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To wonder if sister murdered or harmed deliberately ?

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Lavenderfarmcottage · 13/03/2025 15:48

My sister died aged 40 last year during a mental health ward admission/stay for mental health episode. I am not in the UK but an English speaking country with a health system similar.
I was told the hospital report into death would be thorough. Directors said it was likely the diazepam which shouldn’t have been prescribed with suspected sleep apnoea.
Recently spoke to a Journalist and read the report with fresh eyes. On the morning of her death there are conflicting statements about whether she was settled or sleeping. I have attached a photo. This report was signed by 5 executives/ directors at hospital get the report contradicts itself.
I have contacted the coroner and been igbored and the hospital. My Mother has said she thinks it’s suspicious and more than negligence but then stonewalled me and said she wouldn’t enter into discussions until my sister’s house had settled and money disbursed as that is her priority (my Mum & I are only beneficiaries). This is true to form for my Mother but I was upset that and then shut down the conversation. My Mother hasn’t read the report so it was strange for her to have this view.
I recently spoke to a Journalist who went quiet and blanked me when I asked if she’d talk to the hospital. When I asked if it was a police matter she gave me a vague answer saying she hadn’t had time to consider this but it did occur to her.
I note my sisters diazepam (cause for concern flagged in report) was left unchanged at hospital 1 & 2 despite other medications being changed 5 times.
I think what bothering me is the conflicting statements in the report and everyone stonewalling.

I think the diazepam is a read herring and I think the report conflicts because they weren’t ready to tell me what has happened but had to issue a report.

I also received weird texts from a random in the weeks before my sisters death from someone claiming we’d met. They sent me a photo of someone that wasn’t me and claimed that it was me and we’d met at the pool. At the end of the exchange they said they knew my sister and named two places she’d worked. When I showed the photo of this person to my sister she didn’t recognise her.
The above weird texter is one of of many weird contacts. My Dad died suspiciously close to a very large fraud against him that I tried to get a solicitor over. I was told recently that those involved in the fraud had police and government contexts and it’s all very dirty and that anyone who goes near it is shut down. This has been my experience as I tried for years to get answers and here I am.
I think it’s very very unlikely my sister was killed but after the diabolical push back I received regarding my Dad (I’m still not allowed to view his coronial file years later or get answers) and have been blocked from court cases and other info. I have been intimidated etc and so forth and approached over 140 lawyers and coincidentally none can help me. I think maybe anything is possible.

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AusMumhere · 16/03/2025 08:20

Regretsmorethanafew · 16/03/2025 08:05

It's patently obvious.

It is

BoundaryGirl3939 · 16/03/2025 08:24

Regretsmorethanafew · 16/03/2025 08:05

It's patently obvious.

Who gave you the authority to diagnose someone?

AusMumhere · 16/03/2025 08:31

BoundaryGirl3939 · 16/03/2025 08:24

Who gave you the authority to diagnose someone?

It really ia obvious

BoundaryGirl3939 · 16/03/2025 08:50

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AusMumhere · 16/03/2025 08:53

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I have utmost empathy for OP. Shes clearly struggling. Which is why I think you shouldn't be feeding her paranoia.

BoundaryGirl3939 · 16/03/2025 08:58

AusMumhere · 16/03/2025 08:53

I have utmost empathy for OP. Shes clearly struggling. Which is why I think you shouldn't be feeding her paranoia.

I do hope that something as tragic ad traumatising doesn't come knocking on your door AusMum.

AusMumhere · 16/03/2025 08:59

BoundaryGirl3939 · 16/03/2025 08:58

I do hope that something as tragic ad traumatising doesn't come knocking on your door AusMum.

How do you know it hasn't? Very presumptuous of you

AusMumhere · 16/03/2025 09:01

BoundaryGirl3939 · 16/03/2025 08:58

I do hope that something as tragic ad traumatising doesn't come knocking on your door AusMum.

As I said, I have utmost empathy.
And the ability to recognise when someone is struggling. Do you?

BoundaryGirl3939 · 16/03/2025 09:05

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BoundaryGirl3939 · 16/03/2025 09:06

AusMumhere · 16/03/2025 08:59

How do you know it hasn't? Very presumptuous of you

Oh, I thought your posts were based on genuine concern. Not veiled snideness. My initial gut feeling was right.Op beware. Best wishes.

AusMumhere · 16/03/2025 09:08

BoundaryGirl3939 · 16/03/2025 09:06

Oh, I thought your posts were based on genuine concern. Not veiled snideness. My initial gut feeling was right.Op beware. Best wishes.

No veiled snideness. Just a statement of fact.
I with the OP some peace.

LizzieW1969 · 16/03/2025 09:54

I think there might be something to dig up, certainly incompetence where her DSis’s death is concerned. But that’s a long way from a mass conspiracy, which the OP is talking about.

Regardless, I don’t think the OP is in a good place mentally and I agree that she should seek mental health support. Hardly surprising after what she’s been through. Once she’s in a better place mentally, she’ll be in a better place to seek any answers that she still feels she needs.

Either way, she won’t get the answers she’s looking for on an AIBU thread.

AusMumhere · 16/03/2025 09:59

LizzieW1969 · 16/03/2025 09:54

I think there might be something to dig up, certainly incompetence where her DSis’s death is concerned. But that’s a long way from a mass conspiracy, which the OP is talking about.

Regardless, I don’t think the OP is in a good place mentally and I agree that she should seek mental health support. Hardly surprising after what she’s been through. Once she’s in a better place mentally, she’ll be in a better place to seek any answers that she still feels she needs.

Either way, she won’t get the answers she’s looking for on an AIBU thread.

Well said

Lavenderfarmcottage · 16/03/2025 11:47

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Thankyou. I agree 100% with all your comments and will leave the thread. This means a lot.

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TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 16/03/2025 12:40

BoundaryGirl3939 · 16/03/2025 07:43

How do you know it's paranoia? You don't know the full facts, do you?

I suggest you read the OP's posts and reflect on them.
It's clear that she isn't mentally well.

Ilovecakey · 16/03/2025 14:22

BoundaryGirl3939 · 15/03/2025 21:53

This is an online pdf of one popular book -
www.slideshare.net/slideshow/the-brotherhood-knight-stephenpdf/263591065

I think this book is only scratching the surface. I've read others but they mostly dealt with Freemasonry in Ireland which would not interest you.

Thank you

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