Abuse claims and rape culture identified at 1,600 primary schools

[Diabladingo]

Posting in AIBU for traffic. I just think that all parents should know about this:

https://www.thetimes.com/article/602e2322-5012-4efc-b961-a501ae2faf8f?shareToken=6c9795cf780b8ee57ef55102b54f2b88

That's a horrifying report ☹️

I feel like this is just the tip of the iceberg. I just don't understand why we are not up in arms about this as a society? If children were exposed to this kind of thing in real life it would be a huge safeguarding incident, but for some reason the reaction is not the same when it's online.

Primary School

It's really awful! How did we get here?

well at least it’s being identified and not ignored or brushed under the carpet

Bloody HELL.

PRIMARY school children. This is truly a dystopian nightmare.

Horrifying.

Recently, my friend's granddaughter was assaulted by a boy in her class. He put his hand up her skirt and tried to pull her pants down but luckily she had tights on.
When the head questioned him he said "I wanted to put my finger in her ....".
They are both 6, year 2.
We imagined it was a rare occurrence but it seems not.

I'm bumping this post as I want as many parents to see it as possible

Absolutely shocking! This needs to be tackled now - society is breeding generations of future men (and women) who have been raised on the normalisation of hard core and violent pornography from primary school - a terrifying prospect for everyone.

Yes it’s disgusting. The mixed secondary school statistics are even worse. Porn is to blame and we are doing eff all about it. And people get criticism for placing their daughters in the single sex private system (like me)

WTAF. This is unacceptable. What happened to boys pinging your bra strap and that being annoying. This is really dangerous.

I am also outraged because I don't know for sure but I suspect this isn't happening in private schools which are generally calmer due to smaller class sizes and separate gender houses.

If it is going to continue like this then I think separate gender teaching is the only answer. It's completely unfair on girls education to expose them to this.

There needs to be absolute fucking outrage because it should not be accepted as the norm.

At 11 years old, my son had a girl in his year group call him and masturbate down the phone to him. He liked this girl. He’d talked to me about asking her to go to the cinema with him. He was so incredibly upset by what happened and I was — and still am — very worried about what has gone on in her life to make her think that was something she needed to do to impress him.

Awful. My son came back from school and told me another boy had asked to look at a girls privates in the toilet - I asked if he told a teacher and he said he did at which point they intervened. Realistically a child in each class will be experiencing CSA too and then the increase and availability of porn and access to devices will be having a huge impact.

When I was young there was one family computer and porn was boobs in lads mags.

This doesn't surprise me, dd had a friend who whilst chatting disclosed some nasty comments by the boys in the class about sex and when I mentioned it to the mum she was like stone
I tried to encourage her to tell the school but she said it's boys being boys.
I reported it because I didn't want my dd in that environment and I got silence from the outstanding rated Catholic schools

This is just so disturbing. I feel we are not doing enough as parents.

When I was in school in the late 80s in reception a boy took my pants off me and looked at my private parts in the home corner being a "dr".
Last year I was discussing this with a family support worker who said it was just playing Dr's and nurses and happened all the time at tje nursery she used to work at.
Firstly I don't believe in the whole "Dr's and nurses" idea, but secondly if this idea is promoted in nursery and reception as "being ok" then it will only progress further on in primary school.
It's a truly horrific situation

This is utterly horrifying

Did you report it to the school?

@JeanGenieJean that’s a safeguarding red flag. To even be aware of such things at the age of 6 the boy must be being abused at home, exposed to abuse or an adult in the house must be watching pornography.

If the Head hasn’t contacted social services please, please do so - this needs reporting.

I hope the little girl is ok: a victim of sexual assault at 6.

Of course I did. The school said they would speak to her but as I’m not her mother I’ve got no idea what that entailed.

My friends daughter was sexually assaulted in year 5 in the classroom. When my friend complained the school thought the solution was for her daughter to move class to get away from the boy who did it! Not for the boy to be suspended/moved.

I read about this in the times this morning. I checked the list of primary schools and was very glad to see my child’s wasn’t on it. The stories on the website are horrifying. What can we do to tackle this? We talk a lot at home about body boundaries, use correct names for body parts and emphasise the fact these parts are private and I know they sing the pantasaurus song at school. I would like some more guidance on how to approach these subjects with young children to keep them safe without scaring them. I remember some incidents at school in the 90s of boys at school asking to see private parts etc (so it’s clearly a normal curiosity) but there wasn’t this dreadful online porn culture back then which clearly makes it all so much worse. When I was growing up it was also a time when sex and body parts weren’t spoken about and I remember asking my parents around age 7 and getting shamed for doing so. I guess what I’m saying is how do we handle their normal curiosity without shaming them and also keep them safe.

I think most of the times I was sexually assaulted it was by privately educated boys

Depressing. I'm not sure it's new; I suffered more sexual harassment at primary school in the 1980s than I ever have since (I went to a single-sex secondary, thank God). But I'm sure online porn has made it much worse.

It is awful. However if young boys are behaving in this way it also says they are victims of abuse at home, either by being exposed to sexual imagery or being abused themselves.