I would be an idiot to message right

[OneSparklyExpert]

had a brief relationship with a man which ended in a child being born. He cut me off and when the baby was born I messaged his mum and sister on Facebook. Mum blocked me and sister was initially interested but than went dead due to her mental health (think she had a relationship break down).
Anyway I ended by giving my email address and deleting my Facebook account.
For the last week I've had a desire to message her again. Not sure why.
Bad idea right? I've never meet her btw.

They get to choose who they have a relationship with and they don’t want one with you or the child. You need to accept that.

They do not know you and do not want to know you.

Not what she wrote in her message

So tough for you OP.💐

Thank you

If she wants to contact you she will. She has your details. Why are you so desperate to be friends with his sister?

She said she wanted to love my child.... She replied? So it's not desperate ffs

I would leave her alone. Her silence speaks volumes. She doesn't want any contact with you or the child. Concentrate on the good relationships in your life and making a good life for you and your little one.

You asked for opinions and you have received them.

You don’t need his NI number to make a claim. Open another one asap.

Omfg I've made a claim and they are having trouble finding him and asked for NI.

And?

Yet she wrote opprosite?

You’ve had some unnecessarily tough replies on here OP.

I think that it may be worth sending one more message, if only for the reason that you can demonstrate to your DC that you tried your very best to forge contact when the questions about dad start arriving in years to come.

Thanks. What do I write?

I would start by enquiring politely after her health and then asking if she’d still like to meet.

I don't really want to meet tbh.

Also why health?

Hey girl, how are things? what's your brothers NI number?

Lol

There's a world of difference between a husband leaving a committed relationship and a one night stand not showing any interest.

But still children so don't discount

I agree with the above. You have received harsh judgement. I don’t think there would be anything wrong with sending a gentle message.

Please remember whilst you read these replies that this is ultimately your life, your decision and this is simply just an online forum.

Fgs because it's polite to ask.

What do you want if you don't want to meet?

I'd leave it, they know about the child if they wanted contact they would email you.

Thank. You.

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