What bile? You're in a thread arguing a point of view. When posters claim you're being lazy, hypocritical, ignorant or indifferent to women's rights, they are referring solely to your actions on this thread. To the opinions you've expressed here and the stances you've taken. You do . . . understand that? It's perfectly possible for an argument to be hypocritical in nature. It's perfectly possible for a poster to be ignorant of the topic they're talking about. You're taking things personally when they were never intended to be so. These aren't personal insults, they're just the cut and thrust of debate.
I can tell you don't understand that. To you, everyone who argues against your point isn't engaging, and everyone who calls out the weakness of your argument is attacking you. This is unfortunate, as it makes it hard to have any kind of conversation with you.
Oh, and for what it's worth . . . being an American is not an insult. Or being half-American, or being an American with UK citizenship, or anything else. I did see your reply upthread, but I found your "people can be more than their passports!" diatribe to be strange and childish, so I didn't respond to it. As should have been obvious: a poster being American on Mumsnet is not a bad thing. But it is going to limit their understanding of British culture. If an American insists something is a big deal and a threat to British women, and British women come back in droves to say it isn't, then it's just respectful to listen.
Ironically, my suspicious "Is this an American trying to influence British women?" attitude is an example of why American 'pressure groups' don't gain much traction over here. We've got a fine-tuned radar, and we look for inconsistencies in what's being presented to us. You seemed inconsistent to me, so I challenged you. This is what you claim to want, so even if it's annoying, you should be happy my critical thinking is switched on. (But, of course, you're not.)
The AIBU votes . . . they were mostly from earlier in the thread, before posters had begun to rebut your arguments. It's also possible they voted "YANBU to not want the UK to be like America". Not "YANBU to uncritically swallow this story in the Guardian". There's no way to ask them.
What is a woman? I will not engage in a gender critical debate. Not here. Not now. Certainly not with you.
Not here, not now, not ever, not with anyone.
Be honest. You are terrified of this debate and know you have no good answers. If you disliked me so much, you'd be only too happy to prove me wrong. You can't, so you're pretending to take the high ground. It fools no-one.
There is a biological definition (chromosomes) of the sexes but I will not define what a woman or a man is anymore than I feel up to defining what makes us human. We are more than our biology, we are beings with complex identities.
And there it is. Half-baked guff implying that observing someone's sex can somehow strip them of their humanity.
Being male or female doesn't make anyone less human, or any less of a complex individual. As I expected, your argument for why woman should be a genderfeeling instead of a material sex, is ridiculous.