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Wingingitnancy · 16/03/2025 19:15

So if they suddenly cut off support to those who need support to get well enough to work..is the support ready to step in when the money is cut, so they can get better to work and then house themselves? Or do we just leave the disabled needing the treatment with nothing till they add it in later?

NapT1me · 16/03/2025 19:15

Gloriia · 16/03/2025 19:13

Oh because of the massive increase in PIP claimants for those allegedly with mh problems.

The stigma has definitely gone but it has gone too far the other way. Everyone is ND nowadays.

Also you really need to educate yourself. ND is not mental health.

TheKeatingFive · 16/03/2025 19:16

NapT1me · 16/03/2025 19:14

So one poster wants kids taught to manage their emotions. Another doesn’t want emotions identified or strategies identified .🙄

This is a deliberate misreading of people's points.

Its not hard. Negative emotions are a normal part of human experience. They shouldn't be pathologised, but people should be taught to deal with them.

NapT1me · 16/03/2025 19:18

TheKeatingFive · 16/03/2025 19:16

This is a deliberate misreading of people's points.

Its not hard. Negative emotions are a normal part of human experience. They shouldn't be pathologised, but people should be taught to deal with them.

By identifying them and developing strategies. ND children will need a lot of support to do this.

TheKeatingFive · 16/03/2025 19:19

Veronay · 16/03/2025 19:15

Community isn't something you really choose to have though. When it's lost it's almost impossible to rebuild. Modern life means few people even know their neighbours faces let alone names, they are all working too much and are too arrested to have time, mass immigration has fractured old communities, the rise of tech has meant people are less sociable generally and the constant stream of bad news/ barrage of white from the Internet makes people hostile and suspicious of one another. Add in underinvestment in community basics like parks and libraries and you can see why there's absolutely nothing left for most people now..

I can think of six or seven avenues people who want a greater sense of community could pursue where I live.

I agree it isn't a given anymore, but it's can be found by people who understand it's importance and are willing to actively seek it out.

I don't live in a rich area btw. In fact, I think it's easier to access in less privileged places.

soupyspoon · 16/03/2025 19:20

528htz · 16/03/2025 19:14

Yes, life wasn't easier then, but humans were more adapted to it. Tens of thousands of years of human evolution and adaptation means that people could endure because they weren't living in a captive type situation. People now are living in the human equivalent of a zoo. They also had a philosophical framework (their religion) to enable them to cope with death and suffering.

I wonder if that is accurate though because humans are hunter gatherers. We were not farmers. We turned ourselves into farmers. We were also nomads, we turned ourselves into non nomads (not sure what the word is, perimenopause) because of course you cant be a wanderer and tend land.

The human zoo has existed for a long time

DancefloorAcrobatics · 16/03/2025 19:20

anonymous98 · 16/03/2025 19:03

At the risk of being harsh, hardly anyone on this thread actually possesses a basic understand of what mental illness entails for many people. Even anxiety can be crippling if it's bad enough.

Nobody is getting PIP for mild mental health problems.

I only partially agree with you.

Being diagnosed with something like anxiety can actually make it worse.

Many personality types then go away thinking and obsessing about their diagnosis. And let's face it Dr google, algorithms & social media will feed into this obsession. I believe many people end up feeling far worse over a very short period of time compared to their first diagnosis.

There is a whole community out there feeding your anxiety, whilst before the Internet, it was you and your GP or threapist trying to adress the issues at hand.
Nobody is at fault, not the patient nor the doctor it's just human nature.

Gloriia · 16/03/2025 19:20

NapT1me · 16/03/2025 19:15

Also you really need to educate yourself. ND is not mental health.

ND and mental health problems. So many people now have ADHD (that is ND yes?) And/or have anxiety and depression. Many of the behaviours are normal human reactions but of course some people do have significant issues that require a diagnosis and treatment.

The problem is those with genuine and significant illnesses get lost in the masses who jump on the mh/ND bandwagon sadly.

528htz · 16/03/2025 19:22

Streeting would be better off addressing problems with the education system and with employers first of all.

0ohLarLar · 16/03/2025 19:23

Yea, I think we are now pathologising normal (albeit uncomfortable) emotions and a range of personality traits

I agree with this. And there seems to be this vibe that we can't ever find life hard or stressful without diagnosing it as "mental health". We have a real resilience crisis & lack of proportion. We live in a remarkably safe country with mild weather and plenty of food. In the context of the world the vast majority of us are incredibly privileged. There is relatively little true poverty, and what there is is often a more complex issue inter related to things like addiction.

Gloriia · 16/03/2025 19:23

528htz · 16/03/2025 19:22

Streeting would be better off addressing problems with the education system and with employers first of all.

He's the health sec why would he do that?

NapT1me · 16/03/2025 19:24

Gloriia · 16/03/2025 19:20

ND and mental health problems. So many people now have ADHD (that is ND yes?) And/or have anxiety and depression. Many of the behaviours are normal human reactions but of course some people do have significant issues that require a diagnosis and treatment.

The problem is those with genuine and significant illnesses get lost in the masses who jump on the mh/ND bandwagon sadly.

No I don’t think self medicating, SH, dangerous impulsivity, depression due to the huge struggles that come with afhd and autism( many have both), EDs, massive anxiety due to sensory issues and communication difficulties which are very common with ND etc are normal or easy to just get on with.

528htz · 16/03/2025 19:25

Gloriia · 16/03/2025 19:23

He's the health sec why would he do that?

His colleagues need to address this then. They can all talk about it together.

soupyspoon · 16/03/2025 19:25

Yes those with an ND disorder will more than likely have comorbid MH disorders. ND is considered a divergence in brain function but that is a theory, and like any disorder and condition like that it has criteria that has changed over years, diagnosis has changed over years.

Schizophrenia has been like that, its an umbrella term really for a number of differering symptoms and types and there continues to be flux in how that is diagnosed and whether that is the correct diagnosis for someone.

To say someone is ND is considering a number of traits and symptoms under an umbrella, it used to be divided into levels of severity, some countries still do this, I suspect it will change back again.

soupyspoon · 16/03/2025 19:27

I think there is a lot of validity in observations that many people with poor MH are being made worse, or are in fact depressed and anxious because they have untreated, unrecognised physical health needs. He needs to focus on that first.
Waiting lists of over a year for tests and scans and follow up appointments for example. Dreadful

DaffodilsGalore · 16/03/2025 19:28

That’s great to see that the OP, some posters and a minister are now better placed to diagnosed people than, let me check …., doctors!

Does it apply too to let’s say cancer, auto immune disease?
If Wes says it’s over diagnosed, he knows better than the doctors who ve seen the patients.
Anazing. We don’t even need doctors anymore!!

TheKeatingFive · 16/03/2025 19:28

Whether we would be temperamentally happier pursing a hunter gatherer lifestyle is an interesting question, but not one we will ever be able to accurately answer.

There are things that we know are good for human existence that we need to start fighting for. Community, (real) connection with others, meaningful things to pursue.

DelilahBucket · 16/03/2025 19:28

I agree with him, it is over diagnosed, and often used as an excuse to opt out of life. That said, there's a lot of things in the modern world that are causing problems. If people weren't attached to mobile phones and social media all of the time, if work was go to work and come home again, if teens could escape the pressures from their peers, if people actually went out and interacted with humans face to face rather than all behind a screen, a lot of societal problems would go away. Technology has a lot to answer for and in many ways hasn't improved our lives at all.

BigBellyBob · 16/03/2025 19:29

I agree, but I think the bigger issue is over diagnosis of neurodevelopmental conditions such as asd and ADHD.

KnottyAuty · 16/03/2025 19:30

Swiftie1878 · 16/03/2025 15:44

Anxiety diagnoses are very dangerous imo. Real care needs to be taken when signing off on this.

I have a teenage daughter who tells me that practically every single one of her girl friends have anxiety. They don’t. They just get stressed like every teenager in the world, ever.
Telling children that they have anxiety is telling them that they can’t cope with lots of situations. Instead we should be telling them that getting stressed is a normal emotion and we should be teaching them how to deal with it. I have serious concerns for the generation coming through right now. Very few will be able to properly function in life because they’ve been told, formally, that they can’t.

Completely agree!

DaffodilsGalore · 16/03/2025 19:30

Gloriia · 16/03/2025 19:23

He's the health sec why would he do that?

Because sometimes, just sometimes, problems are linked!!

Oh surprise!

NapT1me · 16/03/2025 19:30

BigBellyBob · 16/03/2025 19:29

I agree, but I think the bigger issue is over diagnosis of neurodevelopmental conditions such as asd and ADHD.

Evidence for this?
It’s not easy to get a diagnosis.

528htz · 16/03/2025 19:32

TheKeatingFive · 16/03/2025 19:28

Whether we would be temperamentally happier pursing a hunter gatherer lifestyle is an interesting question, but not one we will ever be able to accurately answer.

There are things that we know are good for human existence that we need to start fighting for. Community, (real) connection with others, meaningful things to pursue.

There are still hunter gatherer tribes around the world. I will see if any research has been done on them. I do know that the ones which have been introduced to drugs and alcohol don't do very well afterwards though.

DancefloorAcrobatics · 16/03/2025 19:33

There are things that we know are good for human existence that we need to start fighting for. Community, (real) connection with others, meaningful things to pursue

I'll add the great outdoors & exercise to that list.

DaffodilsGalore · 16/03/2025 19:33

BigBellyBob · 16/03/2025 19:29

I agree, but I think the bigger issue is over diagnosis of neurodevelopmental conditions such as asd and ADHD.

So you know better than the doctors, SALT and clinical psychologists, all specialised in that area who done the diagnosis.

Sounds good.

And you know better because?
You’ve read research papers on the subjects?
You’ve trained in that area?

Or is it just a feel? What the nice minister has said so it must be right?

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