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To not go to the funeral

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LoveFridaynight · 01/03/2025 12:35

It's my mum's funeral on Thursday. I don't want to go. Together with my siblings we've done everything but I don't want to go.
I love my mum was incredibly close to her all through my life. but I can't bear the thought of saying goodbye. DH says it's up to me but he thinks I'll regret it if I don't go. My eldest is reading a poem so I would like to support her but at the same time my selfish side says stay home.
AIBU to want to skip it? Do you think I'll regret it if I don't go?

OP posts:
ExitPursuedByABare · 01/03/2025 22:43

Please please go. I’m having a weep for you. But you will regret if you don’t.

x2boys · 02/03/2025 14:59

LoveFridaynight · 01/03/2025 20:47

Thank you for the replies and I'm sorry for those of you who are also going through something similar.
I am thinking of maybe going to the service and then deciding whether or not to go home after.
I think my siblings would be upset if I didn't go but I don't know if they'd actually say anything. I know not going won't change anything or bring my mum back I'm just struggling to accept I won't see her again. I just feel so heartbroken and lost.

What your feeling is entirely normal aa I said it was my mums funeral last week you will be upset
I found the whole day extremely emotional certain parts more do than others but it wswnt as bad as i expected and the after drinks / refreshments waa really quite nice

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