To not reply/congratulate friend?

[AllThaJazzz]

University friend of 15 years.

I tried to keep in touch but basically, the friendship fizzled, as happens! No hard feelings.

She is very annoyed/upset that I haven't said congratulations that she has recently had a baby.

Now, she didn't reply when my mother died, when I moved or when I got married.

AIBU to not go out my way to say congrats when she hasn't given me the time of day for years?!

That’s awful. I would respond with “I don’t congratulate former friends who can’t even be bothered to send condolences on my mums death or respond to a wedding invite let alone send congratulations. Our friendship is very obviously done so why should I congratulate you?”

There you go. Actually not a friend at all. You’re done here.

Oh, that's AWFUL. Makes me ragey, because THEY wouldn't like being treated like that after they'd lost a parent. And like they're immune! My former bestie did the same thing, and we'd been friends since primary school. I hope that making herself comfortable and putting herself first was worth losing decades of friendship.

All people who have done this to someone close who is bereaved, I hope they experience the same thing when it's their turn.

Send her a rocket, OP. She deserves it. You've nothing to lose - this person is no friend.

But the OP didn't, because she had noticed no congratulations towards her.

I don’t get it. How does that mean OP or anyone in that situation hadn’t forgot their friend /former friend was still in her contacts?

If someone ignores me, I may notice and then subsequently lose touch with them but I don’t necessarily immediately think of deleting their contact details.

Erm I’d want to text and say ‘the RSVP to our wedding (whenever it was!) must have got lost in the post’!

but I’d probably just ignore her.