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Obviously I did it just to spite my 15yr old

332 replies

Oollliivviiaa · 16/03/2025 14:10

I broke the shower this morning.
Obiously I did it purely to spite my 15yr old and no one else could possibly be as inconvenienced as her by having to have a bath instead.
What things have you done on purpose purely to make life difficult for your teen (according to your teen)?

OP posts:
Tagyoureit · 16/03/2025 19:54

Ph3 · 16/03/2025 14:31

I ruin my pre teen’s (12) life on the daily by: asking him to shower, put deodorant, brush teeth properly, do homework, to please get up otherwise he’s going to be late for school, set the table, when dinner is ready, picking up his clothes from the floor…

Are you sure you're not living with my 11 year old son???

I looked at him the other day and was told off!

Cojones · 16/03/2025 19:58

I do remember having a huge paddy one Christmas because I wanted a navy blue woolly jumper. And the one they gave me was a navy blue wool jumper not woolly the way I wanted. I bloody loved that jumper in the end 🫣🤭

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 16/03/2025 19:59

AmiablePedant · 16/03/2025 19:50

Utterly with you. Although at the time I was half-convinced that late at night my parents secretly sat down together and MADE PLANS about how they might embarrass me in public. My mother probably bought that dark blue anorak for herself for this very end.

Oh definitely. Could they not even have made an EFFORT. Look at them in their clean, intact but deeply uncool clothes. What must people think of us.

Strange thing is the older I get the more I realise how liberating it is not obsessing worrying over what your wearing and that nobody in public really cares anyway. So that's something else I owe him an apology for when I get up there!

ElfAndSafetyBored · 16/03/2025 19:59

I think my teen is broken as he scowled when I wouldn’t let him buy a £200 bottle of fragrance and take a second shower today (he’s done nothing all day, let alone anything that would break a sweat!).

CosyDenimShark · 16/03/2025 20:00

I've just made the mistake of buying DS a brand spanking new Berghaus backpack for his DofE Silver. His walk is 30 miles in the Devon summer so I got one that circulates air on his back in case its hot.
Apparently, he wants to take the one he took for his Bronze last year that has lived in the attic for 25 years (with the exception of his walk), which is knackered, has a musty stink despite being washed twice and has no mod cons.
I'm an idiot & have wasted my money. How absolutely rude of me to try and make his walk more bearable!

Ph3 · 16/03/2025 20:01

Tagyoureit · 16/03/2025 19:54

Are you sure you're not living with my 11 year old son???

I looked at him the other day and was told off!

And rightly so! Why would you think that’s an acceptable thing to do? I hope that taught you a valuable lesson for next time! 😂

NilByMuff · 16/03/2025 20:02

I told my daughter & now my grandkids that I practice really hard to be embarrassing 😁
It's an art form

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 16/03/2025 20:03

Poppymeldrum · 16/03/2025 19:52

Yes,dp has just told me this
I honestly thought it was in a hotel room for some reason
I either heard the news wrong at the time,or have picked up the wrong info at some point

Everyday is a school day

Where you getting muddled with Michael Hutchence perhaps? He didn't shoot himself but did die in a hotel room.

Ionacat · 16/03/2025 20:04

I am the worse mum in the world according to teen DD, because I don’t know where every item of her clothing is at every single moment and I put clothes in the wash and hang them out and then she can’t find them. Both DDs seem to expect me to telepathically know where every single possession is at any given moment!

Tagyoureit · 16/03/2025 20:05

Ph3 · 16/03/2025 20:01

And rightly so! Why would you think that’s an acceptable thing to do? I hope that taught you a valuable lesson for next time! 😂

Yes I have learnt my lesson!

I must avoid eye contact and profusely apologise whilst delivering all meals in front of him and I must immediately know that ketchup is now a right and not just a condiment.

Poppymeldrum · 16/03/2025 20:08

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 16/03/2025 20:03

Where you getting muddled with Michael Hutchence perhaps? He didn't shoot himself but did die in a hotel room.

That's most likely-i remember both deaths being on the news but it looks like my brain has taken in the wrong details about both men
Didn't he die by having something wrapped round his neck?
I do remember both deaths but I have some details mixed up
Joys of being old I guess lol

Zeroperspective · 16/03/2025 20:11

My mum used to walk up to people in the street with a really enthusiastic 'oh my gosh hi I've not seen you for ages how are you?!' She wouldn't give them much of a chance to answer before announcing we were in a rush but they must absolutely catch up soon and to call her. We would walk off and I'd innocently ask who was that mum? She be killing herself laughing and tell me no idea but they'll be wondering all day now who I am! If we were in the car she would beep and very over the top wave to people walking in the street (9/10 they would wave back) cue the exact same conversation with her having no idea who they were and laughing at them puzzling and asking their family over dinner did they know who drove X car 😂 I was never really embarrassed tbh (she did and still does way worse lol) i either laughed with her or on occasion I did eye roll
I now do the beep and wave but I've never had the balls to do the walk up to in the street 🫣

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 16/03/2025 20:11

Poppymeldrum · 16/03/2025 20:08

That's most likely-i remember both deaths being on the news but it looks like my brain has taken in the wrong details about both men
Didn't he die by having something wrapped round his neck?
I do remember both deaths but I have some details mixed up
Joys of being old I guess lol

Yeah that's the one.

Ph3 · 16/03/2025 20:13

Tagyoureit · 16/03/2025 20:05

Yes I have learnt my lesson!

I must avoid eye contact and profusely apologise whilst delivering all meals in front of him and I must immediately know that ketchup is now a right and not just a condiment.

No one can really prepare you for it really! And for us it was almost overnight so I think I was caught off guard 🥴

MargaretThursday · 16/03/2025 20:17

One I remember cringing inside out was when I was in year 7, me and dm met a girl (with her mum) who had been at primary with me. She'd had her hair cut in a bob.
Dm greeted her with something along the lines of:
"Oh! You've had your hair cut now. Margaret never had the longest hair in the form because yours was always longer."

I had never expressed any desire to have the longest hair in the form, and there were others who had longer hair too. But the way dm put it, it sounded like I'd always been desperate to say that my hair was longest.
I have no idea why she came out with that - she made it sound like the other girl had deliberately thwarted me.

lifeonmars100 · 16/03/2025 20:19

just had a flashback to my then 15 year old telling me that my purse was "too young" for me, it was an innocuous plain pale blue but apparently people in their dotage should only have plain black accessories so as not to draw attention to themselves!

Oollliivviiaa · 16/03/2025 20:26

atmywitsend1989 · 16/03/2025 19:07

🤦‍♀️ That would make sense if the teen had broken it herself but it's incredibly stingy and selfish to expect a teen to pay for something that a parent broke. Parent's responsibility is to fix it although I agree that she'll live with just the bath

We got a replacement shower today but we need to sort out the plumber so im guessing a week or so until its fitted. The bath is perfectly fine in the meantime and she'll just have to deal with it.

We've told her she is bloody lucky that we can just get a new shower. That then started her off about how all I do is have a go at her (I wasn't btw). Followed by the FACT that ALL her friends have their own bathroom and its not fair that she has to share one bathroom with her parents.

Her attitude today has stunk and it's been really unpleasant.

OP posts:
Anonycat · 16/03/2025 20:28

We were the ONLY parents not to buy our daughter a car as soon as she reached 17.

scalt · 16/03/2025 20:30

When my mum and I were staying with a friend of hers, we saw her friend being told by her teenage daughter (in a Nottinghamshire accent), in no uncertain terms: "I 'ate everyfing about yer, mum!", and the mum didn't bat an eyelid, as she had heard it all before.

My mum then said to me (I was 15 at the time) that it might do me good to let off steam like that, and to say the same thing. After a lifetime of being told that rudeness was a very bad thing, I wasn't sure if she was joking or not. Perhaps she would have preferred this to the silent seething I tended to do instead, when I didn't get my way. That was another thing I despised about adults at the time - the inconsistency. One moment, you're supposed to do this, the next, you're supposed to do that.😝

Clownfish9 · 16/03/2025 20:31

I have horrendous hayfever today and just sneezed several times in my tweens bedroom (whilst helping her with her homework!) and she yelled ‘ugh, can’t you just take an anti histamine!’
Because of course I hadn’t thought of that had I 🙄
Excuse me for the pollen count being high.

scalt · 16/03/2025 20:38

I remember a time as a teenager that I was trying to have a Saturday morning lie-in, and I could hear my mum loudly talking about the housework that needed doing that day, with the strong implication that she was going to make us do it. I got the hoover out there and then, and started doing it in my pyjamas. She wailed "that's a horrible way of reacting!".

Redscrunchie · 16/03/2025 20:39

We have ruined 16yo ds's birthday today by singing happy birthday and presenting him with a cake in the restaurant.

He said he cannot ever trust us again and will never go out on his birthday with us for the rest of his life 😂

SinnerBoy · 16/03/2025 20:41

Runnersandtoms · Today 18:16

I'm a terrible parent because I didn't go shopping yesterday (due to leaving the house at 6.30am for a work thing when everyone else was snoring). Since my daughter used up the milk the previous night making smoothies there was no milk for cereal. And also apparently there was 'no food in the house' (there is a fridge, two freezers and two cupboards full of food). The outrage that she had to get in the car I pay for, drive to the shop and get some milk herself.....

My God! You, you evil, I can't even think of a word for it!!

Hallelujah2020 · 16/03/2025 20:45

If your teen every gives you the silent treatment or moods in public then do what my mum would do, go completely still and then very dramatically pretend cry

Worked everytime and because you knew it was coming you didn’t half snap out of the strop quickly 🤣🤣

Sortalike · 16/03/2025 20:54

Today I have angered the Kraken because...

I suggest she might want to brush her hair.

I didn't buy white batches, DD has to have a wholemeal batch tomorrow for her lunch

The gravy wasn't brown enough

There was a "disgusting" carrot on her dinner (in fairness they weren't the nicest carrots)

I asked her to shut the drawers in her bedroom.

She's almost 10. I'm seriously considering entering a convent.

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