To take DD 5 to McDonald's every other weekend?

[quincyquince]

She's gluten free, so has a portion of small chips and either a small mcflurry or orange juice or sauce with the chips.

We go after swimming.

This is ok, right? My friend thinks it's awful that she goes twice a month. But it's not like she's having the processed bread and cheese and stuff all the time?

You aren't adding anything to the conversation apart from people should somehow magically know all life events that will occur before having kids.

Again, presumably you have no children.

The irony that this is from the person who claimed OP was a poor at parenting! Is that not an ad hominem insult?

And what is it that you're adding that's so valuable?

I was referring to the choices, not the person. Reading comprehension is a friend.

There’s these two as examples
Stats from the Resolution foundation that not enough people save for unexpected life events.
Which the RF says, of course, they should.

Hi STEPHEN here you are being very RESONABLE with using voices from Mumsnet I totally agree and know it will do well and improve the voice

Don’t be ridiculous. Claiming she has poor parenting judgement is most certainly referring to the person.

She is not your friend.

I voted wrong by mistake! Not unreasonable to take her twice a month.

What about disabled people who can not get affordable insurance? They shouldn’t have children because they can’t get insurance?

What hogwash. That's not even remotely what i said.
I was responding to people who said "sometimes you don't have enough money to feed kids properly because unexpected things happen." My argument is that the prudent person prepares for the unexpected, and doesn't produce offspring until they have risk management and contingency plans in place. That's basic adulting.

And it's better than "falling pregnant" with no plan and then standing around dumbfounded and with the hand out for other people's money when very common things like divorce, illness, job loss, disability, death of spouse, economic recession, etc. happen. Most people experience at least a few of those occurances at least once in their lives.

I would argue that someone who can't somehow secure their offspring's care should anything happen to the parents should probably avoid having children. What is the alternative: take the chance of leaving penniless orphans???

Good point.

Mine go every week after swimming. It’s a rush to get home, they eat well as starving and everyone is happy. No harm if eating a balanced diet with variety

@TheHerboriste

you'd wanna get a life hun! Get out of your kitchen!

@Swiftie1878

so? Fortnightly is still fine.

Suggesting that someone who can’t obtain insurance due to disability shouldn’t have children isn’t something that sits right with me.

Most people have family members or friends who would step up and ensure their children are not ‘penniless orphans’ should anything happen to the parents. Not having life insurance does not mean their care has not been secured should the worst happen.

So you learned the "judgemental" all by yourself?

Reading comprehension is our friend. I said people who can't secure their children's future. People who can't get life insurance will have to find another way to do so. But most don't even attempt it; they just "fall pregnant" and hope for the best.

There are SO MANY "single mums" who post on here that they had a child by some arsehole, have "no family, friends or support network," but nevertheless thought it was an OK idea to produce a new human being without a Plan B let alone Plan C, D and E. That's reprehensible.

People who act like victims of circumstance when the perfectly ordinary consequences of their life choices meet up with perfectly ordinary events like illness, job loss, economic woes, etc. are not impressive. People who say "I have to feed my kids mcdonald's because I can't afford anything else" are not impressive, especially since every Tesco in the land sells beans, rice and other low-cost, more nourishing food.

SO tired of the excuses.

So, only wealthy people should have babies?

Blimey, you’re creeping very close advocating eugenics

Careful, I suggested that earlier and got deleted. Someone doesn’t like it.

Indeed, that someone can dish it out but clearly can’t take it back

Not sure where you acquired your medical qualifications but I think you should probably hand them back.

How many times are you going to say ‘reading comprehension is our friend’ ? I think everyone is comprehending what you are saying loud and clear.