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So, who is going to employ all these disabled people the government wants to wean of welfare

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Jimisnotmyname · 18/03/2025 16:14

Really wondering. Not saying it is necessarily a bad thing to encourage those who can work, to work but as a carer for 2 disabled family members, I am hugely struggling to find another job as nobody is willing to give me any flexibility (which I need as a carer) and there are always candidates who do not need the same accomodations I do. I would imagine that many of those currently not in work because of disability or a health condition, will often need a similar level of flexibility. I just wonder who on the the government think will offer jobs galore on these circumstances??

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And knowing how humans love to exploit each other, perhaps there could be a catchy motivational sign over the entrance, like, I don't know, "work will set you free" perhaps? And when regulators popped round, any talented inmates could play in an orchestra and smile for the cameras?

How can restricting people's freedom and autonomy be considered in any way "not punitive"?

How much productivity could be achieved, given that the costs of running such places would have to be less than the "profit"?

I am hoping this post was sarcasm, but if it isn't and if it's thought to be a good "solution" I really do despair.

MferMonsterSearchingForRedemption · 19/03/2025 11:10

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Do I get to to live with my husband at this self-contained community?

Kirbert2 · 19/03/2025 11:12

0ohLarLar · 19/03/2025 07:08

Crohns disease is one of the worst illnesses and I wouldn't wish it on anyone, ever. The agony I'm in is unreal. My poor neighbours can often hear me groaning, sobbing and yelling in pain. Nothing helps. I shit myself constantly because it causes bowel incontinence. I use the toilet 10+ times a day and cannot keep food and drink in, so have to have meal replacement shakes which don't stay in either. I have to sit in hospital for regular infusions, operations, feeds. Not absorbing any nutrients causes me to have severe anaemia, malnutrition and I faint if I move.

My colleague has a crohns and a stoma, the stoma was a game changer. Almost all corporates (ours included) make loads of adjustments and concessions for disabilities. I have colleagues with major heart conditions, cancer, with children with disabilities, people caring for elderly relatives. I have a relative with cancer & type 1 diabetes who has always worked (with sick leave when in hospital eg for surgery & treatment).

Believe it or not, getting up and going to work every day really can help people feel good, especially with mental health. It can also widen the circle of people around you to provide support. A member of my team suffered a bereavement recently and we've all rallied round to support her. Our employer provides mental health support and private health insurance that has meant many of us have accessed treatment for things which could have limited our ability to work. There are several staff groups providing support with a range of things. People seem to write off companies as not willing to employ anyone but ive had 4 jobs in the last 10 years and all of those employers have offered flexible work, mental health support & a range of other things to facilitate work.

Meanwhile when my son had a stoma, it made things even worse for him. He doesn’t have crohns but the idea of the stoma improving his quality of life was similar.

It was horrendous and his surgeon got him in for his reversal surgery as soon as it was safe to do so.

That’s the thing, people are different and can have similar issues with different outcomes.

ColdwarEra · 19/03/2025 11:17

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MferMonsterSearchingForRedemption · 19/03/2025 11:21

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I wonder if I can do my normal job whilst living there? Or would I have to get another job in this community.

Who would help care for my husband?

I mean, your idea is clearly brilliant. Well played.

SleeplessInWherever · 19/03/2025 11:24

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That’s not a real suggestion, surely. Work prisons.

MistressoftheDarkSide · 19/03/2025 11:26

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You used the words "a cross between a Victorian workhouse, a prison and a company town", all of which limit freedom and autonomy. While some company towns may have worked well when philanthropy was a hobby of the 19th century industrialists, most were a cover for indentured servitude, trapping people in the poverty they claimed to alleviate.

Is it really voluntary if there is no other viable option?

What of families being separated, the impact on children?

This smacks of out of sight, out of mind, as long as the profit is generated.

If you were desperate, and disabled, would you be rushing to sign up?

ColdwarEra · 19/03/2025 11:31

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SleeplessInWherever · 19/03/2025 11:33

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That’s actually fine for some people. Keep the current system, I don’t mind paying for it, and I’m sure there are others that don’t.

I genuinely do not care about paying for DLA, PIP, Attendance Allowance or Carers Allowance. Not a single bit.

So yes, let’s not send them to a work camp when we could all just develop some humanity and pay for it.

ColdwarEra · 19/03/2025 11:35

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MistressoftheDarkSide · 19/03/2025 11:38

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Well how about we look at tax avoidance and evasion? Or the government itself with its failed vanity projects? Or the shuffling around of contracts between ministers and dodgy shell companies?

How about recalibration of a market that asset strips and profiteers leaving people in debt to struggle paying for the basics? How about looking at how billions can be written off in debt for big corporations while Ethel has her TV confiscated for failing to pay debts that grow with interest and charges that go straight into the pockets of "businessmen" to get special planning deals from nearly bankrupt councils?

Just a few ideas.

GreatAuntMaude · 19/03/2025 11:41

GreatAuntMaude · 19/03/2025 09:59

Crohn's is a relapsing remitting condition and an IBD team would usually aim to enable people to achieve remission. Your friend should not be being left in that situation. There is a huge range of medications available and not all of them work in the same way so I would be surprised if every one made her vomit, and if they do then she should be considered for surgery.

One consistent thing about our Crohn's journey is how consistent medics have been in saying that there are no specific food restrictions in Crohn's, though very recent research looking at eliminating emulsifiers in the diet is promising. There are also a couple of diet plans that some people follow - specific carbohydrate diet, for example, or the Crohn's disease exclusion diet.

The Ng tube feeding for Crohn's is usually an 8 week course liquid diet to try to induce remission in children, steroids are more usually used in adults. NG feeding doesn't in itself cause further irritation to the gut, or it wouldn't be the first line treatment for children.

In short, I suggest your friend complain to PALs if the only thing her IBD team is doing is suggesting she avoid certain foods.

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Got a laugh emoji on this, not sure why. I assume someone is cynical that people with Crohn's can sometimes achieve wellness or expect good quality care.

No one should just accept wasting away in agony when this is a condition with multiple treatment options including an ever growing list of medications and surgery and people can and do achieve disease free periods.

I would not accept this for my daughter who has Crohn's and your friend should not accept it. If her IBD team is so useless that they are literally just suggesting restricting her diet then she needs to complain or ask to switch hospitals.

SleeplessInWherever · 19/03/2025 11:41

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Erm, do I?

Or do the government need to realign who they’re targeting, and the general public need to not encourage that by wanting to lock disabled people away until they prove “their worth”?

I’m not responsible for changing other people’s shitty attitudes.

BobbyBiscuits · 19/03/2025 11:44

Icanthinkformyselfthanks · 18/03/2025 21:38

@BobbyBiscuits , obviously there are people totally unable to hold down any type of employment but these reforms are clearly not aimed at them.

I feel like they're aimed at me and others like me. Who maybe don't have a very obvious physical disease. I'm terrified. The reforms will lead people who are unable to work to be denied enough money. They've changed the goalposts. That doesn't make someone more capable of work.

Icanthinkformyselfthanks · 19/03/2025 11:49

BobbyBiscuits · 19/03/2025 11:44

I feel like they're aimed at me and others like me. Who maybe don't have a very obvious physical disease. I'm terrified. The reforms will lead people who are unable to work to be denied enough money. They've changed the goalposts. That doesn't make someone more capable of work.

@BobbyBiscuits , if your issue is genuine my understanding is that you have nothing to fear.

Puyyt · 19/03/2025 11:51

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How about the rich and powerful rather than the most vulnerable and poor?

ilovesooty · 19/03/2025 11:54

WeylandYutani · 19/03/2025 11:03

It sounds like you want the disabled to just be hidden away. Have no autonomy over where they can live.
No thank you.

Straight out of the Reform playbook
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WeylandYutani · 19/03/2025 11:55

Icanthinkformyselfthanks · 19/03/2025 11:49

@BobbyBiscuits , if your issue is genuine my understanding is that you have nothing to fear.

Everyone keeps saying that. It is not reassuring at all. Even people you deem as genuine are going to lose money.

DodoTired · 19/03/2025 12:00

PickAChew · 19/03/2025 09:35

Nothing can stop them but the information submitted would need to be consistent with their condition and history to be accepted. Stating that you're too depressed to wipe your own bum would be hard to prove unless you already had such help from a nurse or care agency but for someone severely autistic who cannot manage their daily care and any semblance of continence has been a long battle, the statement would not be out of place.

Thank you for answering!

cantkeepawayforever · 19/03/2025 12:06

WeylandYutani · 19/03/2025 11:55

Everyone keeps saying that. It is not reassuring at all. Even people you deem as genuine are going to lose money.

Or those who really need help will face huge barriers of bureaucratic and medical ‘proof’ that their disability make extraordinarily difficult to gather.

Severe and acute mental health difficulties; energy-limiting disorders; physical conditions that limit any appointments or meetings out of the home; impaired cognitive ability - all of these will make extremely worthy applicants unable to ‘just complete the 26 page form and supply medical evidence from 2 different specialists supporting your case’.

I have had recent experience applying for reasonable adjustments for a disabled student, where the process for application was directly discriminatory against their particular disability. While I completely understood the need for ‘a robust process’ in the face of increasing demand, the process itself prevented the genuine cases from successfully applying. The less disabled you were, the easier it would have been to apply.

DreadInvestigations · 19/03/2025 12:20

WalkingonWheels · 19/03/2025 00:31

It's not extreme, though. As someone with Crohns, I spend time in hospital with others who have Crohns. I've never met anyone in real life with the disease who can live a normal life, let alone do extreme sports and work full time.

Get out of jail free? What do you mean by that? Do you mean obtain the absolutely pitiful £900 a month that disabled people get from PIP? £400 if the mobility element is used on a wheelchair or car.

Do you honestly think disabled people capable of working are choosing not to, for nine hundred fucking quid a month?

I work as a consultant psychiatrist.

When I did Liaison psychiatry and worked in a general hospital, we had so many referrals for Crohn’s disease patients. I feel that illnesses like this and ulcerative colitis do not get enough focus or research. They can be completely debilitating. The physical discomfort/agony, the exhaustion, the inability to leave home and the side effects of powerful medications can be horrendous. And of course it will affect mental health for many of these patients.

It is so easy to take health for granted until you lose it.

TheLovelinessOfDemons · 19/03/2025 12:26

My DS cannot work bc he needs to nap frequently. I'd like to see them try and make him work.

GreatAuntMaude · 19/03/2025 12:28

My daughter has Crohn's and she has friends with Crohn's.

She is currently in symptomatic remission. She has 100 percent attendance in school bar going to hospital for her 3 monthly bloods. She is on adalimubab and azathioprine. Her friend on infliximab is also well and has been for 5 years.

Her Crohn's is severe and she has had one resection, delayed puberty and some growth restriction. However right now she does live a completely normal life and there is every hope for her future. One of her teachers has UC. It is possible for some people to live full and happy lives with IBD.

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