in being cross with dp for saying he was going out to a barbecue for a couple of hours last night and he is still not returned????

[Jazzicatz]

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!!!!!!!!!!!! - indeed

I am bloody livid!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

he's a grown man
get over it really

I would be livid too.

Has he called to tell you he is OK?

Bollocks to being a grown man, I;'d be well pissed off. did he not text you to let you know he wasn't coming home?

No nothing!

I'd be worried with an underlying fury!
Have you rung him?

It wouldn't bother me if it was prearrangedand I knew what was happening.

Jazzicatz - I think you need to organise yourself an all nighter soon!

Are you at all worried or is disappearing without leaving a message in character?

If it is in character then I would be totally livid and would very clearly lay down the law with him. To not call you shows a total lack of regard for your feelings and your relationship.

Was it a local bbq?
What time did he go out?

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have you called him? is this usual behaviour?

No he only said last night - so and so has a barbecue - is it ok if I go for a couple of hours? to which I said of course. I knew he would be late, but not all night with no message to say he is staying out. He is not answering his phone either. The party was on the river, so I worry that he could have fallen in or anything if he was that drunk!

I don't get the "he is a grown man" comment. What does that mean? In my opinion a grown man who has chosen to be in a relationship and have kids has absolutley no right to just disregard those responsibilities in the name of his own personal fun. If he wants 24 hours away with friends then fine, he should have it, after having planned it with his family.

Ohhhh you must feel awful, not knowing and being worried and cross.

jazzi- I think you need to find out where he is. Phone the hosts of the part.

different not coming back when he says a couple of hoiurs what a worry my exh used to do this and i was always really worried and then upset/angry

hope he is ok and if he is what a tosser for doing it

can you contact anyone else at the barbeque?
Not saying you should, yet, just to have that option there/.
Chances are he's got drunk dropped his phone in the river

I agree with artichokes.

It's exactly because my DP is a big grown up I'd expect him to not act this way. A teenage son who hasn't yet learned - maybe, but not the father of my children.

He's an arse.
What does interest me is that the OP wrote "is not returned" rather than "has"- it's lovely; so Austen-ish.

He has just turned up - looking rough as saying he fell in the river last night and had to swim to get to a friends to crash

he had to ask was it ok if he went?
when i go out i get home when i get home
same for him
i dont have to answer to him and ask is it ok if i go out or stay out all night
when he goes out i say cheerio have a good time and he comes home when he's ready
i have never been one to automatically worry that he's fallen in the river or whatever
maybe im odd

well i spose be grateful he didnt come home a sodden mess