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To think food choices aren't everything regarding longevity?

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ThePigandPear · 24/03/2025 20:45

I see a lot of food threads here and on other websites where people clash over what constitutes healthy foods, upf, etc.
I have a good diet and would like to remain fit, but I get the feeling that a lot of people choose to obsess over food because it is something they think they can control in a very uncertain world.

One person will suggest obesity has risen in tow with ultra processed foods.
Another will say "no! it's seed oils, low fat, sugar and so on!".
But few people suggest increasing car use, or having become far more sedentary, since these are lifestyle factors that many don't feel they have control over.
It is simpler to blame food.

So a healthy diet is very important, but what about sleep quality, stress, social connection, mental health and activity? A lot of those are very complicated and can't be as easily fixed.
I recall thinking this after reading about the famous Blue Zones, that the elder population were out playing tennis and gardening with company most days. However, the Blue Zones centenarians have been more recently debunked...

Sadly I have known a few people with very healthy lifestyle's and diets become ill or disabled, and a few who have died young. And there are always examples of that chain smoking great uncle who lived to 104 on beer, bacon and lard.

Good, healthy food is one thing we can make an impact with, but it is only a small part of the story, for me. The healthiest older people I have known have been very active (a LOT of walking), from hiking to just getting around on foot. They have also kept a social life outside of their home, and oddly enough, been single!
This is only from my own experience of course.
My mum was the very image of yoga, healthy eating, mediation, yet still suffered some debilitating health issues that could not be controlled by lifestyle, and became somewhat reclusive and sedentary in her old age as she had lost her community links. Family members who have got out there and kept doing stuff did seem to live much longer lives, regardless some bad habits (luck permitting).

I just don't think some good bread with peanut butter for brekkie is going to make a massive difference, or the occasional jar of supermarket sauce, unless I am piping adulterated shit down my throat 24-7.

OP posts:
OiBonita · 27/03/2025 10:20

The13thFairy · 26/03/2025 09:51

Growing up, we ate sugar sandwiches. Also sugar mice - mouse-sized sugar sweets.
Sugar cigarettes. Sugar was stirred into milk. Lettuce was was washed under the tap, shaken, granulated sugar was sprinkled over it, shaken again and served. Sugar was believed to be a very good thing for children in particular. So glad things are different now. Teeth are certainly better!

Yep - I had sugar sprinkled on top of my ski black cherry yogurt and a teaspoon stirred into a glass of lemonade to stop it being too gassy for me 😆

frozendaisy · 27/03/2025 10:31

Enjoy you food and drink don't shovel it in is possibly a good starting point.
Eat an orange instead of orange juice (to get the fibre bits) and instead of a bunch of custard creams from time to time.

Just small changes like that help much more than their effort and cost indicate.

An orange is cheaper than a bag of crisps now. Even multipacks!

The UPF industry have experts in chemistry and psychology to make their products addictive, there is the UPF BBC documentary still online it's fascinating, even down to the crinkle of a packet to appeal to your senses. Very clever, very evil, it's being compared to the tricks the tobacco industry got up to last century. Cartoons characters advertising, get the kids addicted to your brand and you have a customer for life type thing.

And if you can change your mindset at looking at these products as a marketing ploy to get your cash with no interest in what it does to you or your family it makes it easier to not buy them. (Similar to social media/online content if you understand that they want your, and your children's time and attention whilst they don't let their own kids go on youtube, it's much easier to turn off).

It's all very clever it really is.

TrainGame · 27/03/2025 14:20

frozendaisy · 27/03/2025 10:12

Content online, particularly in the wellness sphere, is heavily edited. So I don't watch it no. And as has been noted he has tons of cash, and is protected by his money, for example he can afford staff to manage his online content and keep a lot of the hate from him or at least edit it.

What happens when someone alone starts sharing content and has to read the hate online, if they are mentally fragile and have no buffers?

This is the poison that filters into normal, non-rich people's lives.

I watched his documentary and thought there was so much missing from his life, experimenting, and it is experimentation, with longevity theories in effective isolation is the current playground of the rich tech Californians it seems.

For us little people, we all live in an increasingly polluted society, the pollution from car tyres and wood burners, amongst other things, are turning back the tides on air pollution, and regardless of how many green smoothies you drink or downward dogs you do no one has come up with an alternative for breathing yet, although I suspect it's only a matter of time!

A moderately shorter, happier life is surely the goal? What is the point of having a body that keeps pumping blood when your brain is full of microplastics?

There’s no doubt pollution and micro plastics are a problem but I don’t see this as part of the problem with this man. He’s not responsible for global manufacturing, consumption and pollution is he?

He’s a living experiment and if he has the funds and wishes to use them to do his own personal clinical trials that’s his choice.

We don’t have to do things that are uncomfortable or risky in life, we can stay safe and stay exactly where we are. But flying the first aeroplane, building the first rocket, doing the first heart transplant, these all require risk taking. He’s doing what he’s doing because most doctors wouldn’t allow it through normal channels. The doctor who discovered that stomach ulcers were caused by h pylori infected himself in the lab to prove to the other doctors and the public that he’d found the cause.

I’m probably just more accepting and open than you in allowing people to live their own lives as they wish, but then I’m ND too and really don’t understand why people think they need to cast judgment. Hes not bothered what anyone else does. He’s just doing what he believes in. He can stop at any moment but maybe he actually likes feeling younger and stronger!

CheesePlantBoxes · 27/03/2025 14:35

As a child i ate virtually all upf. my diet improved when i moved out amd by my mid 30s was mostly clean and minimal upfs.

It's like the spending Vs saving mentality. Some people think we are here to have a good time, not a long time, others consider it safer to plan for the best.

If I am going to live to 80+ I'd rather not be unwell or destitute by my own hands.
I might be unlucky, sure, but I'm going to give myself the beet chance.

IlooklikeNigella · 27/03/2025 14:50

frozendaisy · 27/03/2025 10:12

Content online, particularly in the wellness sphere, is heavily edited. So I don't watch it no. And as has been noted he has tons of cash, and is protected by his money, for example he can afford staff to manage his online content and keep a lot of the hate from him or at least edit it.

What happens when someone alone starts sharing content and has to read the hate online, if they are mentally fragile and have no buffers?

This is the poison that filters into normal, non-rich people's lives.

I watched his documentary and thought there was so much missing from his life, experimenting, and it is experimentation, with longevity theories in effective isolation is the current playground of the rich tech Californians it seems.

For us little people, we all live in an increasingly polluted society, the pollution from car tyres and wood burners, amongst other things, are turning back the tides on air pollution, and regardless of how many green smoothies you drink or downward dogs you do no one has come up with an alternative for breathing yet, although I suspect it's only a matter of time!

A moderately shorter, happier life is surely the goal? What is the point of having a body that keeps pumping blood when your brain is full of microplastics?

I don't understand this mentality - no I haven't watched his stuff online but I have an opinion on it. What are you basing the opinion on?

My post sounds rude I know, it's not meant to be. I have tried rewriting it.

Worriedsickmostofthetime · 27/03/2025 15:02

I often find myself wondering about the inventions of my parents generation that were so revolutionary from a convenience point of view… cars so you didn’t have to walk, fast food so you didn’t have to cook, television for on demand entertainment, computers for work efficiency etc. All these things that were so wonderful and convenient because they made life easier but little did anyone know how detrimental they would be to our health.

And now we have monetarized a whole generation of influencers who we are watching from our couches try and teach about the things we should already know but seem to have forgotten. Movement, homemade food, breathe work, taking tech holidays, sleep, spending time outdoors.

mushroomshroom · 27/03/2025 15:05

That Bryan Johnson still had grey hair despite all his youth elixir!

mushroomshroom · 27/03/2025 15:06

obviously now he just dyes it

TrainGame · 27/03/2025 18:21

I agree he almost certainly dyes it. It doesn’t look natural. It’s not for me personally - his whole routine looks overwhelming and I’d drop at the first challenge, but I do think he’s right to focus on sleep and many of his other suggestions are just good common sense. He’s a vegan because he doesn’t want to hurt animals. He’s a very gentle person if you listen to him talk but obviously has an iron will which many ND people do have.

We let women butcher their bodies with plastic implants in their boobs and bums, which sometimes kill them and fillers on the face and lips. Look at Katie Price and the myriad copycats. I agree the ends of the spectrum don’t look too convincing but at least BJ is trying to do something useful as opposed to just playing to sexualised societal standards in a bid to gain followers.

I sometimes wonder if he’ll go too far and seriously injure himself or even die. But it’s his body so his choice. That’s what we say to women we really shouldn’t have double standards.

He may alternatively discover something extraordinary. Or perhaps nothing at all or probably something fairly mediocre, who knows. In the meantime I wish him well and lots of success with his experiments.

mushroomshroom · 27/03/2025 18:26

it's his life & money so he can do what he wants tbh.

Redpeach · 27/03/2025 18:30

His life is extreme, like an astronaut training for mars, its interesting to see how far he can push it - fair play to him

Redpeach · 27/03/2025 18:34

frozendaisy · 27/03/2025 08:58

Does it fill him with joy?
He seemed utterly depressed when his son left for university, like he was craving meaningful human interaction but has ended up down this rabbit hole of such a strict regime that he is not living he is just a lab rat.

I didn't see fun and joy, I saw obsession for content and media exposure. Boredom even, a need to be noticed and influential perhaps, but joy and fun were most certainly lacking. He is surrounded by staff but that's not the same as people who love being with you without having to pay them.

Loneliness is a killer. We all know this.

With his resources being in America, he can afford the best of the best of healthcare in the world. He will live a long life but whether that is an enjoyable one is much more of a debate.

He addressed the loneliness factor at the end by starting up walking groups

OiBonita · 27/03/2025 19:57

Redpeach · 27/03/2025 18:30

His life is extreme, like an astronaut training for mars, its interesting to see how far he can push it - fair play to him

Agreed - I watched him on a Zoe episode recently and found him fascinating and certainly it changed my opinion about him, having been quite negative prior. He is extreme but that’s clearly his thing and his choice and interesting for the rest of us to learn from.

anonymous98 · 28/03/2025 23:01

Appalonia · 25/03/2025 22:55

I know a woman who has had a v healthy vegetarian diet, has had breast cancer twice and now has Parkinson's in her 50s. She never smoked, rarely drank. There's no reason for it, she couldn't have lived a healthier life tbh. How to explain it? I don't know.

Sometimes it really is just bad luck.

My cousin never smoked, drank moderately, ate fruit and vegetables liberally and played tennis. She died, very sadly, of breast cancer in her early 50s.

We are in the process of finding out whether we have an abnormal BRCA2 gene in the family, which would explain a lot.

MrsEverest · 30/03/2025 03:10

AquaPeer · 27/03/2025 09:47

This is so, so true and I can’t believe we all missed it for 5 pages.

I work in a health system that is two tiered - private and public.

It makes me laugh heartily that people think profit-driven care is better. So so many people believe this, who in fact have zero idea about good quality health care and commonly believe if the hospital has nice carpet and offers wine with dinner its a good a hospital........ It remains the case even in this system that if there is something actually wrong with you your best chance of survival is a large public teaching hospital. I would have nothing more than the most minor of surgery in a private hospital, having experience working as a doctor in both settings and having both the knowledge and the finances to obtain the best care available in the private setting.

MrsEverest · 30/03/2025 08:58

soupyspoon · 25/03/2025 10:48

Im not sure why it matters that people didnt eat UPFs because they didnt exist, the fact of the matter is they didnt and our health has got worse in many aspects since then

We might be living longer but are we living longer in health? I dont know the stats on that

Also nothing wrong with bread and dripping, not sure why people are aghast at people eating fat.

Not sure why you thought I was 'aghast' at fat from my post? What a bizarre conclusion.

If you think a healthy diet involves a daily lunch of white bread and dripping, so 1/3 of meals without protein or vegetables, with around ten cups of sugary tea on top, our views certainly differ.

frozendaisy · 30/03/2025 12:33

IlooklikeNigella · 27/03/2025 14:50

I don't understand this mentality - no I haven't watched his stuff online but I have an opinion on it. What are you basing the opinion on?

My post sounds rude I know, it's not meant to be. I have tried rewriting it.

We watched the documentary.

It’s all edited of course.

He didn’t seem happy, from a NT viewpoint, chasing a dream of aging backwards and not enjoying the precious life time he has right now. Never eating out, or kicking back, or not taking 142 tablets a day or going to bed/getting up late.

Does the planet need people living to 160? Especially rich ones, their individual carbon footprints are huge.

He could put his time, money and indisputable enthusiasm to projects that would benefit him, and more people right now and probably have more fun in the process.

Would he be doing this without social media? Could it be a way he remains relevant in his mind?
He didn’t come across as a sane, relaxed, happy guy.

It all seemed lonely and pointless to us. Which is a shame because he didn’t seem like a horrible man, just lost.

CarrieOnComplaining · 30/03/2025 17:04

My grandparents often ate bread and dripping, as did my Mum.

It was properly baked bread from the baker, or made at home, often wholemeal. Not the stuff made in the fast method sold in supermarkets.

And the dripping was a layer of fat and a layer of jelly from the meat, juices, bone stock, etc, glistening gelatine protein rich jelly. This is what dripping is.

Yes, a lot of fat, but not hydrogenated etc.

And they all lived to over 90.

sunshine237 · 30/03/2025 20:10

Appalonia · 25/03/2025 22:55

I know a woman who has had a v healthy vegetarian diet, has had breast cancer twice and now has Parkinson's in her 50s. She never smoked, rarely drank. There's no reason for it, she couldn't have lived a healthier life tbh. How to explain it? I don't know.

Being vegetarian is not healthy. We are designed to eat meat.

Appalonia · 01/04/2025 01:15

sunshine237 · 30/03/2025 20:10

Being vegetarian is not healthy. We are designed to eat meat.

It's interesting you say that, as I've been reading about pp going keto, even carnivore, and it helping with Parkinsons.

Meadowfinch · 01/04/2025 01:30

My two relatives who lived past 100 had a number of things strikingly in common.

  • they walked almost everywhere
  • they cooked from scratch,
  • they lived rurally, so had plenty of space and clean air
  • they were relatively stress free, neither working outside the home
  • neither drank much, or smoked
  • neither was wealthy so their diets were fairly basic - lots of stews, home grown seasonal veg etc.
  • both were busy, cheerful, sociable, opinionated and would pitch in to help others.
hattie43 · 01/04/2025 06:50

mushroomshroom · 24/03/2025 20:57

I think it's scary that so many seem to think all cancers/illnesses are lifestyle related. I know very healthy people who have had heart problems, cancer, lung issues, high blood pressure etc.

I think we massively overlook the impact of stress on one's health and the importance of social interaction.

This .
every person I know who has had cancer was slim and fit . When I myself was under the 2 week pathway the consultant had a shopping list of interests .
had anyone in the family had cancer
did I now or ever smoke
had I ever worked in a building know to have had asbestos
had I ever had contact with harmful chemicals through work or recreation eg weed killers .
nothing at all about diet and exercise .

BigDahliaFan · 01/04/2025 08:18

Places where people generally live longer, Japan, and skinnier, SE Asia, often use a lot more fat, connective tissue, collagen etc in their diets. The stuff where we go yuck. Like dripping .

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