Boyfriend keeps pushing my boundaries

[Hurricanejsms]

Bfs family is visiting and he keeps allowing them to come in my room unannounced. It’s my time of the month and I got blood on the sheets which they seen from him not telling them it’s off limits. So embarrassing. Everytime I try telling him it turns into an argument and he gets defensive and tells me about how bad I treat him and he tries so hard to please me. How am I in the wrong?

FFS - what does that involve? Does he expect you to skivvy around after his family while he's at work?

There is no justifyble reason for them to be in your room it's your own private space and frankly quite weird.if your partner can't see why it would upset you and turns it into an argument then you are better cutting your losses and find someone who respects you and understands you need your privacy.

he tries so hard to please me well he’s not is he? Tell him if he wants to please you he needs to listen to what you want which is NOT to have his family in your bedroom.

This.

He can act however he wants.

It's up to you to decide if you are happy with how he acts.

Please dump this entire family.

Of course he has!

Seriously I would pack a bag and leave them all to it.

He is absolutely taking the piss out of you.

Can you go out for the whole day? I would if I wasn’t working from home. Commenting on the blood in the sheets is vile. Obviously it’s embarrassing and no sane person would comment. But then no normal person should be going in someone else’s bedroom uninvited.

You absolutely have to dump him. Nothing else is going to work.

Not just because of the coming into your room but also the leaving you to host 🤬

The word is NO, OP. Start using it.

why are you not at work?

I'm sorry but - they made comments??? What comments and in what context? That is weird AF.

Well does he have to work? Why aren't you working? What does "hosting" mean?

When my GPs visited my parents still went to work and left them to make themselves at home. They didn't need "hosting".

Why haven't you answered why they needed to go into your room or what exactly was said about the blood?

Whose house it it?

1. Tell family to fuck off out of your room and stay out
2. Tell boyfriend to fuck off full stop
3. there is no 3

Do you and your boyfriend live together? When you say 'my' room do you mean a room that's just yours, or is it also your boyfriend's bedroom?

Why, exactly, are his family going into the bedroom? Are they going in while you're in there, without knocking? Or are they going in when you're not around? And are we talking about kids or adults? It's very, very weird if they're adults who are wandering into your bedroom uninvited in the first place, let alone commenting on the state of the sheets.

How long have you been together. Do you live together, sounds like you do. Could you have a relationship without living together? Then when his parents visit him they won't be able to access your room, you don't have to see them at all if you don't want to. Life is so much easier when you don't live together.

How long have you been together, has he always been a dick or is it a more recent thing?

How long have you lived together?

Is this the first time they’ve visited?

They’re very rude to enter your room and he’s being a twat for making you feel like you’re in the wrong.

They don’t need to. They just do to speak to us. Without knocking. Oh god at this risk of sounding like a complete idiot I’m a SAHM. There was once a time where partner was Prince Charming. Once we had dc and I stopped working that chivalry went out the window. Along with his respect for me. Tale as old as time. Hosting means showing them around. Entertainment while partner is gone. Cleaning duties etc. I believe it was “have you got any other sheets.”

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Why on earth would they need to come into your room?

I’d throw this one back OP. This is bizarre and the fact he isn’t supporting you is crazy.
It’s your house and you have the right to privacy.

I feel like if you got married and had kids you’d have much bigger issues on your hands down the line.

In future do not host them when he is at work.

For now, tell them to please not go into your room as you could be getting changed.

When DP gets back then he can host them.

Once they’ve gone home then I’d seriously consider whether this relationship is right for you.
He doesn’t sound like he respects you at all.

We do have one dc. Im a SAHM hence the hosting. I’m not completely vulnerable as I’m a shareholder in our company 50/50 so I wouldn’t be out if I left. Just thought I’d mention that so you guys don’t think I’m a total idiot lol. I definitely feel like one for putting up with this behaviour.

Ah I apologise if I have missed that already. Yeah I think you need to crack down hard and if you want to give him the chance to prove himself then he gets one. It’s totally inappropriate.

Time to go back to work, @Hurricanejsms.