18:32

ClareClareClareClare · 15/04/2025 18:26

If you want to talk about stupidity, we could scroll on back to where I said she is claiming UC and the multiple, multiple posts from subsequent people going on and on and on about non means tested benefits.

You took a long time to confirm that. Plus you mentioned PIP.

ClareClareClareClare · 15/04/2025 18:33

ShanghaiDiva · 15/04/2025 18:31

And according to your post at 17.34 possible pip..
hence the comments people have made about non means tested benefits.so based on YOUR comment hardly surprising that posters have been taking about pip.

Edited

Yes….
DEFINITELY UC
maybe PIP.
The Pip is irrelevant- if she’s claiming the UC fraudulently.

OP posts:
CleaningAngel · 15/04/2025 18:34

Icanthinkformyselfthanks · 15/04/2025 15:15

Wouldn’t the authorities be able to investigate where the money came from initially?

Yes they can and exactly when it was removed from her account. I think the limit on savings to claim benefits it 16k

BlessedBeTheGroot · 15/04/2025 18:34

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 18:32

To be fair if you are on a limited income it is not very wise to be spending money in Costa / Starbucks / Pret

My partner pays (and we just have tea anyway).
I can go where and spend my money how I want though.
And if OP's relative chooses to do that on holidays and gym, then so be it.

ShanghaiDiva · 15/04/2025 18:34

ClareClareClareClare · 15/04/2025 18:33

Yes….
DEFINITELY UC
maybe PIP.
The Pip is irrelevant- if she’s claiming the UC fraudulently.

You don’t seem so sure of your facts now? I imagine with regard to fraudulent claims all of the information is relevant, no?

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 18:34

BuffetTheDietSlayer · 15/04/2025 18:31

Stating that going to the gym and going holiday is suspicious behaviour for disabled people, is ableist.

If it isn’t, can you explain why? I’m willing to listen.

I said no such thing, stop accusing me of being an ableist, you are now trying to twist things to suit yourself

Where did I say ‘that going to the gym and going holiday is suspicious behaviour for disabled people’

that is something that you said

Notposting · 15/04/2025 18:35

ClareClareClareClare · 15/04/2025 18:33

Yes….
DEFINITELY UC
maybe PIP.
The Pip is irrelevant- if she’s claiming the UC fraudulently.

If you had made this clear in your opening post, you might have had a different response. Why did you only decide to mention it once the thread had been going for a couple of hours and after you had made around a couple of dozen previous posts?

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 18:35

BlessedBeTheGroot · 15/04/2025 18:34

My partner pays (and we just have tea anyway).
I can go where and spend my money how I want though.
And if OP's relative chooses to do that on holidays and gym, then so be it.

Of course you can

ClareClareClareClare · 15/04/2025 18:36

CleaningAngel · 15/04/2025 18:34

Yes they can and exactly when it was removed from her account. I think the limit on savings to claim benefits it 16k

Yes.
ther do this when people go in to care and money shifted out to children within the recent years. You can’t just make it disappear to avoid tax/becoming eligible for welfare, etc.

I imagine a few bums on this thread are nipping as they don’t seem to realise it and getting very defensive about it.

Maybe they are worried about someone “jealous little beak” revealing their fraud.

OP posts:
Anothercoat · 15/04/2025 18:37

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 18:34

I said no such thing, stop accusing me of being an ableist, you are now trying to twist things to suit yourself

Where did I say ‘that going to the gym and going holiday is suspicious behaviour for disabled people’

that is something that you said

Nope, YOU said the gym was suspicious behaviour.

And you’ve just opined now that people on limited income, as apparently the disabled should and must be, shouldn’t be spending in coffee shops.

Ableism.

BuffetTheDietSlayer · 15/04/2025 18:38

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 18:34

I said no such thing, stop accusing me of being an ableist, you are now trying to twist things to suit yourself

Where did I say ‘that going to the gym and going holiday is suspicious behaviour for disabled people’

that is something that you said

In response to being asked what behaviour of the relative is suspicious you responded

“spends a lot of time at the gym
The OP knows her well so would have mentioned if she had some Physical disability
No harm in reporting suspicious behaviour, it can be investigated and if she is actually entitled the all is fine”

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 18:38

Anothercoat · 15/04/2025 18:37

Nope, YOU said the gym was suspicious behaviour.

And you’ve just opined now that people on limited income, as apparently the disabled should and must be, shouldn’t be spending in coffee shops.

Ableism.

I never said that a disabled person going to the gym or on holidays was suspicious behaviour which was what you accused me of saying

ClareClareClareClare · 15/04/2025 18:39

ShanghaiDiva · 15/04/2025 18:34

You don’t seem so sure of your facts now? I imagine with regard to fraudulent claims all of the information is relevant, no?

No. Because the fraud only applies to the UC.
As you yourself have said multiple times.

OP posts:
TimeToMixItUp3 · 15/04/2025 18:39

She will have just listed it as repaying loads, everything can be excused. I wouldn't bother.

Anothercoat · 15/04/2025 18:39

Hastentoadd · 15/04/2025 18:38

I never said that a disabled person going to the gym or on holidays was suspicious behaviour which was what you accused me of saying

See @BuffetTheDietSlayer post above this one.

Notposting · 15/04/2025 18:39

ClareClareClareClare · 15/04/2025 18:36

Yes.
ther do this when people go in to care and money shifted out to children within the recent years. You can’t just make it disappear to avoid tax/becoming eligible for welfare, etc.

I imagine a few bums on this thread are nipping as they don’t seem to realise it and getting very defensive about it.

Maybe they are worried about someone “jealous little beak” revealing their fraud.

This is such a common tactic employed by benefit bashers on MN. Accuse anyone who challenges them of being benefit fraudsters.

ShanghaiDiva · 15/04/2025 18:39

ClareClareClareClare · 15/04/2025 18:36

Yes.
ther do this when people go in to care and money shifted out to children within the recent years. You can’t just make it disappear to avoid tax/becoming eligible for welfare, etc.

I imagine a few bums on this thread are nipping as they don’t seem to realise it and getting very defensive about it.

Maybe they are worried about someone “jealous little beak” revealing their fraud.

So we have moved on from posters condoning benefit fraud to posters are now all on the fiddle themselves.

ClareClareClareClare · 15/04/2025 18:41

If you actively argue against reporting fraud like some of the posts on here that’s quite questionable isn’t it?
not so much the people who have really discussed it, but the people who just pop up and say “mind your own business”.

OP posts:
ShanghaiDiva · 15/04/2025 18:41

ClareClareClareClare · 15/04/2025 18:39

No. Because the fraud only applies to the UC.
As you yourself have said multiple times.

I don’t believe I have made any comment about universal credit…