Who does these things?

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This is a confession thread and also a mystery solving thread.

There are certain things in life that everyone seems to hate, but I've never ever seen anyone own up to doing, and I would like these people to own up now because I need to know your demographic and why you do them. This is anonymous, you are safe here, tell the truth.

WHO are the people that hang dog poo bags on trees? Who are you and WHY?
WHO are the people that bought all the toilet rolls during covid?

Please add your own answers and your own confessions. Especially the dog poo one because it's everywhere, and yet I never see anyone doing it or owning up to it.

A healthy sense of shame and social responsibility is a good thing, surely. I doubt it will harm them.

Bullies think the same. It’s ok of them to be cruel because they’re putting inferior people right.

It's not bullying to say you disapprove of people leaving dog poo bags in the trees. This is something someone can control . It's not like shaming someone for their weight or hair colour.

It’s Bullying to purposely be unkind to them with the aim of publicly shaming them.

You’re trying to do it here and we aren’t even in a park standing next to discarded poo talking about it 😂

I bulk buy toilet roll due to asd ds he can get through a roll a poo literally! I bought extra during covid so I didn't have to leave the house as often as their dad refused to take them I had to take them shopping with me so reduce the trips reduce the risks buy in bulk 🤷‍♀️

They should be publicly shamed we had a tree cut down in my area because dog walkers refused to stop doing it council got fed up with clearing it so they took the tree dog walkers then began dropping the bags on the ground there was a bin five minutes walk away there is no reason for it none at all

That’s public shaming you should pop down to your local park and do, not log onto mumsnet and do

What about them? In a perceived emergency people, rightly or wrongly, tend to focus on their nearest and dearest.

I might be able to answer.

I don’t do any of these things. But growing up in the 80s/90s my parents always let our dogs shit in the street. My mum thought that she was being really considerate by making the dog do it on the grass instead of right in the middle of the pavement.

They were also guilty of fly tipping. I can remember being taken out late at night with my mum or dad to dump stuff. They dropped litter and fag ends in the street too.

They don’t do these things anymore because they’ve learnt that it’s wrong. Not just that it’s wrong but it’s about being more considerate.

It wasn’t uncommon in those days where we lived and they were badly bought up, selfish and ignorant.

Where have I actually been unkind? I haven't said anything unkind. I'm just saying i think it's grim and don't understand why people do it.

I know about real bullying. I have CPTSD from a childhood where I was abused by the adults who were supposed to care for me and bullied constantly by my peers. There is no comparison between what I went through and saying on an internet forum "I don't like people leaving poo bags in trees, I don't understand why they can't double bag it and take it home." If I can do it, so can they. There is nothing about me that makes me special in this regard. It's just basic human decency .

That's not shaming, she hasn't named names or taken photos of people doing it . If she had, maybe it would make those people stop leaving their poo bags? How is that a bad thing ? If someone was urinating in the streets or spitting everywhere it wouldn't be considered bullying to tell them to stop because it's gross. I don't see how this is different. People are resilient and nobody is so thin skinned that they will wither away from being told "argh that's gross please don't do that. "

WHO are the people who let their feral older children terrorise the babies in the under 3 parts of indoor soft play areas? Never a parent to be seen! It's especially bad when it's a school day? WHO is letting their kid not go to school and then paying for them to go to soft play instead?

What demographic are you op?

I'm a 38yo white, married, female with two children, living in south east England, on a household income of around £45k, educated to degree level, with a very mixed upbringing.

The unfortunate thing about bags biodegrading is the tend to go bottom first so the poo falls out back onto the floor then the rest of the bag kinda hangs there and the birds sometimes use it for nesting material then the leaves cover it for a bit then autumn comes and it's mostly still there until it gets cleaned up

I think you’re taking my post too literally.

1. OP: tell me why you do xyz I want to know
2. poster: I do xyz because abc
3. eveyone: you dirty fucker how dare you. Your parents dragged you up. You’re dragging your own street urchins up. You should be ashamed to live.
4. me: you’re bullying
5. you: no I am publicly shaming! They deserve it

I’m sorry, are you, a smoker, genuinely trying to justify sticking disgusting butts on the floor ( a risk to kids and wildlife) because you don’t want your clothes to smell or deal with the rubbish? You know you already smell right, and it should be your litter your risk. Smokers are horrible, as if second hand carcinogens weren’t enough.

What a perfect illustration of my bullying accusation above.

i haven’t smoked for 20 years.

I never said they were a dirty tucker who had been dragged up. I didn't say anything unkind or cruel. I did say they should be called out on it. It's harmless to call people out on anti social behaviour . It might help them stop doing it .

Yes because my posts were a general response to the sentiment and not all about you

Well I believe in freedom of speech. If people.don't like being shamed for their behaviour maybe they should stop the behaviour . Simples.

😂 freedom of speech. C’mon.

Imagine if you were in the supermarket and someone came up to you and called you a smelly cunt. I’m sure you’d be like “isn’t it lovely to witness their freedom of speech?!”Lovely!

That's not comparable. You are talking about someone being abusive to a specific person. No one is writing anything abusive in this post. People are just saying they don't like certain behaviours . I've not read any unkind or abusive posts in this thread.

To take your example, there's a difference between calling someone a smelly cunt and publicly expressing an opinion that people need to wash, and it's antisocial to be out in public with BO. One is abuse, the other is not.

Who cares? Maybe they don’t like the way your face looks or the way you pick up apples in the fruit section. There is no standard involved in abusing people