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Would you consider this “having stuffed yourself all day”

626 replies

ThatJolly · 17/03/2025 11:43

I was talking to a friend and she accused me of competitive underrating, which i certainly was not doing! I referred to my eating as having stuffed my face all day and she told me to get a grip and she found what I said triggering!

What I ate:

  • Scrambled eggs (2 eggs) with veggies toasted sarnie
  • Beans on toast (2 slices)
  • Half a carton of precut pineapple
  • chicken wings and celery with hot sauce
  • a child’s plate of ravioli and homemade cheese sauce (this was on top off my dinner and purely a craving, I was full so it was very much not needed)

I went to bed uncomfortably stuffed. So to me i did “stuff my face all day”

What do you think?

OP posts:
BitOutOfPractice · 18/03/2025 18:36

BlackStrayCat · 18/03/2025 17:19

Not where I live they dont.
They have a sliced bit of baguette with Olive Oil or grated tomato or ham.

What do you think white baguette is?

BlackStrayCat · 18/03/2025 18:38

See message upthread.

Stravaig · 18/03/2025 18:51

This thread would be greatly illuminated if every poster included their BMI and whether they consider having that BMI is healthy for themselves and for society. Essential context to interpreting each comment.

asrl78 · 18/03/2025 18:58

Gymmum82 · 17/03/2025 11:50

No I wouldn’t say that’s ‘stuffing your face’ that sounds like a very average day to me.
That wouldn’t even meet my calorie requirements let alone exceed them

I could eat that for breakfast. For a days food that is a low intake but everyone is different and some people are satisfied more quickly than others. To be accused of deliberately undereating sounds to me like they are ashamed of their over-eating and the OP unintentially triggered their shame.

TheHerboriste · 18/03/2025 19:12

asrl78 · 18/03/2025 18:58

I could eat that for breakfast. For a days food that is a low intake but everyone is different and some people are satisfied more quickly than others. To be accused of deliberately undereating sounds to me like they are ashamed of their over-eating and the OP unintentially triggered their shame.

Spot on.

BlueBatsAndBakewellTarts · 18/03/2025 19:23

BitOutOfPractice · 18/03/2025 18:36

What do you think white baguette is?

Yes but it’s a teeny tiny French Spanish baguette

BlueBatsAndBakewellTarts · 18/03/2025 19:26

YoNoHeSido77 · 18/03/2025 18:14

I think it is relative.

For me, it would be overeating as I don’t eat even close to that amount.
For instance I’ve just had fish and chips, I ate 3/4 of a mini fish and 6 chips and I’m sat in the car with my stomach out and window open as I feel so full.

so of you don’t eat much, its a lot, if you do eat a lot, it’s not.

6 chips? We’ve lost sight of what a normal portion is.

(did you count the chips as you were eating them? 🤔)

SleeplessInWherever · 18/03/2025 19:35

TheHerboriste · 18/03/2025 14:20

Funny, I don't recall saying anything about the relative calories or nutriional value of either a panini or salade nicoise.

That's exactly what I meant above about people becoming paranoid and reading value judgments into perfectly ordinary conversations. Please don't project your issues onto my statements.

My reference was to aesthetics and relating to the OP's lack of appetite for yet another sandwich. When one has had a surfeit of starch, a cool, crisp, veggie salad (we don't know if she uses dressing or not; I generally do not) is more tempting than yet more starch and grease. Which is a characteristic of panini, I know as I had one last month!

You’re exactly right. I had butter on a baked potato in 2022, can still taste the grease now.

Give me strength. This thread is bordering on parody 😂.

Horses7 · 18/03/2025 19:43

You’re an amateur glutton and need to try harder!

Audiprettier · 18/03/2025 20:43

PsychoHotSauce · 17/03/2025 11:44

I'd just tell her you're not a mind reader and you can't be expected to know in advance what she would find 'triggering' <eye roll>*

*Unless you know full well she has significant food issues, as she clearly does.

This! ☝️

DisabledDemon · 18/03/2025 21:20

More than I would eat but I guess it depends on your metabolism. That amount of food would make me feel uncomfortable.

Bubblesintheair · 18/03/2025 21:27

I eat 4 slices of bread most days plus more carbs for dinner and at least 2000 calories. I'm almost 5'10 and so I seem to burn it up
Your day of eating would have been a diet day for me as I have a very sweet tooth and struggle not to eat loads of sugar every day. Amazed how many people think your intake was loads of food.

MumWifeOther · 18/03/2025 21:43

Whycanineverthinkofone · 18/03/2025 10:33

Yes you need to eat that to maintain a healthy weight, and that’s fine. I’m the same.

would you describe yourself as so “stuffed” though that you couldn’t face a panini the following day?

that amount for me is consciously restricting to maintain my healthy weight. It’s not overeating in any way shape or form.

the issue is the language around food. The categorising into good and bad and linking that to whether we’re good or bad. Food being “fattening” or “slimming”, the negative connotations of someone “stuffing their face” as a weak willed, greedy pig. Implying anyone who eats the same or more is a bad person.

i’d like to know what o/p eats in a normal day if that’s overeating.

Yes but what the op describes seems like a lot more than 1200 calories. If I ate that in one day I would feel horrendous, and actually yes, if ever I do over eat the wrong foods I actually don’t want / fancy anything like a panini afterwards!

MyLimeGuide · 18/03/2025 22:12

Greenqueen40 · 17/03/2025 11:49

That would be a days food if I was on a diet, another tedious competitive undereating thread...

Ha ha me too!😂

shehasglasses48 · 18/03/2025 22:16

Really unpleasant food but not more than an average calorie count for a day

mrlistersgelfbride · 18/03/2025 22:22

Well I'm a a diet and I've eaten more than 1700 calories today!

I can't believe your friend asked you what you ate and you answered like that, sounds like you are both a little obsessive when it comes to food?
I've known some of my friends 35 years and I've never once told them everything I ate in a day.
Too much unnecessary detail, think about something else.

scotvic · 18/03/2025 23:15

I absolutely hate people who talk about their weight and/ or how much or how little or what exactly they ate! Everybody’s different and many women have some food issues - nothing is more annoying than thin people going on about how quickly they feel full (if like me, you never feel too full, have food addiction, struggle with weight etc.) Or people who ‘couldn’t eat another thing’’ - but then proceed to help themselves to your chips or half your dessert! Using the unpleasant phrase “stuffing your face” (whether about yourself and whether you are genuinely overeating or disingenuously under-rating) is judgmental and crude and likely to be triggering.

Booboomylove · 18/03/2025 23:38

ThatJolly · 17/03/2025 11:46

I dont normally eat FOUR slices of shit bread but I was on my period

Oh my god! 4 slices of bread in a day! Call the carb police! Get over yourself OP, 2 slices of bread / equivalent carbs at a meal is the recommended serving size. What was your main meal BTW - chicken wings and celery sounds like a snack to me.

Booboomylove · 18/03/2025 23:46

BlackStrayCat · 18/03/2025 17:32

It is "pan rustico" but I was roughly translating for you into English. It lasts12 hours max.

It was not UPF, made to last a week shitty white sliced bread.

It's not wholegrain though is it, its white bread = low in fibre / b vits and higher GI

TheHerboriste · 19/03/2025 00:39

MumWifeOther · 18/03/2025 21:43

Yes but what the op describes seems like a lot more than 1200 calories. If I ate that in one day I would feel horrendous, and actually yes, if ever I do over eat the wrong foods I actually don’t want / fancy anything like a panini afterwards!

Edited

Exactly. People can ingest whatever they like but denying that some of us DO feel overfed on 3-4 slices of bread plus fillings in a single day is absurd.

Many people, esp small / lean people, maintain on 1,200 calories a day, mostly veg and protein.

TheHerboriste · 19/03/2025 00:41

Bubblesintheair · 18/03/2025 21:27

I eat 4 slices of bread most days plus more carbs for dinner and at least 2000 calories. I'm almost 5'10 and so I seem to burn it up
Your day of eating would have been a diet day for me as I have a very sweet tooth and struggle not to eat loads of sugar every day. Amazed how many people think your intake was loads of food.

Well, I’m a foot shorter than you and likely 30 years older.

Wait till all of the 2,000 cal/day ilk hit 60. Methinks you’ll change your tunes and your diets.

ammamug · 19/03/2025 00:52

Well I have eaten a shit load of food ,scrambled eggs,pasta with chicken,crisps and lasagna today washed down with a few glasses of wine . All ok with me !

TheHerboriste · 19/03/2025 00:54

BlueBatsAndBakewellTarts · 18/03/2025 19:26

6 chips? We’ve lost sight of what a normal portion is.

(did you count the chips as you were eating them? 🤔)

Have you ever looked at the size of mid century and antique place settings?

the plates and bowls are teeny compared to today. And yet those people worked harder and moved more than nearly anyone does today.

Also old recipe books. I just read one where 500 grams of mince was the main course for eight people. Dated 1930.

Now that’s considered two modest burgers.

come on.

HellDorado · 19/03/2025 01:05

discocherry · 18/03/2025 18:05

Also the repeated “women need 2000 calories a day” isn’t true. I’m 5 foot 1, I go to the gym 4-5 times a week (only incline walking let’s not get ahead of ourselves) and I do between 10-15k steps a day and my MAINTENANCE is bloody 1800-1900 ish.

So your MAINTENANCE is a whole 100, maybe 200 at a push, calories lower than average? Even though you’re four inches below average height?

HellDorado · 19/03/2025 01:07

TheHerboriste · 19/03/2025 00:54

Have you ever looked at the size of mid century and antique place settings?

the plates and bowls are teeny compared to today. And yet those people worked harder and moved more than nearly anyone does today.

Also old recipe books. I just read one where 500 grams of mince was the main course for eight people. Dated 1930.

Now that’s considered two modest burgers.

come on.

Who knew we weren’t living in the mid century?