I've read out bits of this thread to dp who has reminded me of the story of his dad (who I adored and miss so much)
Dp swears he had the best parents and the best childhood
Dad was a bit of a del boy,always ducking and diving but worked hard for his family and played even harder for himself
He smoked too much,ate all the wrong foods,drank a lot and didn't do any exercise
Dp told someone that dad was in the SAS and this kid didn't believe him and they ended up having a fight (dad couldn't have been less SAS material)
He kept it quiet at the time,but years later the story came out (at this time dp had been married,became a father of 2,had got divorced and met me)
He had a tantrum because his dad just LOOKED at him (in the only way his dad could) and asked why he said that?
48 years old and he threw a tantrum over something that happened when he was 14
It ended in a sobbing mess and 'you promised me a bmx and bought me a racer!'
I guess he'd been holding onto resentment all these years!
We laugh about it now and it was mentioned at his funeral