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AcrossthePond55 · 31/03/2025 20:43

Judecb · 31/03/2025 20:37

You walk into a police station and report it. This is actually a serious offence.

OP's 'H' was seriously and vilely abusive. For her to report this would probably bring hellfire down on her head from him.

No, she needs to look to her own safety first. And staying quiet is the right thing to do.

I'm sure she feels sorry for this unsuspecting woman, so do I. But there's no call to put one's own safety at risk and/or jeopardize one's currently calm and quiet life simply out of sympathy.

PabloTheGreat · 31/03/2025 20:44

Some celebrants aren't legally binding, but a priest, vicar or certified solemniser may conduct a legal ceremony here in the ROI.

One thing I did find out was that in order for it to be legal, it has to be conducted at an accreditated address, so you can't get married at your local unless they have a specific permit, and you couldn't get married on a beach as its not a venue with a permit.

A family member is currently divorcing here, and had to send the papers to the ex overseas to sign as they need to be registered as being sent and received on the other side, signed and returned. Not sure if they need to be witnessed.. Then our relative has to attend court in person with the completed papers. You would have had papers sent to you.

The other possibility is that he forged your signature?

Either way it's not your problem.

DraigCymraeg · 31/03/2025 20:52

GiraffeCup · 31/03/2025 18:48

You could go along, wait until the "dies anyone know of a reason why these two can't be married?" Bit and wave your marriage certificate in the air and say "yes, because he's married to me!"

Bring your own doof-doof sound track.

Except the OP is scared of him so that's really not practical is it?

User753175 · 31/03/2025 21:01

I don't want to seem like I'm totally bashing Ireland here, but there isn't a snowballs chance in hell that if the OP reported this at her local garda station there would be an investigation.
I'm trying to imagine how she could try to flag this up with someone if she wanted to, and it would be very difficult. I think the OP is 100% right to do nothing.

Blondeshavemorefun · 31/03/2025 21:03

Grassisalotgreener · 31/03/2025 20:38

Judecb
I do not need to inform anyone, i am not the groom, i do not know his wife to be . I know nothing of his life, other than the county i do not know where he lives.

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you haven’t done anything wrong @Grassisalotgreener

at the moment neither has ex

till he actually Marrys this other woman

Pippyls67 · 31/03/2025 21:21

You must absolutely report this to the police. He is committing a criminal offence. You are complicit if you fail to report and have been made aware of his intention to commit said offence.

lylagarrity · 31/03/2025 21:24

Pippyls67 · 31/03/2025 21:21

You must absolutely report this to the police. He is committing a criminal offence. You are complicit if you fail to report and have been made aware of his intention to commit said offence.

Good God, they are all out tonight.

JamesWebbSpaceTelescope · 31/03/2025 21:24

Pippyls67 · 31/03/2025 21:21

You must absolutely report this to the police. He is committing a criminal offence. You are complicit if you fail to report and have been made aware of his intention to commit said offence.

This is nonsense. The OP has heard 2nd hand and isn’t 100% sure if it is a wedding or a commitment ceremony. She has absolutely no duty to report.

What she does need is to keep herself safe (both physically and mentally) which is best done by staying well clear.

Talkinpeace · 31/03/2025 21:24

Pippyls67 · 31/03/2025 21:21

You must absolutely report this to the police. He is committing a criminal offence. You are complicit if you fail to report and have been made aware of his intention to commit said offence.

No
Not True

Xmasxrackers · 31/03/2025 21:28

Grassisalotgreener · 30/03/2025 20:25

Its not in my best interests to involve myself any further than waiting and getting confirmation or not. Its not my problem if he breaks the law. My head is spinning with it all.

OP are your children going? Will they say anything to ex? Big hugs, even though he’s nothing to do with you anymore I can understand how this has probably made you feel xx

Twinklewrinkle · 31/03/2025 21:28

wherever he is due to be married, if it’s in this country, they have serve notice at registry office so anyone that objects can do so before they day. Also regardless of no contact. If he filed for divorce the papers still need to be served to each other. I’d personally do the right thing and report it. Good luck. X

LoveLifeBeHappy · 31/03/2025 21:29

Grassisalotgreener · 30/03/2025 15:53

Separated 13 years, no contact since children came of age, separated as a result of dv. I was informed today that he is getting Married next week .
Should i inform someone in authority?
Aibu if i report him, i was delighted when he moved on so not upset he is getting married,but im astounded because we are not divorced!

You've been separated for 13 years and had no contact - why do you care? Let him get on with it.

Zucker · 31/03/2025 21:31

Here's a bigamy case in ireland a few years ago. Hardly worth the effort of informing the Gardaí.

The original poster would be in no way complicit ffs, some of you just love to make shite up.

Bigamy case 2005 and 2009

Ivita Visnevska - who is originally from Latvia but with an address at Berberis Court, Ilford, London - was fined €100 at Limerick Circuit Court after admitting marrying a man while still married to her first husband. File photograph: Google Street Vie...

Mother of six pleads guilty to bigamy at Limerick court

Ivita Visnevska fined over being wed in Ireland in 2005 and again in 2009 while still married

https://www.irishtimes.com/news/crime-and-law/courts/circuit-court/mother-of-six-pleads-guilty-to-bigamy-at-limerick-court-1.2898459

Noodles1234 · 31/03/2025 21:34

I would contact non emergency police via website or phone, plus I would make contact with my local registry office.

not for spite, but to protect the woman he is marrying as she will not be protected I imagine but more so she is being duped.

FeetLikeFlippers · 31/03/2025 21:37

Ooorhead · 30/03/2025 16:35

Ah yes that will be it

it will be a humanist ceremony or similar

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Makes no difference where or by whom the ceremony is performed - it’s the marriage licence and signing of the register that make it legal.

Alfiecatfus · 31/03/2025 21:39

The bans have to be read so you can probably report to the local registrar if you know the area he is getting married in

CosyCoralCrab · 31/03/2025 21:41

H0210zero · 31/03/2025 19:20

You can report in confidence to 101 but Id defo wait until after the wedding. Mainly because he'sore.likelynto retaliate now if you were to stop his wedding then to realise where it's come from afterwards. Someone on our local FB group had same issue with her ex. She rang police who literally told her "He hasn't committed a crime yet, let him get married then ring us back" then when she did they put it down as an anonymous report and then arrested him on honeymoon.
Let your kids go find out the type of ceremony so you know if it's humanist or not. Not many get married humanistic without the extra service to legalise it. With his last phonecall he probably realised that he needs a divorce but thought nobody would know. Let him do it. Then ring 101 and make sure you explain the background and any DV. They'll support you and submit in anonymously.

No 101 in Ireland which is where the OP is. Also humanist ceremonies are legal here.

Miffsmum · 31/03/2025 21:45

I am totally with you, keep your distance and change your name for your own safety and sanity.

I’m sorry if it’s been mentioned but it occurs to me that if he is going through with an illegal marriage, what will your kids do or say if the question is asked if anyone present knows any legal impediment to the marriage going ahead 🤷‍♀️

Crazyworldmum · 31/03/2025 21:51

Regretsmorethanafew · 31/03/2025 20:23

Yes, it's completely different.

Do you find it so hard to understand that a foreign country has different laws to your country? All due respect is none.

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it’s not that different I just checked it . Different from engaging but not the other U.K. countries . So no need to be rude . It happens all the time that people don’t realise divorces have been approved , exs often give wrong addresses as an example or claim they don’t know the wearabouts . Either way no need to be rude

Regretsmorethanafew · 31/03/2025 21:52

Crazyworldmum · 31/03/2025 21:51

it’s not that different I just checked it . Different from engaging but not the other U.K. countries . So no need to be rude . It happens all the time that people don’t realise divorces have been approved , exs often give wrong addresses as an example or claim they don’t know the wearabouts . Either way no need to be rude

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It's very different, and you're wrong.

Rude is assuming you understand things you don't

Deckedoutside · 31/03/2025 21:59

My stepmother did this believe it or not. 'Married' my dad whilst still married to ex. He waited until the day after the wedding and then reported her to the police, as at that point she had commited a crime. She got into a shit ton of trouble, and was also arrested for fraud (forging a divorce certificate for herself). I'd recommend you do the exact same thing that her ex did and report him after you know the ceremony has taken place.

Stupid bitch deserved everything she got. They take it very seriously but as the ex partner you are not liable for any of it.

Crazyworldmum · 31/03/2025 21:59

Ok love . Have a nice evening

FozzieP · 31/03/2025 22:06

Bigamy is a crime. Report it to the police. It’s a pretty awful thing for him to do to the woman he’s ‘marrying’ from pension provision to dying without a will. What a prat he must be; you’re well shot of him.

lylagarrity · 31/03/2025 22:13

FozzieP · 31/03/2025 22:06

Bigamy is a crime. Report it to the police. It’s a pretty awful thing for him to do to the woman he’s ‘marrying’ from pension provision to dying without a will. What a prat he must be; you’re well shot of him.

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llizzie · 31/03/2025 22:21

Grassisalotgreener · 30/03/2025 15:53

Separated 13 years, no contact since children came of age, separated as a result of dv. I was informed today that he is getting Married next week .
Should i inform someone in authority?
Aibu if i report him, i was delighted when he moved on so not upset he is getting married,but im astounded because we are not divorced!

AI Overview

Yes, if you suspect a marriage is bigamous (where the groom is already married), you should report it to the police, as bigamy is a criminal offense.

Here's why and what to do:

Bigamy is illegal:
Marrying someone while already legally married to another person is a crime, known as bigamy.
The second marriage is void:
A bigamous marriage is considered invalid and has no legal standing.
Report to the police:
If you suspect a bigamous marriage, contact your local police department via their non-emergency number (e.g., 101 in the UK).
Don't hesitate to report:
If you have reason to believe a marriage is bigamous, it's important to report it to the authorities so that the situation can be investigated.