talk to me if you stupidly bought something £££ you couldnt really afford

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In my defence, I have had a horrible time featuring death which has left me on a swing between dark depression and f*ck it do it now you might be dead tomorrow.

I bought a pair of shoes that I really liked but were a ridiculous amount to spend on shoes of any kind. I feel a bit sick when I think of it. I will keep them as its not bankrupting but it is stupid out of the savings money. I do like them but it was really really really stupid. No one should spend that much on a pair of shoes.

Hoping I am not alone and someone can make me feel a bit better with similar tale that didn't end horribly.

Certain foods (inc. eggs, potatoes, asparagus, and fish) apparently reacted chemically with the type of steel used in the 19th century, so that they tasted bad, and it became a thing to eat them with silver or silver-plated cutlery, to avoid the reaction. Thence egg spoons, fish knives, and the dictat to cut potatoes using one's (silver) fork, rather than the (silver-handled, but steel-bladed) knife---I was still taught these "rules" as a child, but alongside the historical justification, and with the knowledge that we were doing so out of tradition, rather than any particular need arising from modern cutlery materials.

I do have fish knives, but they are, ironically, steel, just shaped like traditional non-steel fish knives! Since they are almost the same shape as butter- or soft-cheese-knives, I tend to use them more often as a substitute butter knife, when the butter knives are in the dishwasher. Butter knives have a point: keeping the crumbs and the jam out of the butter!

I used to do this regularly but now every time I fly I look up the business class equivalent and try to pay the difference to the mortgage. Once it’s gone I am SO BACK TO THE GOOD STUFF.

£650 on a coat. It's glorious. £350 on a sweater. And this completely magical day when I went to Cos and bought everything I wanted. I love clothes 🙂

This thread turned out better than I could have ever imagined. I feel loads better. Thank you all so much and to @edwinbear whose contribution I think freed others to confess.

I do feel much better. The horses especially

I think @mindutopia wins with this entry

I drunkenly bought not one, but two horses! It wasn’t even at the same time. Like I got drunk and bought a horse on more than one occasion

I'm inspired by you all.

We do it frequently. We are terrible savers.
Stupid cars, expensive bags, holidays, stuff for the kids, pre kids we were even worse. We once booked VIP to nightclub in Ibiza and spent so much the nightclub dropped us home in their masarati that is used as a taxi for only their top spending clients. We definitely didnt earn enough at the time (or now) to qualify as high rollers.
I am well aware a financial planner would cry if they looked at our spending. We do enjoy it though. You can't take it with you and you can't do these things when youre 80.

If you spent £20K on superb antique silver cutlery, then maybe a similar resale value. If you bought new stuff, likely you spaffed £20K on tat.

That is one of the most brilliant things I’ve ever seen 😍

I understand this too. I haven't had a recent bereavement but my mother died somewhat prematurely from cancer but my father is going strong into his 80s.

Now I've hit proper middle age (nearly 50) I veer between 'fuck it who knows how long you have left' but also worrying how I can fund years of old age/retirement.

So I end up with a foot in both camps and making a variety of incompatible financial decisions. One minute I'm upping my ISA contribution and the next buying a far too expensive handbag.

@IShotTheDeputyItWasMe - come on! ‘Used a few times and I think I can see a difference but I don't like using it’ what difference were you expecting the bear to make?!

I have just brought a necklace to wear on my wedding day that cost more then by dress and ring combined. I could afford it but it fell firmly into the “I could use this money for much smarter things” category.

I feel a little guilty but will get lots of wear from it post wedding too

I also bought an Eames leather chair and footstool for £8k. I hardly ever sit in it, I just like looking at it.

It's called retail therapy for a reason!

OP please can we see the shoes?

If it makes you feel better I have 6 or 7 pairs of certain red soles shoes which don't fit me since my feet grew in pregnancy, I don't have it in me to get rid of them though!

I can understand that, it sounds fab. Hope you have a brilliant time.

i also get that some people love shoes/handbags . But £20k on cutlery? I would never have imagined that.

i am slightly wondering if the bear referred to by @IShotTheDeputyItWasMe is a foreo bear? Or have I got it all wrong and am beauty obsessed!

@edwinbear

We couldn’t afford the canteen as well! They are individually wrapped up in tissue and kept in the (free) velvet roll we got with them.
OP - can we see your lovely shoes! 🙏

It's actually hilarious that you spent that on cutlery but couldn't afford the canteen. I think if it was 20 years ago, for your next anniversary one or other of you should buy a canteen as a present to the other.

Emboldened by you all here are the shoes. I know they will not be everyone's cup of tea but I like them and I am traumatised by the price so please don't be too mean. I'm only posting it because @edwinbear who I'm grateful to asked. I know it is a stupid amount of money. I know.

https://eu.christianlouboutin.com/uk_en/penny-lug-vers-multi-lin-black-3240726t003.html

Lazer hair removal. Absolute waste of time and money… which I’m reminded of daily as I look down at my hairy nether regions! 🫣😂

The teaspoons are hidden away. The day DH woke up to hear his ‘classic’ 911 driven away by thieves was the first time the bastard thing had started in about 6 months. That was a money pit - my teaspoons were a far better investment!

@Matildahoney - link to shoes above

Just promise yourself you will wear them and love them. Don't save them for 'best' or never wear them because you feel guilty. If you wear them loads for the next 10 years or however long they last and they bring you joy then it's not a waste.

£300 for a stupid robot toy during a long stopover at an airport. It's not even that great.

Doesn't look much for 2 grand lol

Just promise yourself you will wear them and love them. Don't save them for 'best' or never wear them because you feel guilty.

I think I will need to sleep in them to get £ per wear value.

@edwinbearoh Lord! Well mine currently has no gearbox in it, so I think I’m safe but I do fully expect the money pit. Good plan on hiding teaspoons!

Can we have a separate thread about the £20k cutlery please. Very intrigued!

Obscenely priced but gorgeous sofa with down lined pillows. It was heaven to snuggle into with a book. But because they were down lined they need to be plumped regularly, and I am the only one in the house that will bother to plump the pillows. I now resentfully observe the squashed sofa from a distance - it has come to represent all the unappreciated menial responsibilities that everyone but me is blissfully oblivious to.