To think siblings should share bedrooms?

[dontgocrying]

Have friends and their children coming to stay with us over Easter, our oldest dc haven’t seen each other for years so don’t know really know each other, youngest ones have never met.

I assumed siblings would share bedrooms and they assumed that girls and boys would share.

AIBU to think siblings should go into together for a couple of days even if boy/girl than to expect children to share with basic strangers just because their the same sex?

I would have a problem with visitors telling me how they expected sleeping arrangements to work in my home. It's an overstep. It's a lot to accommodate a family of 6. Even more to be trying to dictate the arrangements.

My son and daughter would prefer to share a room with each other rather than share a room with others they don’t know just because they were the same sex. I’d always make sure my own children were happy and comfortable, what others do is their issue.

Except these are not cousins, it's the children of friends, the children don't know each other.

Your house- your rules. It's as simple as that.

I would never offer to host this many people but that is probably because my own parents come for months at a time and I now hate having overnight guests.

However in your set up , siblings together. I would not expect my children to share with strangers.

Neither approach is unreasonable but if your kids would prefer to share with their siblings then do that, you can’t make them uncomfortable in their own home!

Back in the day like back back in the day yes in our family boys and girls all chucked in one double bed at some points.
Has we got older around 10 it was all girls in one room and all boys in the next.
Im so pleased things have changed now.
I think b&b would be a good idea.

If you're kids are happy sharing then I think it's fair enough to say this and they their kids will be offered a room to share. If they don't like it they can go eslewhere

I think your plan is fine, especially given how many you are accommodating. Less room for arguments, not picks, falling out etc and they will all need a bit of solace at the end of the day without other kids in their space.

I think it makes sense for you to allocate them some rooms and let them decide. As you say they are strangers and I can understand feeling odd about sharing a room with a stranger.

Some people don't really get that cousins you grow up around and cousins that are strangers are a completely different relationship. They just think cousins are cousins.

Agree, allocate the visiting family the three rooms and they can arrange as they prefer.

(they’re not cousins though - parents are friends and the children don’t know each other / older ones haven’t met for years)

That's even stranger to me then. I think I just assumed cousins because why would you even expect unrelated people that don't know each other to want to share rooms whereas I can see why people might for cousins.

Yes, not cousins just friends.

it’s very possible after the first day my dd will get on great with theirs and want to have a sleepover but now she thinks it will be awkward at the moment and is much happier having younger brother in her room and would never want to make her uncomfortable. I can also understand that their older boy and girl might not be as comfortable sharing with each other though.

We will do some more shuffling around and make it work so everyone is happy. No intention of telling them to go elsewhere, they are guests who we invited.

Depends on the age. My parents once put my brother and I in with an older cousin; my brother ended up having to drag the prat off me.

Hmm worth a discussion we have had friends stay and it has been split by sex, other times by age, other times they have all bundled into one room and had a sleepover! However similar ages but opposite sexes. Now my eldest is 16 I think I would split by siblings