Daughter is wearing inappropriate bikini on family holiday.

[romma]

We are going on holiday to Cyprus and daughter has bought a bunch of thong style bikinis, she’s a teenager but how do I talk to her about it. As there will be extended family

well it is beachwear and she is going to be at the beach. She is also an adult. I haven’t been to Cypress but thong bikinis aren’t out of place on the beach holidays I’ve been on.

don’t think this is a hill I’d choose to die on.

On every beach holiday I've been on recently, thong bikinis are very much the vogue, even on 50 or 60+ year old women. Maybe not with British tourists but everyone else.

I wouldn’t want to see her bottom cheeks, don’t think it is just about male relatives.

I’m like do it if you are alone not when everyone is around

Gross how?

tell her you love them and order some of your own! See how she feels about her mum getting her arse out. Tell her to send you the link.

Ah tricky. Well you have said the right thing She may feel differently when she is actually there. Could you take some sarongs just in case she changes her mind I agree with you entirely as I have been in a similar situation. I just emphasised how beautiful she looks but said ‘granny and grandad are not used to seeing you like that ‘ she did tone it down thankfully

I do own a couple but also will be in sarong

It was ever thus. Honestly I’d let it go. If the grandparents don’t want to see her arse they can avert their gaze.

And she's correct, it is entirely their problem not hers. If male relatives are uncomfortable around her because she's wearing a thong bikini then they are the concern, not her.

Maybe ask what she would think if a male relative wore a mankini

Your daughter should be encouraged to consider the feelings of those around her. If she is surrounded by family who would be uncomfortable, and I hazard a guess they might be, then other types of swim/beachwear might be a better choice. At 19, yes she’s an adult, but she needs to learn she’s not the centre of the universe and other people and their feelings need to be considered as well.

@romma how can you tell her not to wear them if you are wearing similar?

I would tell you are going to join her and will wear yours at the same time and ask the other relatives to do the same

Was just going to post "this exact thread has never been posted before 🙄"
But you beat me to it!

Who are you referring to sorry?

Tell her if she intends to wear it. You will too....and so will her Dad (if there) that ought to do the trick!

You, Derek

Insist that if she is wearing the thong bikinis on the beach that she is always discreet and covered up in the communal areas of the house and walking to and fro the beach. Ask her to pack dresses, sarongs, shorts etc. and one, one piece suit.

Tell her it is boastful to parade her young unclad body among the older, unfit relatives and that she needs to be polite and have utmost regard for her grandparents (who would see wearing such bikinis as being naked.)

Spell it out. You, and/or her Dad, wear one of her bikinis around the house for a few minutes and ask her whether she can now see how many people would feel uncomfortable. Take photo of Dad from behind and send to her phone!

Hey, I know!

Let's all post pics of teenage girl bums in thong bikinis!!!!!

Just like the last thread on this topic!