to hate when people who don't know me use the shortened version of my name

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This happens in work ALL the time. Let's say I am called Elizabeth, but Liz to my friends / close work colleagues. I have no problem with being called Liz in conversation, but it's not what I go by in general and I always introduce myself / sign off my emails as Elizabeth, particularly when it's in a work context / introducing myself to clients.

I get so many emails from people I've never interacted with before starting with 'Hi Liz', or someone puts my name down as an action owner as 'Liz Smith'. It really riles me.

Whenever I email someone for the first time, I always use their first/full name as per their email address, then if they reply to me signing off with a using a shorter name I will use that going forward, but I'd never go straight in with 'Hi Jan' when the person's name is Janet.

AIBU?!

And yes I know I have too much time on my hands if this is all I have to worry about.....

It’s rude and presumptuous.
Close friends and family call me by a shortened version but I don’t like it being used by people I don’t know well.

The short version can also be a male name, my full name is (I think) a very nice one and it’s what I’ve used professionally all my life. If someone uses the short version I feel as if they are presuming a closer relationship with me than they actually have.

We lived couple of years in USA and my dhs name is Laurence. They always tried to shorten it to Larry but Dh told them that his name is Laurence. In uk this doesn’t happen at all.

I hate it with a passion😅😅 ive an uncommon name and when people i barely know or dont know use a nickname/shortened version its like “i dont know you like that” and it catches me off guard hearing it. Especially in professional settings where good work friends will call me a shortened version then some random manager whos heard it a few times will do the same.

I had an old manager who would shorten my name. I started ignoring her until she used my actual name. She wasn't a friend, it wasn't my name, it's not even a name I go by.

My family and some friends call me by a nickname. My dear old grandfather used to call me by my shortened name, my boss does it occasionally.

i get this all the time. I always introduce myself as my full name, I always sign off as my full name on emails and even on birthday cards etc. but people will shorten it!! It really annoys me as I will say hi my name is say Amanda and they say hi Mandy ! Like when did I say it was Mandy! I even have corrected my own Mother who then argued that I like the shortened name and when I pointed out that I never call myself that or even write it in cards she argued back that I did!! But I don’t!! It’s so weird! I have joined a pottery class, and another member called me the short name and now everyone does as they think that’s what I prefer! Drives me bloody mad!

I hate it even more when people who DO know me shorten my name. I always introduce myself with my full name, sign my emails etc with my full name and correct people when they shorten it, yet still some people still do it. At work I used to make my feelings on the matter crystal clear and people seldom did it more than once, but DH's extended family just do not get it and I've had to learn to grin and bear it. After 35 years I don't think the message is getting through and for the sake of harmony I can't be quite as forceful about it as I would be with other people. I've learned to let it float over my head most of the time but I still hate it. The shortened version of my name is really ugly.

I have a one syllable name that can't be shortened. So people lengthen it. They improvise around it. They mess it about. I tell them not to. They grin and say, 'Oh, come on - it's just funny."

Then they wake up in a closed crate with angry rats.

I have a name where this is inescapable.

And it doesn’t bother me at all because life’s too short.

Me too. Say I'm called Elizabeth, but generally call myself Lizzy, I hate it when people who are not friends call me Liz. It really grates.

I hate, hate it when people do this. Whether it's a call to a utility company or a general enquiry.

You give your full name, the other person decides its okay to shorten it to whatever they fancy.

If I'm asked if it's okay if said person can call me by a shortened version of my name, I always say no. That only close friends call me that and they are not my friend.

It's rude and disrespectful imo and I get irrationally annoyed by it.

I have the same problem except I don't like anyone calling me the shortened version.
Once had a fucking DPD guy call it me, he got told in no uncertain terms how rude and over familiar it was, twat.

DS (23) is Joseph. When people who.dont know him call him Joe,he just replies with " seph. My name is Jo-seph".
It's funny that his friends do it now do. He was out with a group of them a while ago and a new chap was being introduced to the group and said : hi,Joe,nice to.meet you" and the whole group automatically chorused " Seph!"

It's not the same but my name is spelt one of 2 ways. My spelling is the more unusual spelling but it is in no way an unusual name. Despite me telling colleagues repeatedly they all persist in misspelling it. Even when I sign off an email and remind them verbally. I've even received cards and personalised presents with the incorrect spelling. I don't feel like it's me it's referring to when I see the incorrect spelling used, if that makes sense.

I really hate it when my toddlers name is shortened and particularly to a name I don't like - let's say her name is Kathryn- I can tolerate 'kat' but I can't stand 'katie' my in laws refer to her as Kitty cat for example. No. Do not make a name. Her name is no more Katie than it is Susan - KATHRYN.

I get this sometimes too and I hate it.

I'd understand if you didn't want Anyone to call you by that name, but it seems a bit ridiculous that a small proportion of people are allowed to use one name but the rest aren't.

So e.g. if I had never come across you I would use Elizabeth, but if your "close colleague" had said "oh, you'll need to talk to Liz about that" and then I email you, how would I be meant to know that I wasn't allowed to then call you Liz??

Oh me too I hate the shortened version of my name. My DH, family and friends all use my full name so its people that dont know me that well. Makes me cringe, I do correct people but some just ignore and that winds me up even more!

I completely understand you. I have a name that can be shortened in lots of different ways. I always use one version. What drives me insane is my mum, my actual mother uses a completely different shortened version. Imagine I'm called Rosanna but I always use Rosie even at work. Mother calls me Anna. It's absolutely infuriating.

I have the very British problem of feeling pressure to shorten my name if others do, in order to not embarrass them 😂 I don’t use a shortened version of my name and always sign off emails with my full name. But when someone emails me using a shortened version of my name, I reply and sign off with that version because I feel that signing off with my full name as I usually would comes across as me telling them off for shortening it. Yes, I’m aware that this is bonkers.

I have a name that is similar to Tiffany. Let’s say it’s shortened to Tiff. I always immediately respond with ‘Tiffany’. Amazing how many people have the audacity to look offended or worse still carry on with the shortened version!
Then, ignoring and ‘oh I didn’t think you were talking to me’ works - sometimes!!

I always take the lead from how someone signs off their email. If they sign off with a shortened version / nick name I use that. If not, I use the longer version.

I get this and I find it weird sometimes but generally don't mind it. Ds1 hates it though and always uses his full name.

I am Eleanor to most people, Mrs Tiny at the bank and "Ben's mum" to my dc friends. Only a couple of people call me Ellie, my mum, sisters and ds2's geography teacher .

It gets a bit awkward at school because dh likes to be called Mr Tiny and I prefer Eleanor because I don't want to be confused with all the other "Mrs Tiny's" in my family.

I hate the short form of my name. If anyone uses it, I politely put them straight.
My SIL and BIL insist on using the short form, which really annoys me. They do it on purpose and if I ask them not to, they say they "forget". Now I just ignore them until they use my full name.

I've always wanted my name to be shortened .
I would never shorten anyone's name and would always call them by the name they introduced themselves with.

Some people don’t understand the difference between friendly and over familiar.