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To think that some people’s actions are so vile, it feels like they’re not even human?

35 replies

AlertBird · 06/03/2025 11:29

There are certain individuals whose behaviour just seems so cruel, selfish, or malicious that it’s hard to believe they’re actually capable of empathy or decency. Whether it’s taking advantage of others, hurting people for no reason, or just being utterly toxic - sometimes I wonder if there are people out there who are just beyond help.

Am I being too harsh? Or are there truly some people who just lack basic humanity?

OP posts:
Wildflowers99 · 06/03/2025 11:39

Trump? Levi Bellfield? Yes.

Calling somebody toxic for sharing a few hard truths or not enabling you? No

Nothatgingerpirate · 06/03/2025 11:43

Wildflowers99 · 06/03/2025 11:39

Trump? Levi Bellfield? Yes.

Calling somebody toxic for sharing a few hard truths or not enabling you? No

Not Trump again, surely.
How about Mr. Zelensky?
I'm sure some stuff is gonna come out in time, we might all be very surprised about.

ZeldaFighter · 06/03/2025 11:47

I think of all the billions of humans, some are born wrong and there is no help for them.

For the majority, I think our start in life, our upbringing, experiences, abuse or trauma all determine how we develop empathy and morals. I think the Internet, radicalisation, sexualisation and pornography also can push people on or off dark paths. So this can be changed - people can be or get better 😀

SometimesCalmPerson · 06/03/2025 12:04

Humanity includes humans that don’t feel empathy and compassion for whatever reason, so no, there are no humans that lack humanity. It’s all part of the same condition.

anniegun · 06/03/2025 12:08

Trump , Musk and Vance seem to fall into this category. Plus Putin of course

Chuchoter · 06/03/2025 12:13

Zelensky of course.

KimberleyClark · 06/03/2025 12:13

Nothatgingerpirate · 06/03/2025 11:43

Not Trump again, surely.
How about Mr. Zelensky?
I'm sure some stuff is gonna come out in time, we might all be very surprised about.

Are you suggesting Zelensky is to blame for his country being invaded?

Trump cares about power and money. Nothing else.

EmmaMaria · 06/03/2025 12:15

Nothatgingerpirate · 06/03/2025 11:43

Not Trump again, surely.
How about Mr. Zelensky?
I'm sure some stuff is gonna come out in time, we might all be very surprised about.

Whereas the stuff about Trump, Musk, Vance and Putin is already out there, meaning that there is very little now to be surprised about because we know for a fact how vile they are.

But no OP, I don't agree. The fact is that they are human, and it serves as a reminder to us all that it is largely the choices that we make that define us. Pretending that some people are so rotten through and through that they are not human simply hides us behind the fact that we could be just as bad if we chose to be.

Panterusblackish · 06/03/2025 12:17

I see the bots are out.

Zelenskyy has said he would step down as leader if Ukraine could join NATO.

Hardy the act of a man who lacks basic humanity. Rather the act of a leader who puts his people first.

Motnight · 06/03/2025 12:18

Humans are complex. Capable of great acts if kindness and courage. Also capable of unbelievable cruelty. It's what makes the human race as diverse as it is.

stayathomer · 06/03/2025 12:20

Was once at the seafront and a man and his two children were putting chips down for the seagulls to come over to, then throwing chips at them or shouting. I shouted ‘hey’ at them and got the most chilling stare back from the dad

AlertBird · 06/03/2025 12:21

Panterusblackish · 06/03/2025 12:17

I see the bots are out.

Zelenskyy has said he would step down as leader if Ukraine could join NATO.

Hardy the act of a man who lacks basic humanity. Rather the act of a leader who puts his people first.

Excuse me? I’m not a bot, I’m a human and I post here from time to time as my history shows. Not sure why everyone if referring to Zelensky and co and the thread has turned into a convo about them, when my post doesn’t mention them.

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Keukenhof · 06/03/2025 12:22

I think history has shown us that dehumanising people is very dangerous.

letsallchant · 06/03/2025 12:23

Nothatgingerpirate · 06/03/2025 11:43

Not Trump again, surely.
How about Mr. Zelensky?
I'm sure some stuff is gonna come out in time, we might all be very surprised about.

Quick off the mark with the anti Zelensky posts! How enthusiastic you are to make this point. I'll wait to see when he mocks disabled people live on TV or one of the many, many other things that would put him on a par with let's say other world leaders.

SpecduckularlyQuackers · 06/03/2025 12:23

I'm reminded that Terry Pratchett wrote that humans are 'where the falling angel meets the rising ape'.

Snippit · 06/03/2025 12:26

Wildflowers99 · 06/03/2025 11:39

Trump? Levi Bellfield? Yes.

Calling somebody toxic for sharing a few hard truths or not enabling you? No

I thought Trump straight away. He definitely has narcissistic traits and a bully.

JeanPaulGagtier · 06/03/2025 12:26

I'm going with the dictators of the world and Trump.
Serial killers are likely to have physical brain damage, so even they aren't ALL "evil" - it's simply an inability to see other people are real due to (usually) abuse or violence as a child that damages the part of the brain that regulates emotions, the idea of consequences and empathy.

Trump and dictators are just narc psychopaths. This are the "vilest" kind of people as they have power, money and freedom to enact any kind of hatred they want on more people.

DaveyTheCavy · 06/03/2025 12:28

The Southport killer
Jonty Bravery (guy who pushed a little kid off a gallery balcony)
Pol pot
Hitler
Stalin

Nothatgingerpirate · 06/03/2025 12:39

"Bots, Russian trolls". 🤣
I'm Czech, actually.
Am I allowed NOT to worship Zelensky and his actions???
Thank you.
PS: I speak Russian a bit, enough not to get lost if ever in their territory 😊

letsallchant · 06/03/2025 12:43

Nothatgingerpirate · 06/03/2025 12:39

"Bots, Russian trolls". 🤣
I'm Czech, actually.
Am I allowed NOT to worship Zelensky and his actions???
Thank you.
PS: I speak Russian a bit, enough not to get lost if ever in their territory 😊

Of course you are. We do have freedom of speech here despite what that idiot Vance thinks. I just haven't seen any evidence of the vile actions and inhuman behaviour that the thread asks about. If you've got any, feel free to share!

Nothatgingerpirate · 06/03/2025 12:44

letsallchant · 06/03/2025 12:43

Of course you are. We do have freedom of speech here despite what that idiot Vance thinks. I just haven't seen any evidence of the vile actions and inhuman behaviour that the thread asks about. If you've got any, feel free to share!

Alrighty.
Andreas Lubitz.

lottie2008 · 06/03/2025 12:44

@AlertBird
Yes. I'm 3hrs past separation from my ex partner and father of my children. When we separated (which he also wanted) band then I met someone else.
He went on a witch hunt to separate me from my family (who I had looked after for years) and my local friends. And then they set social services on to me alleging that I was an incapable mother.
There is abuse and then there is evil.

JasmineTea11 · 06/03/2025 12:47

Definitely these people exist (JD Vance?!) But I'm an optimist and believe they are the minority.

DaveyTheCavy · 06/03/2025 12:48

Nothatgingerpirate · 06/03/2025 12:44

Alrighty.
Andreas Lubitz.

Was he that selfish pilot who flew his plane into a mountain?

IEatSauerkrautBeforeItWasCool · 06/03/2025 12:51

I have a feeling OP didn’t mean politics....