IDGAF if it's narcissistic, or cowardly, or cruel. Sometimes it's the only way to get rid of someone who is bringing nothing to your life but negativity, stress, and toxicity. How the hell are you supposed to get rid of someone you don't want in your life anymore? Say 'I'm fucked off with you now, you annoying toxic twat, please never contact me again.' NO-ONE is going to say that. No-one is going to 'use their words' (as a pp said,) to tell someone to fuck off. (Where did this tedious saying spring from?!)🙄
I ghosted a 'friend' around 6-7 years ago. I met her at a hobby group. She was OK for the first few months, but showed her true colours fairly quickly. She was obsessive, possessive, unhinged, rude, obnoxious, spiteful, nosey, intrusive, and catty about other people. She was a Churchgoer too - well she went once every 3 weeks or so, and was very judgy of women having babies at a young age, women having babies out of wedlock, and same sex relationships.
She was gossipy and nasty, and talked about me and DH behind our back(s) too. After a couple of years of tolerating her, I stopped contacting her, and didn't return her calls, and avoided her like the plague. I stopped going to 2 social/hobby groups because she went to them. She hounded me for about 11-12 MONTHS, after I ghosted her, and I was afraid to open my front door. (She lived about half a mile from me/still does!)
I blocked her on the phone but she kept calling from different numbers! (For a good 3-4 months she kept ringing,) and she also popped around occasionally, and asked DH if I was in, or walk past my house on the offchance she could see me. She even rang my fucking WORKplace a few times! (Hoping to catch me answering the phone!)
She told everyone she met that I had cut her loose/ghosted her, and consequently I had 3 other women (who I was also friends with,) stop talking to me. She poisoned them against me. I also had couple of other women ask me CONSTANTLY why I hadn't been in touch. Even 3 or 4 years later, they kept bringing up, because she pecked their head about me every time she saw them. As I said, even 3-4 years later! The woman was obsessed!
I had to 'ghost' her for the sake of my mental health. She was stressing me out and making me a nervous wreck. She is now BFFs with 2 of the women who now don't speak to me anymore. They're welcome to her. And tbh, losing them was a small price to pay to be rid of her. They were never friends in the first place if they believed her bullshit.
If ghosting her makes me cowardly, rude, and narcissistic, then I'll wear that badge. Tell you what though, it's put me off even making any more new friends. I have a couple of old friends from many years ago who live 10 and 15 miles away, and I have a couple of women in my road who I'm quite friendly with/can turn to in an emergency, (and class as friends,) and that's it.
If someone is ghosting you @SnugShaker (and anyone else who thinks it's 'wrong,') there is very likely a good reason for it. People don't do this for nothing.