Would it bother you if your dh/oh smoked weed all day?

[Loveheart13101]

NDN, they seem like nice people, very quiet neighbours, both working full time, have children in the house, but the husband gets in from work and goes straight out to have a smoke.

At the weekend he seems to smoke weed all day long. He goes off driving after he’s been smoking too.

Smoking weed seems to be so common these days, you can smell it when pulled up at traffic lights, coming from people’s homes, people standing near playgrounds and even near the school at pick up time.

Has it just become so normal that most people are fine with it?

When people break the law, and especially when they do so in a way that endangers others, it’s everybody’s business.

I hate this attitude that no-one should be concerned about law breaking if it doesn’t affect them directly. Of course it’s OP’s business, that’s how functioning societies work.

Not a chance. Ended one relationship because of it many years ago and would not even entertain a partner who smoked let alone weed. It gave him a one track mind and caused money issues. Thankfully my husband has zero interest.

However, both neighbours smoke it - neither have kids. One only in the garden which is fine, as we can only smell if outside. Sadly the other side smoke in the house and it permeates into ours - I hate it. I have to explain to guests it's not us. There is always a candle lit to cover it.

I can honestly say I would not stay with someone who was smoking weed all day long. I wouldn’t have it near my kids either.

I don't like weed but many of my friends smoke it. It would depend on the impact it has on others. If they were functioning and pleasant it wouldn't it be a big thing for me. It's legal where I live so people are very open about how much they smoke personally I love the smell

Yes, it’s an addiction

Smoking weed outside wouldn’t bother me if partner was still pulling his/ her weight and getting the stuff that needs doing done and if s/he wasn’t too stoned to hold a conversation but I wouldn’t be okay with him/her driving after smoking it.

They are not nice people. They are racists indirectly, they are happy to see young men stabbed and Mexicans (and others) killed.

I would be calling the police the moment he set foot in a vehicle.

Absolutely not. I had a falling out with a neighbour over this. They moved their partner in and he spent the whole summer sat outside smoking weed. It smells horrible; my children were asking what that smell was and I felt it did linger on my washing. What people do inside their own homes is entirely up to them, but when it's causing upset to others then I feel it is rude and anti social.
He still lives there but thankfully last summer was better, hopefully this summer will be ok too.

I'll be honest, I smoke weed now and again. Recreational, something I do for the feeling. It also helps with sleep and I have pain from an injury-however the next day after doing it I am a bit groggy so I'd not do it more often as I prefer to be alert and to have energy.

And yes, it would bother me a hell of a lot! I aliken what I do to becoming a bit tipsy.I also live alone and have nobody else to consider or be responsble for (or responsible for the feelings of).

If they did it now and again (and I mean now and again, every few weeks maybe? )yes. But it being a big part of their lifestyle, no.

I'd absolutely hate it and wouldn't tolerate it. DH vapes weed every now and again, but discretely as I don't massively like it. He has random drug tests at work so it is truly only occassionally on a saturday night when he has a week off etc.

The OP hasn't said anything about him driving.

Everyone I've known who smoked weed in any quantity has been unreliable. They don't do anything. They can't keep a job. The weed has stopped being effective for them, so they've moved on to something stronger. They've had personality issues.

In short, I wouldn't stay five minutes with someone who smoked that stuff.

Read the OP again.

So... my partner has a prescription. One of the things I was absolutely clear on was no smoking because of the smell and absolutely no getting stoned because I don't want that around our children. TBF, I've only smelt it once and Ive never smelt it on him.

If he needed to smoke it or if he was getting stoned, it really would have been a serious risk to our relationship.

Nb:
I think it's a load of snake oil.
He originally said the stuff he was prescribed doesn't get you stoned. I don't know if he believed that or if he was lying because he has admitteded that when I took the children away for a week he got stoned on it.

Mind your own business

Why do people post stupid shit like this? Are you the wife?

It is my business because I can smell it and my kids can smell it in our house. It’s everyone’s business if someone is getting stoned around their kids.

I can speak to people online about whatever I want.

@Loveheart13101 Have you ever been in that position with someone you love? If you have, and your choice was to walk away, then that's how you dealt with it. We're all different. Some people never give up on the ones they love. You're not a bad person, whatever you choose.
It's harder said than done though.

@Loveheart13101

report to the cops they can test for driving after weed

its very illegal
he should not do it
he is to blame
you might feel guilty if he harms someone.

so call the cops

Yes, it is normal and the police are not that interested in personal use. On the occasions when they are not looking the other way, the most they will do is a verbal warning or a small fine.

This is because cannabis users are much less trouble to the police than drinkers who congregate in town centre pubs and public places at weekends.They are interested in driving under the influence and dealing.

There are a huge number of people who do not want to smoke it who consume it in the form of edibles or cannabis oil. Obviously less conspicuous as no smell and no need to take it outdoors.

I wouldn’t stay with someone like that. I would view it as the equivalent of a man who drank all day.

there are additional issues of legality and second hand exposure to deal with as well. Those exacerbate the issue, but at its heart, he is no different than an alcoholic.

@ShegotanologyI grew up with a parent with addiction and I’ve also had the very difficult and traumatic experience of having to leave a relationship because of a behaviour of the person.

I can categorically say that I would not be with someone who smoked weed and I would not allow it bear my dc.

That’s why I asked if women would be fine with it.

I can’t imagine watching my dh keeping going outside every half an hour getting stoned.

It would bother me if my partner smoked ALL day. But growing up it was normal for me to be around weed smokers so I just see it like alcohol. So if my partner smoked from time to time I would not care.

@Loveheart13101 Which is why I said there is no right way to deal with addiction. Some stay some don't.

For every recreational drug user, there is a supply chain. I couldn't turn a blind eye to it, and shame on those who do.

Just to add, it's not clear cut.