Feel annoyed we can’t go on another holiday this year

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We usually do 2 abroad holidays a year one week each and 3 uk short breaks aswell.
This year we have come away abroad for 11 nights with the idea that if we came longer that would be our abroad holiday this year.
We have our 3 uk breaks booked this year too.
Well it’s nearing the end of our abroad holiday and I’m the type of person who’s always got to have something booked to look forward to (holidays are our thing we don’t spend money on anything else) so I’m now starting to get that holiday blues sad feeling of we are heading home in a few days and where usually we would be back in August we won’t be back until April again next year.

AIBU for thinking that waiting a year after an abroad family holiday is hard? Or do I need a reality check and look forward to our abroad holiday this time next year and we will do 11-14 nights again.

Financially we can afford to go in August this year but hubby works for his parents business and when I broached the subject to his mum that we may do a sneaky week in August she promptly informed me that he didn’t have any holiday days left (in fact he is already over his allowance of holidays with the breaks we’ve got booked in the uk this year)
I said well he can take a weeks unpaid and she said it’s not about the time off we’ve got a business to run and work to do.
So that annoyed me 😂

AIBU?

Fucking hell, I havent had an abroad holiday in ten years 😂

Brilliant 🤣🤣🤣

Wow aren’t you lucky you don’t have bigger things to “cope with” 🙄

I can’t believe you only have 5 holidays a year. It’s even worse that only two of them are international. OP, in your shoes I’d go to DMIL and stand up for you and your DH. You deserve at least 7 holidays a year and none of these domestic destinations. Nowhere less than Dubai AS A MINIMUM!

Holiday.

Ho-li-day.

Yes, I remember this word. It used to mean something, once.

Come on, OP.

It’s a turn of phrase stop being miserable 😂

Didims. Life’s hard isn’t it. I really feel for you only getting to have 4 holidays this year instead of 5. How will you cope? 😭🙃

Yanbu but I wouldn't say it out loud 🤣

It’s not unreasonable to want another holiday. What is unreasonable is to expect the business to cope without your husband and he’s already over his allocated leave. That’s grim. Has he no voice that you need to broach this with his parents. It makes you sound overbearing and him weak. Sometimes you need to respect boundaries, even with family and your husbands employment for me would be a boundary. Presumably he gave you the go ahead to do so but it’s his discussion to have and if there’s no additional leave available then that’s it. Go without him if you want.

Is there any possibility that "hubby" could work remotely for the parents' business? Perhaps you could buy an apartment in Dubai, he could work from there and you could "abroad holiday" maybe 8/9 times a year?.

I agree, you need to max the hols, before you need care in your old age, enjoy, enjoy,enjoy!!

Those of us who can't afford holidays away from the home yearly (let alone multiple times a year) are also disappointed not to have that. It's not because we're not used to go away frequently that we don't miss it or want it 🙄

You’re upset that you can’t have a 5th holiday in one year and you’re genuinely asking if that’s reasonable?

It’s obviously fine to have as many holidays as you want if you can afford it but getting used to it and expecting it or worse feeling entitled to it is a mistake. You never know when circumstances might change and that goes for everyone. Be thankful for the holidays you have.

I'm not convinced the first poster was being serious...

I'd go without him! 😂 Go with the kids or a friend, that's what I do!

I think you’re super lucky that you’ve managed to get him to go away for 11 days at once. My DH works for the family business, he’ll take a week off at Christmas and a week off in Feb but that’s usually it, he may join us for an adhoc day or 2 if I’m away with the children but that’s it.
Maybe you can go away with friends in August so you have something to look forward to?

Yes you are unreasonable.
yes you need a reality check.
i cannot believe you said that to your MIL.

she has every right to be annoyed at you judging by her curt response.

you’re ridiculous.

I would have been far too embarrassed 😳 to post this.
How awful it is for you.
What on earth did you do in the pandemic, picnic on the lawn whilst fantasising about where you should have been.
NHS nurse here, first abroad holiday this year in 17 years- really not the place to post this twaddle.

Totally, you need a serious reality check. Most people are doing well to manage one holiday a year, never mind two. You also have three weekends away, get a grip. Would you expect that much time off if he worked for someone else?

Gosh that sounds hard. Totally unreasonable of his DM to refuse more time off in August eventhough DH has no leave. It's not his business so it's up to them to get make it work. Blimey expecting you to wait a YEAR for another foreign holiday is totally unreasonable! Have you checked his contract- surely there is something in there to ensure he gets what you want to the detriment of running their business?

Did you really think you were charming your MIL when you asked for a ‘sneaky week in August’?

I’m not surprised she said no, it sounds cringey.

I would say YANBU for having post holiday blues and being a bit disappointed that you are not going abroad more frequently, when that is your usual pattern of holidays.
However YABU for insinuating that having 3 more mini breaks is nothing to look forward to.

I've noticed before on MN that some posters don't count a UK break as a holiday and say something like "for me, I need to go abroad" like it's a medical condition rather than a preference. A few Camping holidays (not everyone considers that a holiday either, fair enough) in France was the only time we went abroad for more than 10 years. But it was still a holiday. As was staying in the UK the rest of the time.

boohoo

Ever thought that your MIL is being off with you OP? Or that people are rolling their eyes when you talk? A bit of self awareness could be so enlightening for you

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