Calling my unborn baby they/them

[Irish24]

I am keeping the gender a surprise and the amount of people that are confused when I refer to the baby as they/them’ is starting to aggravate me. I don’t like referring to them as ‘it’ or just ‘baby’. They/them is a word and has been going around for centuries. It also is a singular pronoun and does not always mean multiple. My friends say they can’t get their head around it. I don’t understand. I know they/them is a controversial topic these days and more people are perhaps finding out the gender. I still don’t find it confusing at all and it never even occurred to me that it would be. Anyone else experienced this or am I being over dramatic here? It’s just tiresome having to constantly explain to people, I don’t know the gender so that’s why I’m calling the baby ‘them/they’

I referred to my son as Baby then our surname. We didn't wait to find out the sex, my husband was desperate to know from the off!!! 🤣 Once we knew then, it was easy, 'he/him'.

This thread has become completely unhinged.

It does sound like your expecting twins op they is more than one and so is them sorry x

As has been explained to death on this thread, they and them are commonly used where sex is not known.
”Someone left their coat there”
“If anyone wants my dinner they’re welcome to it”

Please correct these sentences if you think they’re wrong.

But “Peanut” would be a de facto name, not a pronoun.

They/them isn’t always plural. Singular goes back to WTW 1375.

34 pages in and we're still getting this. FML

Just from Wiki, examples of everyday conversation:

"Somebody left their umbrella in the office. Could you please let them know where they can get it?"
"My personal rule is to never trust anyone who says that they had a good time in high school."
"The patient should be told at the outset how much they will be required to pay."
"But a journalist should not be forced to reveal their sources."
"Everybody can make good pastry if they have the 'know-how'."

I believe it was first used as a singular pronoun in 1375.

This must include the professors at my university then!

Try reading the thread. Or a dictionary.

No.
People aren’t usually referred to as ‘it’.

People talk like that all the time.

Are you a native English speaker @Phyllisve?

Probably end up identifying as a peanut then though.

And?

They/them has always been a correct way to refer to a singular person in the third person.

You are going to be a tiresome mother at the school aren’t you 😂

What? Because she correctly uses language? I quite like that.

No one knows the sex of the baby! That's the whole bloody point of the thread!!!!

Good point, I think I did the same (I know I wouldn’t have said baby or it so it must have been they/them) and nobody questioned it or was confused at all.

No because she is making a fuss about calling a baby a baby

No she isn’t! She’s wondering why others make a fuss about a completely normal and accurate pronoun usage!

It is not immediately, and logically normal to think twins when referring to a single baby if unknown sex as they.

The one making a huge fuss about nothing is you, you have been arguing this for 8 hours now despite being proven wrong many times and it doesn't even affect your life.

Are you another one wound up about "gender woo"?

Wine o’clock on a Friday, I for one am loving it 😂

I don’t care about pronouns, if people have enough time to get worked up about pronouns then they have nothing better to worry about which is lucky for them.
also people who suprise others with the gender of their baby - is just weird

Please head over to FWR and tell them they are lucky because they have nothing better to worry about! 😂 It would make my day 😂

Read the thread! She’s not surprising others! She. Doesn’t. Know. The. Sex. Herself.