AIBU to take child with chicken pox to an outside event today?

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Husband has one opinion and I have another. WWYD?

Day 5 of chicken pox for oldest child.
I have 2 other younger children with no signs as yet. But neither have had in the past so probably will get it.

Some scabs starting to form but also still some fresh spots.

Today is booked to go to an outside running event (for kids) this afternoon and we have paid £60 total for this with all children. It was booked mainly for the oldest one who loves to run, but the younger ones will also come and enjoy so I had to buy tickets for all. Outside run with parents, refreshments, few little stalls etc.

Unfortunately oldest one knows about event and has been excited all week - told him about it 2 days before CP started so didn't know to withhold the info.

Would you still take him? Planning on going just for the run, will try to avoid being too close to others. Don't know any other children / parents going so not going to be "chit chatting". Won't go to the stalls / mix and mingle. Will do run then leave.

Husband has one opinion and I have another. WWYD?

You don’t go. I don’t see why it’s up for discussion

No you can't take the one with active chicken pox to a crowded event, don't be daft.

Too late now, but why didn't you get them vaccinated?

Chicken pox can be dangerous for some people, as I'm sure you know. I don't know if being outside is any kind of mitigating factor? If it's not, and there's a chance they could pass it on, I wouldn't go.

No.
Your younger children are probably at the height on infectiousness
Your older child is still recovering

No you can’t take the eldest child! It’s very disappointing and a waste of money but it’s not fair. You don’t know the health of the people around you, you could be playing Russian roulette with people’s health, people with cancers, pregnant mums…….

Of course he can’t go. He’s still contagious if he has fresh spots that haven’t scabbed.

You don’t go.

Event with young children will almost definitely have at least one pregnant woman there. Not fair to risk their health.

You don’t go. And it would be so selfish if you did IMO.

YABVU.

UK Children aren’t vaccinated against chicken pox. OP shouldn’t go to the event because there might be young toddlers and babies there.

One person’s mild chicken pox, another person’s shingles and death.

Sorry you can’t go. Even with an outside event you’ll be close to other people , touching things etc and it’s not fair to expose other people to the chickenpox virus. It can be very dangerous for immunosuppressed people / pregnant people etc.
missing stuff sucks but it’s part of childhood illnesses. I know people who have had to miss bigger things because of chicken pox - birthday parties / holidays etc.
Try and make a stay at home day fun with something you wouldn’t normally do ?

Depends where OP is. We’re not offered the vaccination in the UK, so you’d have to pay a lot of money to go private.

Why on earth would you even consider putting other people at risk like that?

Can one parent take the other two? Sucks though

Quite obviously this is an absolute no

Nope I wouldn't go. I get what you're saying about not knowing people but kids that age may well end up coming up close to each other and chatting etc. what are you going to do then? Grab him and move him away?

You can't catch shingles from CP. It's the other way round.

It would be utterly antisocial to go.

No you shouldn't go. Assuming the one with CP is the one who is running, I think it would be better if they didn't exert themselves but used their energy to heal and recuperate. Though I do remember when mine had CP, apart from maybe the first day, their energy levels were unaffected.

But no, you are going to have to miss it, I think.

You are allowed to be the parent and disappoint your child; explain it’s so other children don’t get sick! CP can be so dangerous for pregnant women and immunocompromised people.

Why is this even a question?

You know CP can kill right?!

Keep the child at home FGS!

YABVVVVVVVVVVU to even ask!

1/3 to 1/4 people who catch CP develop shingles later on in life I think is what they mean

I’ll be the one to go against the flow here. If you are able to distance from people and stand as a group well away from any spectators, then I can’t see who could catch it in an outside environment.

i did the school run with a poxy child in the buggy with a rain cover on. Didn’t have any choice, as no one to do it for me. No village here unfortunately. So we left the house because we had to.

i suppose the issue starts when someone needs the loo etc…