What do you think of this family house rule?

[Porcell]

People in the house are not allowed to come downstairs in the morning without being fully dressed/clean and moderately groomed.

This does not apply to school kids during the week. But at the weekends/school holidays memebers of the household are not allowed to be in pyjamas. They can veg out on the sofa but they have to be groomed and in clean clothes. Trackies are allowed.

I have teens and I’ve never had this rule.

Everyone gets dressed of their own accord and it’s never caused a problem.

Imagine someone came round to visit and your child didn't have socks on. The absolute horror.

It's a bit too controlling. Nothing wrong with DC (and adults) chilling out in pyjamas for a while on a lazy weekend morning.

That said, I never allow 'pyjama days' unless someone is ill - so whilst we might all mooch around in pyjamas for a while on a weekend morning, I always make my DC go upstairs to clean teeth, make their beds and get dressed by around 11am latest. On a non-school day, assuming they don't have any sporting activities, I would also encourage DC to leave the house at some point during the day, even if to just kick a football round the garden, go for a walk for 15 minutes, meet up with a friend etc. Others may disagree but I don't think it's good for mental health to slob around in pyjamas all day and not leave the house.

But never allowing anyone to come downstairs until they are fully washed and dressed is a bit too extreme.

I find it a bit hard to get round my head people who don't just get out of bed and jump straight into the shower. I remember a thread a while back, talking about people in hotels coming down to breakfast in their pyjamas, and complaining about 'sex wafts'! 😛

Fizbosshoes

One sock a fluffy sports sock, the other a light ankle type sock- offensive is a strong word but they do sometimes give off a vibe of ‘barely trying to even exist’🙈

Unmatched socks! And the postman might see!

In fairness I have my own AIBU thread running and even though I’ve agreed a few times that I’m being U after being told, mumsnet is STILL trying to stick the boot in and accusing me of stopping off and all sorts so AIBU is always a lose lose unless you’re asking if you should leave your husband..😂

NerrSnerr

we have a very sheddy dark coloured dog, going around our house with no socks on when this is obvious looks pretty obviously manky!!!

Pretentious nonsense. I have retired after working for 50 years, there is no way I am getting dressed before my first coffee and if I'm not leaving the house I don't always get dressed. Shower every night sometimes put same clothes back on except undies.

I wouldn’t want to live by that rule. I love getting breakfast and coffee first thing and then going up to get dressed. On weekends I will stay in my pjs until we go out.

The horror 😱

As @Bloozie said, it's another

AIBU ?

Everyone : Yes

OP: No I'm not

Thread.

Oh how generous 🤣🤣

Why is dog fur on bare feet worse than dog fur on (matched) socks?

Of course you're not saying it's you... you need an exit plan, should 99 per cent of MN confirm you're a complete twat.

Completely unreasonable the poor children need to not be allowed to chill out in their own home

Awful well on the way to having anxious children who feel the need to be groomed all the time.
verging on controlling

I would move out and never look back if this were my parents house

I wander round in my pants and a vest top whenever I choose. When my kids lived at home they could wear whatever the hell they liked at home. My idea of hell!

But what am I meant to do if I need a shower and hair wash and to get dressed in something other than a sweatshirt and leggings? I need to relax with a mug of tea before getting on with my day.
Do I have to have to have my shower etc. before I can come down and have my tea, getting dressed in comfy clothes, and then changing again for the day after my tea?
Do I get up and change from pyjamas into sweats (but then I'm not clean enough for the OP), come down and have my tea, then go for my shower and get dressed for the day?
Do I have to shower, do my hair, make-up etc, get dress in my day clothe (not sweats, so less comfy) before I can finally enjoy my tea?
Or I come down in my PJs, have a cuppa, then go and shower and get ready for the day ahead.

biscuitsandbooks

well walking in any dog hair is pretty horrible surely!!!

What do I think? I think it’s a stupid rule.

I'm not showered before coffee, so I wouldn't expect my dcs to be.

I don't think people are particularly dirty after a night in bed - and the benefits of having breakfast with my children, chatting to them while they whisk up various coffee concoctions, or while they watch desperate housewives (again) outweigh any offence I may feel (none) by their pjs and bedheads.

You'd hate it here OP.
We rarely get dressed until after breakfast.
DD5 will wander round bare naked at any opportunity, and will sit and watch TV in just her knickers, sat right next to Dad in his boxers and dressing gown, whilst I read my book in shorts and t-shirt that I probably have worn at least twice before for lounging.

It seems a bit odd to not have rules for school days and then implement them two days a week.

My sister did insist that her son have a daily shower before he came downstairs just before puberty hit, as "training" before puberty hit proper and he didn't turn into a greasy stinky teenager. And it's a good job she did, because on the odd occasion he skipped it, the boy did pong (despite a nightly shower)

Surely dog fur sticks more to socks than to bare feet? Cat fur definitely does.

I kind of get where you’re coming from in the sense that saying ‘don’t slob around in your PJ’s all weekend’ is a bit woolly and will result in lots of moaning and reminding. Sometimes kids need a hard rule. If it was the hill I choose to die on I might say no PJ’s after 10am.
However, I love sitting around in my PJ’s and actually till my kids to go get out of their restrictive uniforms and get comfy and I don’t want to wash uniform lounge wear and PJ’s. Don’t know why you’d hate PJs seems random and pointless to me.