To think siblings should share bedrooms?

[dontgocrying]

Have friends and their children coming to stay with us over Easter, our oldest dc haven’t seen each other for years so don’t know really know each other, youngest ones have never met.

I assumed siblings would share bedrooms and they assumed that girls and boys would share.

AIBU to think siblings should go into together for a couple of days even if boy/girl than to expect children to share with basic strangers just because their the same sex?

How old?

Depends on ages

I wouldn't be putting near strange kids in with mine no. They'll have to share or you can recommend a b&b or something.

Completely depends on the ages. And I, unfortunately, have experience of this turning out really badly.

Yep, age is key here.

If the kids are all little (pre puberty), then I agree that siblings should share. If they're older, I would split it by sex instead.

For context the COC SA happened between a 9(B) and 8(G) year old.

Yes, we need to know how old they are?

8 kids between us. youngest is 3, oldest is 13

I wouldn’t expect my children to give up their bedrooms for my friends. Friends should find a hotel or a B&B. It sounds like you have older DC, what do they think about sharing/giving up their personal spaces?

Was that from siblings sharing?

I don't actually know, this is a tricky one and different options could work depending on age, sex and personalities of the kids/teens. What do they want to do?

Yes.
Not permanently but when they stayed at a relatives.

It doesn’t sound like it’s going to work. That’s quite a spread of ages and the children don’t even really know each other.

Maybe see what the kids are comfortable with?

I agree.

My kids were excited for them to come based on the idea that they would be sharing with siblings to make room. Based on their assumption their kids were probably happy to come and share with our children of the same sex

Is the 13yo yours or your friend's? I'm really surprised if you would expect your own teenage dc to share with dc of the opposite sex.

But the big age gaps could be difficult too. Are there no other options? Airbeds in the living room for some?

I'd guess that if you've offered to host them and they are all tweens or older, you'd put the girls together and the boys together.

Their own siblings? I (f) used to share with my brother on holiday until when we were teens. We'd just change in the bathroom. I think that's much less weird than sharing with people you don't know, potentially with a wide spread of ages, just because you're all girls or all boys.

Depends on house size and available rooms. Unless the children are actually friends and want a sleep over in their rooms (age and sex dependant), I would have either the visiting family together in one room or the visiting children in one and adults in another.

Yes, with their own siblings. Not a problem at all for them to share when they're little, but I think a lot of kids would hate it when going through puberty!

I'd keep the mixed sex siblings together in your position. If I had cause for concern re SA then we'd be in a crisis anyways and wouldn't be inviting friends over.

I wouldn’t expect any of my children (currently 8, 6 and 4) to sleep with other children if they didn’t know them or didn’t want to. But then I never got the excitement of sleepovers even as a child, I loved my own bed in my own bedroom!

This is really going to depend on ages and sexes as well as who is a sibling. I wouldn't expect a unrelated teen and toddler to share regardless of sex for example.

I still think we need to know all the ages and sex’s to make a decision.

My kids have a 6 year age gap and different sex, I think they would rather share with friends kids of same age / sex then each other but then I’m not sure id ask them to do either.