“D”H being rude and spiky because of international women’s day…

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….he doesn’t think it’s fair that men don’t get a day and I didn’t agree, so I am getting the silent treatment with a helping of grumpiness, bitterness and spikiness and lots of huffing….what on earth is this about?

I wouldn’t mind but I didn’t even mention it in the first place, he brought it up. Its like living with a huffy teen.

There is one chilling statistic. In almost every time, in almost every country, in almost every society, statistically the most dangerous person in the world to almost every woman is her partner, ex-partner or male relative.

That should give most of them pause.

I'm a man, I think International Women's Day is wonderful. I don't know what some men are complaining about.

It's not a day when men routinely experience the fear of being beaten, murdered, or raped by a partner. We don't suddenly experience entrenched social misogyny, or being talked over in "serious" discussions at work.

Everyone should want to celebrate the role of women in the world, and to fight for equal opportunities for all. 50% of the population is not somehow a lesser version of men. In the current Andrew Tate, Conor McGregor world, where teenage boys have 24/7 access to porn, International Women's Day is as important as it ever was.

He sounds thick and childish. Which must be very off putting. I wonder when you realised he was like this? There must be other signs he's not bright? & hates women?
Sorry though, being married to someone like that is shit.

Ask him if he'll promise to shut up about it if it turns out there is an International Men's Day. Then show him the evidence.

Exactly - thick AND sexist, and the father of daughters, plus a sulker too. Jeez what a ravishing combo……

Exactly.

I was having fun yesterday telling men how to google, or asking them what they were organising.

OP You married a toddler who is having a tantrum because some other kid is having a birthday party and he isn't even though he had a party last week.

The bitter spiky huffing sounds hilarious 😂
You should be spiky whilst huffing bitterly on 19th November this year 😅

Men's Day is November 19th ..

I am the person at work who coordinates events for our diverse staff body (e.g. a delivery of apples and honey for rosh hashanah, dates for Eid, various talks/events for things like earth day, etc)
On IWD i always share and email with ALL of the events that are happening in our city, with links and sign up details etc
I have had SO MANY complaints over the years that i dont do the same for IMD.

Do you know why i dont do the same.....?

because there are NO EVENTS ORGANISED ACROSS THE WHOLE CITY!!

Do men really expect women to organise their own f*ing day for them?? Moaning little arseholes

Whoops, someone didn’t have a quick google before assuming all women are out to get him.

what a bellend.

Every day he gets a meal cooked for him, washing up done for him, laundry done and ironed and put away for him, and the mess he leaves in the bathroom cleaned up after him is His Day.

With that attitude of his, the entire month after IWD will surely be No Sex For Petty, Bitter Whingers Month.

Emotional abuse

"Wronged" 😂 How funny!

Such an odd thing the be upset about. Like freaking out about Christmas, because only Christians can celebrate it. Or pancake day, because it can't be enjoyed by people with a wheat intolerance...

Hopefully today will be a new day and it will have all blown over x

Why don’t you set an amazing example of the strength of a woman, you, to your children and do something about this clearly very unhappy marriage to a twat that is going to be a shit environment for them.

Hopefully today will be a new day and it will have all blown over x

no chance. As per the OP’s op and posts.

It could be that his feeds have been flooded with certain content - memes that read "feminists biggest weakness is that only ever compare themselves to the most successful 5% of men and never to the least". The problem is, there is something in that. Some feminism can be very alienating.

The rules of misogyny -

1. Women are responsible for what men do.
2. Women saying no to men is a hate crime.
3. Women speaking for themselves are exclusionary and selfish.
4. Women’s opinions are violence against men, thus male violence against women is justified.
5. Women and Feminism must be useful to men or they are worthless.
6. Women who go around being female AT men by menstruating and breastfeeding babies deserve punishment.
7. Women should always be grateful to men for everything.
8. Men are whatever men say they are and women are whatever men say they are.
9. Men always know the “real reasons” for everything women do and say.
10. The worst thing about male violence is that it makes men look bad.
11. Whatever women suffer from, it is worse when it happens to men.
12. Women’s ability to recognize male behavior patterns is misandry.
13. Angry women are crazy. Angry men have trouble expressing themselves.
14. Women have all the rights they need: The right to remain silent.
15. Men are the default human. Women are strange subhuman others.
16. Everyone owns and controls women’s bodies except the women themselves.

Sometimes if he feels criticised or if he feels he is having to do jobs when no one else is, or if he’s tired and can’t be bothered doing something involving effort

The irony of this on IWD.

How does that even come up as an argument?!
He's a dick.
Tell him if he's that bothered his day is in November.

Thank goodness for @EsmeSusanOgg telling us something that was first said on page 1 😂 and so many, many times since...

Make yourself some coffee and get some fresh air @HH4432

No need to be so rude.

Since clearly lots of (mostly men) do not know. Saying it more than once for those hard of understanding hurts no one.

I hadn't a clue about this until someone told me at my voluntary job. Does this work like chivalry where it is a weak form of compensation for pissing on them the rest of the time?

I used it partly as an excuse to buy one of the ladies who occasionally comes in to asssist when we are short staffed a bunch of deep pink roses. She tends to be up and down emotionally, is concerned about her brother and (as I have been told in the past) is in a sub-par marriage. The reaction I got is one of the joys of life and why I love women.

This is addressed in this article and is a good read. It gives a more balanced view of the roles of men and women in society than the extremists either side would like us to believe.

https://medium.com/cregox/is-there-anything-good-about-men-by-roy-f-baumeister-d111ba407de3

"Men on Top

When I say I am researching how culture exploits men, the first reaction is usually "How can you say culture exploits men, when men are in charge of everything?” This is a fair objection and needs to be taken seriously. It invokes the feminist critique of society. This critique started when some women systematically looked up at the top of society and saw men everywhere: most world rulers, presidents, prime ministers, most members of Congress and parliaments, most CEOs of major corporations, and so forth — these are mostly men.

Seeing all this, the feminists thought, wow, men dominate everything, so society is set up to favor men. It must be great to be a man.

The mistake in that way of thinking is to look only at the top. If one were to look downward to the bottom of society instead, one finds mostly men there too. Who’s in prison, all over the world, as criminals or political prisoners? The population on Death Row has never approached 51% female. Who’s homeless? Again, mostly men. Whom does society use for bad or dangerous jobs? US Department of Labor statistics report that 93% of the people killed on the job are men. Likewise, who gets killed in battle? Even in today’s American army, which has made much of integrating the sexes and putting women into combat, the risks aren’t equal. This year we passed the milestone of 3,000 deaths in Iraq, and of those, 2,938 were men, 62 were women.

One can imagine an ancient battle in which the enemy was driven off and the city saved, and the returning soldiers are showered with gold coins. An early feminist might protest that hey, all those men are getting gold coins, half of those coins should go to women. In principle, I agree. But remember, while the men you see are getting gold coins, there are other men you don’t see, who are still bleeding to death on the battlefield from spear wounds."