To think siblings should share bedrooms?

[dontgocrying]

Have friends and their children coming to stay with us over Easter, our oldest dc haven’t seen each other for years so don’t know really know each other, youngest ones have never met.

I assumed siblings would share bedrooms and they assumed that girls and boys would share.

AIBU to think siblings should go into together for a couple of days even if boy/girl than to expect children to share with basic strangers just because their the same sex?

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Sharing with children of the same sex was basic hospitality when I grew up and I must admit I would expect it too. What a world if we teach our kids they shouldn't be "put out" just for a couple of nights to welcome family friends!

That said we live in a dreadful world and sharing with children of the sane sex doesn't protect automatically from SA so I'd understand someone being fearful for those reasons.

But as a general rule IMO it is a bit frightening if we're teaching our kids not to inconvenience themselves or do things unless there is something in it for them.

Really? It’s totally normal to shift around sleeping accommodation to make room for visiting friends.

I would never put my children to sleep with children unfamiliar to them. You don’t know these children or their characters. I would keep my children safely together

Female siblings share.

Male siblings share.

If not enough room then point your guests in the direction of nearest hotel/B&B.

I couldn’t agree more with this post

I'd put the 3 year old with parents probably and then siblings together... But it does depend. If there are 2 girls aged 13 and 2 boys aged 8 say, it would make more sense to put the same sex kids in 1 room.

Although in general I would say siblings of mixed sex with large age gaps shouldn’t share, I’d say for 2-3 nights for this sort of thing it would be better than mixing in with unknown children. I mean if the age gap is that big. -say 3 YO boy with 12 Yo girl the girl will just sneak in much later once brother asleep anyway.

agree 3 year old with parents, then siblings share.
my 3 will happily share together, 2 m 1 f, all in their 20's, will all still bundle in together and share a big bed if needed.
though obviously not if a boy/girlfriend tags along 😂

I have 13 year old dd who would prefer to share with 11 year old ds, they have done this before on holidays. They would change separately.

Its more the idea dd would feel awkward and not know what to say if she shared with with their preteen girl.

also if my DD wants to get changed she just orders the boys out onto the landing.

Disagree the sexes are in any way relevant. The kids don't know each other. They'll all be more comfortable with their own siblings I would imagine. Siblings of opposite sexes often have to share on holiday, it's no different, these kids are on holiday so they share sleeping space.

If keep my kids together personally

I wouldn't particularly want to share a room with people I don't know so wouldn't expect my children to, especially when the easy solution is to let siblings share.

I come from a very large family. 14 aunts and uncles on my dad’s side and 11 on my mums. And 2 of my dad’s siblings married to 2 of my mums. When we got together for family gatherings our parents would wait and see who we got on with and if we didn’t click with any of the cousins it was siblings together but at least we felt we had a choice

Surely different sex siblings can share can’t they? I used to share with my brother when we went to see our dad and he only had the one extra bedroom. There were bunk beds and (of course) we always fought over who got the top bunk 😂 There’s a 4 year age gap between us.

I’m sure we will make it work if their siblings don’t want to share with each over. I can have mine in with us or more of them sharing together, can convert rooms ect.

just interesting to see what others thought. It would never occur to me to have my child share with a stranger or that it would be weirder for boy/girl siblings to share for a couple of days.

How many children each? What is the breakdown between you and your friends - number of kids, girls/boys.

So you tell them your kids are sharing with each other and if that doesn’t work for them they can book elsewhere.

Would rather the siblings shared. YANBU

I'd expect the siblings to share. I understand some people are concerned about SA with opposite sex siblings but this is very rare and SA doesn't only occur with people of the opposite sex. I'd feel more comfortable about my opposite sex DC sharing than them sharing with same sex children who are practically strangers.

We visited family and friends and siblings never shared , boys in one room , girls in another, same every time.

Thinking further, I would put it to your friends as "Bedroom wise we have these two rooms and you have those two rooms" and let them sort it out themselves. Dont make their assumptions your problem to solve.

So number of rooms and ages of all kids and who is siblings

When you say share what do you mean? Are you planning to put an extra bed or do you expect them to sleep together in the same bed?