Blue badge police again

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Name changes for this as I do every so often.
I have blue badge but my disability is not visible.
For the 3rs time in 2 weeks I have been challenged about not looking disabled and I am fed up of explaining myself

yesterday got out the car and this man came charging towards me shouting “oi you don’t have a blue badge”. I sighed and said “yes I do”. He then said “where did you nick that from?”
I said “I didn’t nick it from anyone I got it off eBay”
He then looked at me and said “oh right and walked off”
as if that was then ok!!!!
or it could be my built like a brick shithouse husband opened his door and got out the drivers seat.

I know I should not have said the eBay comment but I am fed up of explaining myself.

if anyone has any good comebacks please let me know

I took the wind out of someone's sails once by saying "you're the third person in so many days to accuse me of not being disabled" (I've never been accused before.. just had dirty looks but one week I just had loads of it for some reason!) and she literally didn't know what to say, stuttered, apologised and left. I don't think it would work with everyone (she was being quite calm about it and I just said it in an exasperated tone) but it definitely worked in that instance.

I honestly don't understand the mindset of people who take a few minutes out their day to go and police other people's BB use. It is not their job.

Yes... because that's what I said...

No. I travelled in a van with my child in a carseat. I then transferred my child from the car seat into the wrap and did my coat up over her, and started to walk away from the van.

They obviously did not see any of this. They saw what was seemly two people without a child, walking away from a van.

Clearly you are another person that makes judgements without facts. I should find this dude and hook you up. You'd get on great.

Oh my dear, I'm so sorry. There are some MASSIVE sh*ts around. I do hope you get good care and be well.

I usually say something about being happy to discuss this with them once they’ve shown me their medical qualifications or certificate of general practitioners…

I’ve just recently found out that I am eligible for a blue badge. I’ll be armed with some come backs now if any nosey pricks get their knickers in a twist at me.

not parking but I’ve been challenged coming out of a disabled toilet with my disabled son. He is physically mobile so I always get looks but even if he wasn’t too old to go in the woman’s toilet with me there isn’t space in normal size cubicle to clean him up when he’s soiled himself. I wish people wouldn’t challenge what they don’t understand as it upset his so much and I wasn’t going to explain his disability to a stranger and make it worse.

that said I do know of another mum who uses her dd blue badge to park for free everyday while she goes to work. People do and always will abuse the system and it’s the invisible disabilities who pay the price for it

’It’s none of your business. I have a blue badge, it’s on my windscreen if you feel you need to look, that should be enough for you’.

You don't look like you need glasses but you obviously do!
And for the spectacle wearers
Did you fail your last eye exam?

Parking wardens 😂

I don't know what fucks me off the most - the way I'm looked up and down by the twats or the way they scuttle off when my male DP hoves into view.

Rubbish!

If they base it on their idea of what a disabled person should look like, they should fuck off, simple.

Disabled people don't need able bodied people to police for us. If they were disabled they would know how someone 'looks' has fuck all to do with with it.

I'd also ask for their personal medical information. After all that's what they're asking me for

Thats' as stupid as saying anyone driving a car should accept some do-gooder accusing them of just nicked it. Or anyone using a phone.

No, most people who do this are little bully's who think this is a soft target.

Yes my badge was on display when he clocked it then he said the comment about me nicking it.

none of us are saying we should not have to display our blue badge of course we should or who would know who was parked there because they own a badge or if it was just someone on the off chance they would get away with it.

by all means if no blue badge is displayed challenge away. In face please do but ask nicely in the first instance as it could be a case of forgetting to put it on the dashboard.

Those who don’t get why it’s upsetting to be challenged then think about this and how it would make you feel

so the following is a number of conversations
a person with invisible disabilities might face

The Blue Badge Police-

“oi why do you have a blue badge

Me -“because I have epilepsy and my seizures are uncontrolled and I can just drop and need to get back to the car quickly or get bad if I have an aura that one is coming on” also if I piss myself or injury myself in the shop I want the car near

the Now Card police

“why do you have a bus pass”

Me- well under the rules my driving licence has been taken away due to seizures so I am entitled to one

The concert or venue police

“Why do you get a carer to get in free with you?”

Me- “because I have seizures and need someone with me to help me. Believe me my husband did not want to see Bridget Jones but I could not come on my own, and I need someone who knows my seizure and not just a person I know who wants to actually see Bridget Jones.

the toilet police

“you are not disabled why are you using the accessible toilet?”

Me-“ because there was a queue for the normal ones and I had an aura which means a seizure is coming on which may be small but the fact is I will piss myself if if don’t get to a toilet quick enough”

and then add

The Government
cutting benefits because more of us should work and we cost too much

The media
spreading lie after lie implying we are all on the make or just plain lazy

Daily mail and the sun readers

well I know so many people are getting pip who should not as my cousins, best friends, mums, stepdaughter gets pip and she is fine

or everyone on pip gets a car it’s not fair!!!!

The Nosy

asking why don’t you work and do you want to work

the do gooders

saying well have you tried CBD oil, this therapy, that therapy, positive thinking, meditation, diet change, aloe vera, magic beans, the force, waving your underwear on top of scafell pike while chanting land of hope and glory etc

can you imagine how that all feels and why we don’t want to explain to the whole bloody world

Anyone with a blue badge who actually bothers to explain themselves to a stranger in a car park is BU.

Laugh in their face and tell them to go fuck themselves.

Campaign for places to have more parking wardens?
People with visible disabilities don't get challenged and this shows how deeply ingrained the idea is that "true" disability has to be visible

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You have not bothered to answer the question that I asked though did you? Anyway no need to bother, I think I already know the answer.

This, so very much this.

I haven’t said it’s ok to challenge people. Where did you get the idea I thought it was the thing to do? Please don’t invent something I didn’t say. It’s rude.

Let's face it, most of these B B "policepersons" do not genuinely care about badge fraud. They are bullies, they want To make disabled people feel small. Bullies don't have empathy. Like fuck do they care about fraud.

Nice

Admin were quick on that one. Totally missed the deleted comment