To take DD 5 to McDonald's every other weekend?

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She's gluten free, so has a portion of small chips and either a small mcflurry or orange juice or sauce with the chips.

We go after swimming.

This is ok, right? My friend thinks it's awful that she goes twice a month. But it's not like she's having the processed bread and cheese and stuff all the time?

Yeah the goadiness is intentional, imo obviously 🙄

‘Chow down’. Another nasty phrase used instead of ‘eat’. Way to endow food with emotional baggage!
It’s not because she can’t be bothered to cook either - it’s a specific set of circumstances set in a normal healthy diet. It won’t make any one obese.
Several of you keep going on about ‘fatty and salty’ when the OP says she doesn’t have salt added (it’s an option you can ask for) and a PP has found out that there is about 1/4 of a teaspoon of oil in the fires portion.

Oh I've seen it!

I don’t think it is bad parenting at all. People are making very low blows.

However I disagree that posters who are taking about habits have an unhealthy relationship with food. I don’t eat convenience food with any regularity and i think I have a very healthy relationship with food. I’m not denying myself. I just don’t really like the food.

McDonald’s with market themselves as a great treat for kids. But their food is not special and it’s bad for you. A homemade cake, a special meal in a restaurant, a freshly baked pastry from a bakery. These are all high quality occasional “treats” that have had care go into their creation. The thinking that mass produced cheap and widely available food is a treat is making us fatter and sicker.

You’ve said ‘dozens’ of times twice now. It feels like you are trying to make it sound more than it is - I mean, technically it’s 2 dozen if there are no holidays or illness, but I wouldn’t use ‘dozens’ to describe the number.

Or their circumstances changed after having them - you know, like when Truss caused mortgages to shoot up, or when someone gets ill and can’t work, or someone’s partner dies.

In which case nobody should have any children, should they? I mean, they could become ill and their partner die and then what would they do?

How would this happen? Surely we are all psychic and know that this will happen so would never procreate.

All of those risks and more can be planned for with savings, insurance, consistent upskilling and other tools . Circumstances are always changing. It’s not an excuse for poor parenting.

Are you seriously denying that two dozen is a multiple of 12?

I’m saying 2 dozen is more than it will actually be (classes tend to have breaks in summer, and usually at christmas and Easter too) and if someone did something 2 dozen times I’d tend to say 2 dozen not ‘dozens’ - unless I was trying to make it sound more frequent.

No. They. Can’t.
By scientific necessity you have children earlier rather than later in your life (if you are a woman). There are very, very few people under 40 who could stop work completely and never need to earn again. That’s what you are asking for. It’s entirely possible for that state of affairs to happen to any one of us. It’s just luck if it hasn’t.

Put the spade down dear.

Simply is true. Depending on the individual as always.

YADNBU, my niece has Coeliac Disease & there are so many (everyday) places where she can't eat. Enjoy your post swimming chips & ice cream.

I think that’s so sweet. Kids love routines and that must be something your child looks forward to every other week.

I bet the people who say it’s bad are the same people who drink every single weekend

Not everyone has the ability, for various reasons, to save, afford insurance or upskill. These people shouldn’t have children in your opinion as they would be poor parents?

My mum was similar, and while I didn't have an ED all that happened was as soon as I went to uni I went crazy for crisps, sweets, chocolate and takeaways.

So, clearly you have no kids.

because you or their dad could die at any point ...

Great way to let everyone know you’ve led a life of privilege without actually telling them…

This thread is hysterical wow

Oh, come on. Proper planning, using contraception and purchasing insurance are not signs of privilege. No one should become a parent without appropriate provisions in case of illness, disability and death.

You seem to be picking and choosing who you reply to. Not everyone can afford insurance, they should not have children according to you, is that correct?

I think you should start taking her every weekend tbh. Really lean into the "bad parenting" angle