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Would you be grossed out by homemade baked good in care package?

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 15:35

I am helping my sister put together care packages for her wedding. She is paying for the wedding party to stay in a posh hotel for a few nights. We are going to leave little care packages on the bed. I have an exceptional brownie recipe and was going to leave a trio of favours in the box. But sister’s SIL says she would never eat a homemade treat due to hygiene reasons.

obviously I will be clinically clean and wil even wear a hair net as I couldn’t think of anything worse than someone finding a hair.

Who is being weird?

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ThreeMagicNumber · 07/03/2025 16:34

I don't eat home made from bake stalls made by strangers but in this situation from someones family member I know I absolutely would.

Fizbosshoes · 07/03/2025 16:34

This is a bit like how lots of MN are different from all other school mums...
Presumably posters own kitchens are not horrendously dirty, infested, and outrageously unhygienic.....but they imagine everyone else's are....?

Icanttakethisanymore · 07/03/2025 16:34

Hortus · 07/03/2025 16:33

The people who refuse to eat anything homemade by someone else ever, do you refuse to eat when you go to family/ friends' houses, do you refuse to eat their meals, and do you never go to dinner at anyone's house?

I get why people may not want to eat food made by a total stranger, but what about family and friends, when you know the state of hygiene of their home and if they wash hands etc?

I get why people may not want to eat food made by a total stranger

Surely any food you buy is made by a stranger?? I'm totally flummoxed by this thread.

oakleaffy · 07/03/2025 16:35

BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 15:42

Well I thought the same. I have a brand new kitchen and you could eat off my floor. And I give a shit about hygiene. It’s going to miles better off than most commercial kitchens

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I haven't yet met a woman who bakes lovely cakes who hasn't had a clinically clean kitchen and house.

I'd certainly eat them.
Cats probably are a germ risk, as they can get up on surfaces, but cat free houses are fine. {Or keep cat away from kitchen}

FallOfTheHouseOfUtterlyButterly · 07/03/2025 16:35

Icanttakethisanymore · 07/03/2025 16:30

"Suspicious looking home made brownie in it" 😂

How will it look suspicious?? This can't be real.

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Must think all home made brownies are weed brownies 🤣

Ameliepoulainandthephotobooth · 07/03/2025 16:36

I wouldn’t because of allergies but otherwise would!

NImumconfused · 07/03/2025 16:36

BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 16:26

So sister is very type a. The packages are going to look spectacular. The brownies will be packaged beautifully. Sister and I (and our mum) actually enjoy crafting. It’s all going to be very aesthetic. It will include treats like chilli pretzels, brownies, fancy crisps etc, something for hydration. Mum is going to get her favourite chocolate. Bridesmaids are getting matching pyjamas for the getting ready pics. Bride and groom are writing personal notes.

It’s probably a bit ott but we enjoy this thing and it’s a small wedding (only 50 people).

I can’t imagine anyone in the wedding party would be anything but appreciative. Th me brownie thing I’m still not sure about.

Sister and I probably need to deactivate our Pinterest after this wedding

If it's that small surely most people will know you and your sister and therefore have a reasonable idea of whether you can be trusted to bake hygienically?

StrawberrySquash · 07/03/2025 16:36

Whatever you supply someone won't eat it because it's the wrong flavour/too unhealthy whatever. You can't please all of the people all of the time. So I say go ahead it sounds lovely.

ColaGeranium · 07/03/2025 16:36

I wouldn't eat it, no. In general, I have found people's hygiene, particularly around food, to be lacking. I rarely eat out.

Glittertwins · 07/03/2025 16:37

Homemade brownies??? I'm there, I love them!

FastFood · 07/03/2025 16:37

Today I've learned that eating a homemade cake is now "utterly rank".

More cake for me I guess.

Pickingmyselfup · 07/03/2025 16:37

Icanttakethisanymore · 07/03/2025 16:30

"Suspicious looking home made brownie in it" 😂

How will it look suspicious?? This can't be real.

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Could be one of "those brownies" i.e. an edible. That's the first thing that popped into my head anyway when I saw the word suspicious.

If it is one of those brownies then I'm afraid I'll pass, twice is more than enough to last a life time!

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 16:37

BettyBardMacDonald · 07/03/2025 16:17

We don't eat others' homemade food for hygienic reasons. They would go in the bin, sorry.

Tbh all of this faff (personal notes, treats, welcome kits, etc.) is eye-rolling. It's an ordinary wedding, not the second coming. Best wishes to the marrying couple but guests don't need all of these embellishments. It's kind of presumptuous to think that the event is so exceptional that souvenirs, etc., are required. No offense but it's a lot of expense, energy and use of the planet's dwindling resources for something that will be forgotten about or put to back of mind 48 hours later.

Okay. And that is your opinion.

The fact you are are considering it wasteful is interesting. Given the wedding is half the average uk size. And the gift package will consist of a reusable bag and some snacks packaged in recyclable packaging.

Some people enjoy the small details and personalising things for the people they love. you don’t. That’s fine.

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diddl · 07/03/2025 16:38

Brownie you say?

Exceptional you say?

I'd have scoffed that before any thought of who made what where had occurred to me.

Would you care to share the recipe?

Boriswentcamping · 07/03/2025 16:38

I have had food poisoning twice from eating food cooked for me by friends / family.

I've also had food poisoning from a well known restaurant chain.

Having worked in restaurants and behind the scenes, I actually try not to eat in them....Confused I Also avoid home cooked food where I can.

Sad really but i think some people lack basic food hygiene and I've had bad experiences that I would rather not repeat.

ThreeMagicNumber · 07/03/2025 16:38

Pickingmyselfup · 07/03/2025 16:37

Could be one of "those brownies" i.e. an edible. That's the first thing that popped into my head anyway when I saw the word suspicious.

If it is one of those brownies then I'm afraid I'll pass, twice is more than enough to last a life time!

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Once was enough for me, never ever ever again 🙈

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 16:38

NImumconfused · 07/03/2025 16:36

If it's that small surely most people will know you and your sister and therefore have a reasonable idea of whether you can be trusted to bake hygienically?

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I don’t know anyone of the groom side

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Breadcat24 · 07/03/2025 16:38

Bottle of wine box of chocolates- nothing people have "handled"
Think the pyjama thing is wasteful and un -ecological in the extreme.
Just concentrate on the wedding, some of these additions are ott

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 16:39

KittenPause · 07/03/2025 16:25

Tbh the care package is a strange idea imho especially if she's already paying for the rooms

Why on earth is she paying for everyone's rooms

Then giving a random care package with a suspicious looking home made brownie in it

Cause she bloody well can 😂

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NImumconfused · 07/03/2025 16:39

BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 16:38

I don’t know anyone of the groom side

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No but presumably your sister does?

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BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 16:40

Breadcat24 · 07/03/2025 16:38

Bottle of wine box of chocolates- nothing people have "handled"
Think the pyjama thing is wasteful and un -ecological in the extreme.
Just concentrate on the wedding, some of these additions are ott

How so? The pyjamas will carry on being used.

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InWithThePlums · 07/03/2025 16:40

Worried861 · 07/03/2025 15:40

It wouldn't occur to me not to eat it but I am very lax with caring about these things 😂

Same.

ClafoutisSurprise · 07/03/2025 16:40

I’d eat them without a second thought. Like at least one pp, I’ve never heard of anyone becoming ill after eating a piece of homemade cake. Would I eat a cake I knew a cat had sat on in a dirty kitchen as someone mentioned upthread? No. But because it isn’t a pleasant thought, not because I think it would make me ill.

Out of sight, out of mind when it comes to other people’s home baking.

Lollypop701 · 07/03/2025 16:40

Can you post me some? Sounds fantastic and I think much more personal than bought goods! I’ve had cake pops made to look like me from a wedding once… still up there as favourite wedding favour

DoorToNowhere · 07/03/2025 16:40

If it looked good I'd eat it!

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