To think a reception aged child could travel 20 minutes on the bus to school?

[ArtMonkey]

I'm trying to find somewhere less rubbish to live following a break up. Currently live within walking distance of the school but a little house in the nicest area of the city has come up, I'm down to the last four applicants. DS would need to get used to a 20 minute bus ride though. We might be able to switch schools at year 3 but it's not guaranteed and unlikely before then (best school locally and oversubscribed.) He does get travel sick but maybe could get used to it? We basically walk everywhere or get the train now so it's not something he's exposed to often.

Other major downside is that his dad has him overnight one day a week but won't do school drop off. I'm currently in the mindset that he can either step up and do a drop off, visit at the new place (which he travels past on his way home from work) or it's his own fault he misses out.

What do you think - is the move doable?

YABU - stay where you are, it's not fair on DS
YANBU - take the house if it's offered

So wait children being on a bus for 20 min is now a bad thing? Did I read that correctly?

What? Why shouldn't a 4yo spend 20 minutes on a bus?

No when they are 4 years old

Mine were regularly on a bus for 40min into town on a Saturday almost from birth. What awful damage have I done to them?!? Other than all of them as teenagers being pretty good at negotiating public transport which is quite useful...

Good luck, OP!

Dad will need to step up. Not your responsibility. Good luck 🤞

Why not?

I think the best travel option for school is a 5 minute walk (which my children have) but if the school is a 20 minute bus ride away I don't think it's a big deal just less convenient?

Buy him an anti sickness fidget or bracelet. They work as a distraction, forcing them to believe that it works.

He'll get better at travelling.

Why?!

My kids both took the bus to school from P1.

they thought it was fun

Good luck OP!

How frequent are the buses? I had to take mine on a 20min bus ride to go to primary whilst we waited for our first choice. The buses would be roughly twice an hr and we’d always just miss it coming back so that 20 mins was actually a good hr sometimes.

Alone. That was my real reaction.
its fine the first few days.
weeks/ terms ….

I was travel sick as a child (still am) & regularly did 20min bus journeys & was fine - being able to see where your going helps.
Do what's best you both.

But you said it wouldn't be right with or without a parent. Obviously the child is far too young to go alone, but why not with a parent?

For the reason I later stated. it’s never 20 minutes. And there’s the return. A long day for a young child. And it continues week after week.
The question was genuinely asked,I gave my genuine opinion.
I didn’t expect my opinion to be challenged so often.
The OP was gathering opinions.

A teacher told DS that if he sits on a newspaper, it stops the travel sickness, he went on his 40 min bus tour, no sickness, we used a newspaper to travel for about a year, he can manage over an hour now before vomiting.
It is a vestibular disorder that causes motions sickness.