AIBU to take child with chicken pox to an outside event today?

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Husband has one opinion and I have another. WWYD?

Day 5 of chicken pox for oldest child.
I have 2 other younger children with no signs as yet. But neither have had in the past so probably will get it.

Some scabs starting to form but also still some fresh spots.

Today is booked to go to an outside running event (for kids) this afternoon and we have paid £60 total for this with all children. It was booked mainly for the oldest one who loves to run, but the younger ones will also come and enjoy so I had to buy tickets for all. Outside run with parents, refreshments, few little stalls etc.

Unfortunately oldest one knows about event and has been excited all week - told him about it 2 days before CP started so didn't know to withhold the info.

Would you still take him? Planning on going just for the run, will try to avoid being too close to others. Don't know any other children / parents going so not going to be "chit chatting". Won't go to the stalls / mix and mingle. Will do run then leave.

Husband has one opinion and I have another. WWYD?

Absolutely not. You stay home.

Has he understood what a monumentally fucking selfish thing to do that would be?

All of that is nonsense and has no scientific basis for anything.

Absolutely not!

No of course you don't go. The medical risk to others is a main reason,. It's also selfish to put others' Easter holiday plans at risk.

Absolutely you shouldn't go and please vaccinate your younger children, even after exposure it's not too late.

Apart from contagion you really don’t want a child with an active viral infection physically exerting themselves.

Well, thank you for your and asked for opinion.

But no, it's not nonsense. I was there I was on the ward I was watching this little girl deteriorate I heard the nurses and doctors talk about it. I spent hours talking with the mother as we were both there worrying about my godson and her daughter.

We kept in touch with them for a couple of years afterwards, then gradually lost contact as you do. At the point, we lost contact she was just starting to stand in a frame, she had a tiny little bit of use of her arms/hands but not much and have not regained any of speech.

Call me a liar all you like, but I was there and you were not

That doesn't even make any logical sense.
What a load of rubbish.

No you don’t go. You stay at home

People usually think we don’t matter because we are all fine to just get unwell, stay home forever and not work and live on our £££ PIP
also that it’s like a temporary thing and we should just take some vitamins it’s not that serious
(all stuff I’ve heard)

Taking them would be a dick move

My DH has had chicken pox multiple times and it gets worse each time. The last time, he had no rash and was just very ill without us realising what it was. We only found out from a lumbar puncture because he developed meningitis on top/because of it. I dread him getting it again and despair of people who go out knowing they are infectious.

I vaccinated my two against chicken pox at a young age. Balanced the cost of nursery fees Vs the jabs. Plus you can now get a shingles jab when you are older. Being pregnant going outside sometimes terrifies me! I have no rubella immunity as I burn through my vaccinations so quickly. So many selfish parents wouldn't think twice about it as their needs and wants are more important. Plus the rise in kids missing vaccinations 😔. Hope your DH is shown this thread!

I don’t need to be there to have a basic understanding of how science works. Being vaccinated even after exposure does not make pox worse. You aren’t being attacked twice. A liar maybe not but you definitely don’t understand immunology or how disease works.

No way. There could be babies there that could die from a chickenpox or a pregnant woman who hasn’t had it/been vaccinated (I was once one of them). Keep to yourself until the spots have crusted over. Chicken pox is a highly infectious disease transmitted through coughing and sneezing. Even if you’re not stopping to chat you cannot stop your children coughing, sneezing and touching things!

What a load of old shite 🤣

bUT wE paid £60 aND DC want tO gO

@Riaanna I can't remember is chicken pox a live vaccine? I know certain vaccines operate in different ways.

It's not actually that rare and those who suffer from some people behaving like a selfish twats can be extensive. People use the "you can only catch it once" malarkey to excuse selfish behaviour. My point was that 'excuse' is false. Just like the other misinformed person on this thread who thought id you'd had a vaccination or caught chicken pox you were protected for life, so why shouldn't you go about your business as usual when infected. No thought to the fact you can get it more than once, that no vaccination provides complete protection, that the effectiveness wanes with time or that any protection is completely removed for the 1 in 2 of us who will get cancer, not to mention those with other conditions that cause them to be immunocompromised.

Because it’s not cheap? It’s £150 per vaccine which if you have multiple children is a lot

Absolutely not. My child had an operation last week that he had been waiting 3.5 years for and had been cancelled 4 times. I would have been livid if it had to be cancelled again due to someone's selfishness.

Or adults who didn't catch it in childhood.

I got chicken pox when I was 37. I was very ill, off work for 3 weeks and it was a lot longer before I felt anything like fully recovered.

I then had several attacks of shingles over the next 10-15 years, which was bloody painful.

How is the child with pox going to run and stay away from the other children running though? And even if just the other 2 run they v likely are infectious themselves at this point given its day 5 since siblings spots appeared. They may not develop CP but given the oldest obviously can't go I don't see the point in risking bringing the other 2.
Plus it's likely to be v obvious to people that your child has chicken pox OP, I think you are leaving them and yourself open to very direct questions and a negative atmosphere that ll spoil the day aside from the risks

Rude?
People have been moderate.
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