MIL buying baby cringey clothing

[Copenhagener]

A very short AIBU.

I had my first baby last year. My MIL wants to buy baby clothing - I’m fine with that.

Instead of buying baby items we’ve said we like or need, she keeps buying baby clothing with pointed and cringey ‘grandma knows best’ slogans that I find so embarrassing to dress her in - so I don’t.

See picture below for an example: ‘Grandma: a mother without rules!’

There has also been: ‘grandma’s best friend’ ‘pass me to grandma’ ‘’if mommy says no, ask grandma!’ ‘call grandma: she always knows what to do!’ Etc. I have no idea where she finds this nonsense. She’s deliberately going out of her way to buy them. A lot are clearly low-quality rubbish from the internet.

She keeps asking why baby isn’t wearing said clothing and going on and on about how funny these outfits are when I see her.

AIBU to not dress baby in these outfits / ask her to cut it out?

It’s not her first grandchild and up until now, I thought we had a good relationship, but now I feel a bit irritated with her.

I also can’t stand my MIL and I think the clothes she’s got you are cheap and tacky.
My mil got my few day old baby boy a leather jacket and looked surprised that I didn’t want him to wear it 🙄

Oh gosh that made me laugh out loud! I’m imagining one of those babies that has loads of thick dark hair, wearing a leather jacket and looking like the Fonze!

😂 What made it worse is she had got herself a matching one! So cringe

Buy some which say same kinds of slogans but mummy instead of grandma. Have her wear these in MILs presence. If she complains say awww it’s just funny etc etc. Then say if she really doesn’t like it you’ll have a no slogans at all moratorium. She can’t complain then. Use reverse psychology in her.

Wow, honestly, after this and the previous update it's sounding less and less like she's an overexcited new grandma and more like an absolute "me me me I know best I'm no. 1" nightmare.

I'm that grandmother.... I don't go out of my way but if I saw a grandma slogan I'd probably get.. Not to wind the mum up etc just because i find it lovely, sweet, endearing, funny....

See, you'd probably say that about my MIL. Yesterday she looked after my now 2yr old from 10am-5pm. Fed her a couple bakedbeans and a spoonful of egg off her plate when they went out for brunch at 11am... Then didn't feed her for the rest of the day (food was left plated in the fridge for ease, or lots of easy options to pick from) because "when I have brunch I just have a sandwich or something small at around 7pm... Noone needs to eat more than that"

It's really not. It's tacky!

Stop my MIL wanted to buy our baby 'Xs first Christmas' and 'tomorrow I will be 1' pj's 🫠🤢 I nearly died 😂

I wish my MIL was here to buy tacky Grandma babygrows for my daughters. Your so blessed to have her, theres a huge piece missing in our lives without mine. Yes, its annoying but she loves her grandchild. Take a pic or say it doesnt fit but please dont make a scene.

I hope you kept the disintegrated one to show her. Failing that, get your child a couple of nice cardigans, to cover up the fronts of the outfits, and make sure he stains them irretrievably with orange juice and tomato juice.

My daughter doesn't like slogans either, our granddaughter is nearly one now, and I did buy 'my grandads the best and 'my nanny is the best nanny in the world EVER' .. and asked her if I could have ONE photo of her in them. She obliged, and printed photos for us, then politely gave the ourfits back to us for us to keep. I am fine with this because it's my daughters choice, but she also understood what it meant for us to have that one pic too. Put it on your child, take a pic, then take it off again. That's all she wants is a momento to last forever. It's not going to do baby or you no harm, an it doesn't matter if its 5th or 1st grandchild. She loves them all the same 😊

You sound like a very sweet and respectful grandmother. I wouldn’t have minded that situation.

Sadly, I’m not sure that this is the case here - please do take a look at my follow up replies.

Do you really think you're the best grandma in the world ever and need this written down on an outfit your grandchild is wearing in a photo to remind yourself?

Are you quite insecure? Not being rude, just find this extremely bizarre and self-centered.

Oh but i AM the best grandma in the world ... EVER 🤣🤣 Must be a grandma thing 🤣

I guess it's each to their own. I don't think I'm insecure ... heck ... am I?
Oh God... Here's me thinking I'm the best Nanny and now .... now I'm insecure that there might be another child with a Nanny out there wearing the same vest as the one I got my granddaughter... oh sh*t ... im off to buy an exclusive one with a pic of me .. that way people will know it's me and then I won't feel so insecure ....
Phew, I feel so much better now 😀 thank u so much for pointing that out.

So the pretty little outfits in Next or M&S, and all the bigger shops (not temu) are tacky ...

What about the ones like 'big brother/sister' .. or i love my mummy/daddy, are they tacky too, or is it just the granny/grandad ones?

Well yes, they are pretty tacky. Sorry.

Slogans are tacky.

Tacky.

Short update. Partner asked MIL to stop buying baby clothing full stop - simply said we have enough so to not hurt her feelings.

She came over for Easter today. Baby did not wear any of the MIL is GOAT attire. She pretty much ignored me and spent the time telling my baby (and dog, who fortunately doesn’t speak person) that she’s the best grandma in the world. Didn’t offer to help with anything, clear up, or do anything useful with baby - just wanted to be holding her the whole time.

But on the plus side, no more clothes! So, I’ll take that as a success.

I’m still baffled as to how quickly her attitude towards me changed the moment I had baby.

Thanks all and happy Easter from baby and me!