What do you think of this family house rule?

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People in the house are not allowed to come downstairs in the morning without being fully dressed/clean and moderately groomed.

This does not apply to school kids during the week. But at the weekends/school holidays memebers of the household are not allowed to be in pyjamas. They can veg out on the sofa but they have to be groomed and in clean clothes. Trackies are allowed.

That sounds a fascinating house! I assume it’s quite old? Love the fact there’s a day part and a night part 😊

I dress very casually for work, and rarely wear make up (I do a practical/creative job that can be messy or dirty) but I like to make an effort if I go out for a meal, or to meet friends etc.

I've had comments that my children look very smart for school, and obviously they wear clean and appropriate clothes when we go out.

If any of us want to wear pjs or dressing gowns for a few hours on a weekend morning with no particular plans, then we will. What sort of standards are we meant to be upholding for pottering about/doing chores/watching tv/screens in our own...?

I will, however, break the habit tomorrow and be up/dressed early as expecting a delivery any time from 7am 😫

Why did you have kids if you want them to leave the moment they can?

Wow, your house seems relaxed & fun, NOT! 😳

being consistently moaned at for not adhering to an arbitrary rule is bad for your mental health.

I interpreted this differently. Have you ever met young adults / older teens who just can't or won't do normal things? Mainly because they have never been expected to. Things like catch a train or tube to somewhere else, ring up the doctor's surgery to make an appointment and yes, move out, when they go to university or start work.

MrsBobtonTrent · Yesterday 19:09
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It's a fine rule. Bedwear is for bed. Dress comfortably by all means. Laze about in bed if you like. But once you are up, commit to it. Better for your mental health. More pleasant for those around you. No need to stew in your filth all day. There are clothes that aren't three piece suits and ballgowns. You can relax and be clean/dressed. And more relaxing to be able to answer the door or run out in an emergency

Filth? What are you doing in bed? I’m not filthy when I get up.

Not a rule I’d ever enforce because I’m often downstairs in the morning with my PJs on making a cuppa. My kids would have completely ignored it or not bothered coming down at all and I wouldn’t blame them.

It is lovely. The original home is quite old. That’s the night part now. Cosy and dark compared to the day part.

Then a modern extension was built on and that’s mainly single storey with lots of glazing so very bright hence it suits day. But quite a length being single storey hence the ‘arm’ and me talking about trekking.

It is nice but the cons are the heating. You are basically paying to maintain a level of heat through the whole house 24/7 because we tried turning off day/night areas when not in use but then it takes too long to heat back up again and is actually more expensive. So it’s a bit wasteful really in energy.

Ah, you see, I don't think this is an arbitrary rule. Having to go by the time on the clock on the wall rather than your watch or not wearing any black clothes (both actual rules that friends of mine in senior school had to follow) are arbitrary rules. This one is easy enough to follow.

I’m not a big fan of anyone downstairs in PJs to be honest. Kids coming down having breakfast then going up to get washed and dressed it’s fine. But teenagers and adults in this house, it’s just an unspoken rule that we are all dressed. Personally PJs are bed wear but each to their own and everyone’s families and homes are different. Why open yourself up to the judgement???

Whilst it is fine to get breakfast in PJs and take time to get dressed on weekends, I really dislike the habit of people staying on PJs all weekend. There may be no good reason, but it irritates me to see this. PJs are for sleeping and casual clothes are for a weekend at home. I couldn't bear to be doing housework or cooking in PJs.

Weird and anal

If you were all naturists there would not be a problem!

It's not exactly a rule in our house, but none of us would be comfortable wearing PJ's that had been slept in as daywear. We're not clean freaks by any stretch.
I'd get dressed.
PJ's after a shower in the evening is fine.

I tell my kids to get sorted before lunch, not before breakfast

My mother was like this it was insane.

INSANE

Intrigued and amused by the comment ‘Why open yourself up to judgment?’

It’s not as if emerging for Saturday breakfast with messy hair/PJs is on par with shoplifting or GBH 😂

Nightmare. My DS lives in his PJs at the weekend, until it’s time to go out. We live in an apartment, so there’s no coming downstairs, nor do we have to worry about opening the door to postman etc.

My child is up at 5.45am every weekday ready, dressed and downstairs by 7am, leaving for the bus at 7.20/25 and gets home at 4.20pm. Of a weekend if she wants to stew in her pjs that's her choice, if we've nowhere to be, it's her time to relax after long school days all week. I want her to feel her home is a refuge not a boot camp 😆 ok maybe boot camp is an exaggeration, but you know what I mean.

If you can taste your own bad breath, maybe you should book an appointment with your dentist/hygienist.

I took that to be why did the OP start this thread when it's opened her up for a fairly serious slagging off.

Or you could just not moan at them... Because let's be honest, this isn't a 'family rule'. It's your rule.

And the teens want to comply with your clothing and cleaning dictatorship.

Sounds horrible.