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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To think baths are awful?

338 replies

Alllll · 26/03/2025 21:16

I’ve lived in my house for four years and there is a very deep and long L shaped bath which is the envy of my bath loving friends. I’ve never been keen on baths and never used it. But tonight I thought, for a change, I’d run myself one and take my book.

It was absolutely shit. Took bloody ages to run, then I got in and couldn’t hold by book right. The water was a nice temperature but it made my face too hot. It was boring. I lasted twenty minutes and then drained the water. Complete waste.

I find them mildly disgusting. Right up close to the grouting. It’s horrible. AIBU?

OP posts:
ShyMaryEllen · 26/03/2025 22:06

How are people getting so filthy?

IPM · 26/03/2025 22:06

Panterusblackish · 26/03/2025 21:46

Mumsnet may have its irrationalities but in this instance they are simply following Japanese tradition.

Which is just as irrational unless they're working down a coalmine.

doodahdayy · 26/03/2025 22:07

I’d love the option of a bath when I’m aching. I do prefer showers though

RampantIvy · 26/03/2025 22:07

Just how dirty are some of you that makes you think that baths are disgusting?

I shower 99% of the time, but occasionally like a soak in the bath with a book.

I am never really dirty as I shower or bath every day.

Lightningrain · 26/03/2025 22:07

I don’t often have a bath but I do like them when I’ve for a cold or sore muscles.

In answer to those asking why you’d shower first - I do this because I couldn’t wash/rinse my hair properly in the bath. I wash my hair in the shower and then get into the bath.

The best bath I ever had was one run by the midwife after being induced and having low level contractions for hours on end. It was the only time I could switch off from it. I could have stayed in there for ages but I felt bad as people kept trying the door.

FancyAnxiety · 26/03/2025 22:08

fivetriangulartrees · 26/03/2025 21:33

I hate baths. I get in and within two minutes I'm contemplating long-forgotten resentments, the patriarchy and the futility of life. Get out in a rage. Stupid fucking relaxing baths.

Are we twins? 😆

TwistedWonder · 26/03/2025 22:08

Love love love a bath. I only really shower on holiday and soon as I get home I can’t wait to jump in the bath.

I couldn’t buy a house that only had a shower

SwedishEdith · 26/03/2025 22:09

DancingFerret · 26/03/2025 22:05

YANBU. I prefer to take a shower and see soapy dirty suds disappear straight down the plughole rather than lie in them.

Are you a coal miner? What are you doing to have dirty suds you can see?

redshoesredlaces · 26/03/2025 22:10

DancingFerret · 26/03/2025 22:05

YANBU. I prefer to take a shower and see soapy dirty suds disappear straight down the plughole rather than lie in them.

Whether I shower or bathe and I do both, the suds never look dirty. How often are you washing? The suds look completely clean on me.

you know many cultures like the Japanese and Koreans have bathing rituals where there soak in hot baths until their skin gets really soft then scrub like crazy and exfoliate all the dead skin off. You come out like silk. You need the long soak to soften the dead skin first.
if you are only ever showering you aren’t ever getting this level of clean.

PrettayGood · 26/03/2025 22:11

Topknotted · 26/03/2025 21:39

I have a bath every night. I chose the bath precisely so that it was comfortable to lie and read in. It’s by an open window that isn’t overlooked, and it’s a lovely stargazing spot. I keep the lights off and burn a candle. I agree that a bad bath is terribly dispiriting.

We’re reconfiguring our bathroom to put the bath under the window. We’re not overlooked and I will love looking out over the garden.

Purplebunnie · 26/03/2025 22:12

godmum56 · 26/03/2025 21:55

Same here bloody knees. Trashed mine getting stuck in a patch of bog dogwalking

Goodness they must be extremely painful.

Nothing so extreme in my case, my bad knees are due to being old and grossly overweight.

Abracadabra12345 · 26/03/2025 22:12

ScottBakula · 26/03/2025 21:38

I love my bath , I scroll on mn or listen to bbc sound / Audible.
I often fall asleep !

Same as me. I love my audiobook. I need glasses to read which get steamed up so can’t read a book. An audiobook is a perfect solution

I used to enjoy showers but have really gone off them

redshoesredlaces · 26/03/2025 22:12

BumbleBeegu · 26/03/2025 22:01

Baths make me feel sick (actually physically sick). I get way too hot and then feel dizzy and nauseous when I try to stand up.

Last time I had one was when I was staying at my parents house whilst my dad was dying…they only had a bath, no shower, so it wasn’t a choice! The whole ordeal (dad/bath combo) still gives me trauma flashbacks even now…14 years on 😢

Just don’t run it so hot and you can have a shallow bath if you aren’t washing your hair.

Darkdiamond · 26/03/2025 22:13

I have a bath every morning of my life! Love it.

RaspberryCloud · 26/03/2025 22:13

Alwayswonderedwhy · 26/03/2025 21:26

Yanbu. I occasionally used to like the idea of one then as soon as I got in I'd want to get out. When we had our bathroom done a few years ago we got rid of it and it's not been missed.

This! I think - ‘oh, I should try this bath thing again, everyone loves it’ run it, get in, immediately get too hot, carefully get set up with book, worry about getting it wet. Then get bored….then too cold. Then give up 🤷‍♀️

SerenityNowSerenityNow · 26/03/2025 22:13

I have a free standing bath with a bookcase in easy reach.
It's a thing of beauty 🥰

TheAmusedQuail · 26/03/2025 22:14

Oooh I love a bath. Nice smellies. Book. Drink. Phone. Keep topping up the hot water. I've even been known to drag my laptop near the bath and watch a film.

When I was younger I'd spend ages in the bath and fall asleep.

One of life's great pleasures. Only improved upon by clean bedding against clean skin. Lush

katepilar · 26/03/2025 22:15

Its ok not to like baths.
I wonder why do you feel so strong about it though?

godmum56 · 26/03/2025 22:15

Purplebunnie · 26/03/2025 22:12

Goodness they must be extremely painful.

Nothing so extreme in my case, my bad knees are due to being old and grossly overweight.

They have their moments! I am old too snd carry more yhan I should which doesn’t help!

Movingon2024 · 26/03/2025 22:15

fivetriangulartrees · 26/03/2025 21:33

I hate baths. I get in and within two minutes I'm contemplating long-forgotten resentments, the patriarchy and the futility of life. Get out in a rage. Stupid fucking relaxing baths.

That really made me laugh @fivetriangulartrees

i am the opposite. I love to get in the bath at the end of the day and think about….nothing. Or a load of shit. Anything. But not the patriarchy because I’ve spent most of the day at work raging about that.

AliBaliBee1234 · 26/03/2025 22:16

Cancelthebreak · 26/03/2025 21:23

I love a bath but I am a fat slob so I wallow like a beached whale in there.

same 😂😂😂😂😂

borntobequiet · 26/03/2025 22:17

At this time of year a soak in a hot bath in the evening saves putting the heating on. I read a book. My bath is a seventies cast iron model with a shaped back that makes it very comfortable. Those modern L shaped ones are pointless and wasteful of water, you don’t need them for a shower over the bath.

soupyspoon · 26/03/2025 22:18

Panterusblackish · 26/03/2025 21:46

Mumsnet may have its irrationalities but in this instance they are simply following Japanese tradition.

Who says the Japanese are right?

BebbanburgIsMine · 26/03/2025 22:19

I love my bath! I couldn’t manage without it.

It’s showers I hate, absolutely detest them, and I never have one, if it wasn’t for DD liking it, and me using it to wash my hair, I’d be rid of it tomorrow.

A good soak in the bath is one of my greatest pleasures.

Yaia · 26/03/2025 22:21

i love baths, I have one most lunchtime and it just eases my back so much, it’s my ultimate relaxation.