This is wrong isn’t it?

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Firstly apologies if anyone was offended by the tone of my thread last night. I was very tired and put it on with little thought of the wording. The thread got deleted so here I am trying again.

Chatting to a friend and she told me that her son, aged 13, walks around naked in front of his sisters who are 16 and 18. Obviously he doesn’t purposely flaunt himself, but will walk from his bathroom across the landing and often encounters them. My friend’s has told him to cover up but he isn’t bothered.

I have a DH and a young adult DD and DS and we would NEVER do this. We are very private and this has shocked me.

AIBU - This is ok
YANBU - This is not ok

They're siblings, who cares?

I'd be more worried if a 16 or 18 yo woman saw their 13 yo sibling being naked as being somehow sexual.

This is normal I think. He'll stop pretty soon!

Some families have no problems with nudity. My Dd (26) gets changed whilst chatting to me sometimes, and I have in front of her too. I've never really given it much thought.

In his own home.. around his family.. walking from the bathroom to his bedroom.. and not intentionally but just coz he's not bothered.
I don't see the problem with this tbh
Some families are more relaxed about nudity.
I have 3 children and a husband and we only have 1 bathroom in the house so yes we all occasionally see each other naked. I don't even lock the bathroom door unless I'm doing a poo lol! Coz I have a toddler as well as two older kids so she may need to use the loo if I'm in the bath etc..
My son is 11 and he does walk to his room nude occasionally. He wouldn't ever go downstairs naked.
I do not see the issue. Kids will cover up at some point in their teens if they wish to.
It might be an issue if the sisters are complaining about it? But if not, then it's really not a problem.
Some families are just more relaxed about nudity than others
Nudity is not inherently sexual or threatening.

My 13yo ds still walks around naked. Less than he used to, but he’d still nip from the bathroom to his bedroom. So would I tbh, wouldn’t occur to me to cover up in my own home. My 16yo DD will pop her pjs back on but will come have a chat with me in the bath or if I’m in my bedroom getting dressed. DH would never be naked anywhere except presumably on his own in the bathroom

I think there are basically naked people and non naked people. As long as the latter don’t impose their nakedness uninvited on the former and make them feel uncomfortable then I don’t think anyone is right or wrong. It’s only a body - everyone has one

You are private. They are not. Family dynamics are different. My ds is 13 and walks naked from the shower to his room. Doesn't give a stuff who he encounters along the way but if he happens to walk into the bathroom while I'm having a bath he'll act as if his eyes have been burnt from their sockets.

It's really not something to get worked up over, especially as it's not even your family!

I don't think I've ever encountered a family where this would be considered normal behaviour.

I think you probably have but how would you know? Unless you directly asked?

What is normal? Everyone's normal is different.

I don't think nudity is anything to be ashamed about in your own home with your own family, providing nobody feels uncomfortable. That is our normal.

We cover up in my house . I would not be comfortable with nacked teens

Exactly

Riiight
I'm not sure merely mentioning that your kid is sometimes naked counts as a "tale" really does it? I think we can all assume that all children in fact all human beings are naked at at least some point every day. THE HORROR!! And people can just imagine this with their minds SO SICK

Honestly the ops question seems genuine to me. Given that there are some people on mumsnet so uptight that they think putting your bins out without getting fully dressed in daytime clothing is 'absolutely disgusting'
I can well believe this op is shocked by a kid being nude in his own home.

To be fair, some families are relaxed about things like this. I don't really think it's your business unless there's red flags that you're aware of. Don't make it something it's not.

Well fair enough if it's normal for your family to walk round the house naked. I'm not questioning that you and some pp on this thread are apparently naturists.

What I'm saying is I don't know, and have never known, a family who would consider this normal behaviour.

I think this thread is going to go the same way as the Gym clothing thread: anyone who puts forward the view that it's reasonable to expect bodies to be covered in an appropriate way are Victorian prudes.

Nobody has gone into detailed tales though have they? They've briefly mentioned the dynamics within their homes which is kind of the point of the post...

It's very sad that adults can't have discussions about certain topics without it being implied that they aren't genuine. Like how anyone who asks for IBS advice must immediately be a poo troll 😂

@Daffodiltimeishere I haven't read the gym thread but I'm presuming the key difference would be that the gym is a public place. Your home is your safe space that you share with your family who at some stage or another will have all seen each other naked. It's a bit different.

I don't think anyone who thinks differently is a prude. I also think it does naturally change when kids hit puberty and want/need their own privacy. Equally I think it's harmless and certainly not 'abnormal' for a 13 year old to walk naked from the shower to their bedroom. It's not exhibitionism, its laziness 😂

That's in public!! Very different expecting someone to cover up in front of strangers.
It's not really anyone's right to demand people they don't even know cover up inside their own homes.
And it's not naturist to walk nude from the bathroom to your bedroom. It's pretty bloody normal. Not for you maybe but I strongly suspect that at least 50% of people you come into contact with in your life have done this. No way do you not know anyone who would be naked in the privacy of their own home around immediate family.

It’s the other way round in our house 😂. I haven’t seen the kids naked for years but they’ll happily wander in to ask me something even if I’m in the bath.

Regardless of what anyone thinks is right or wrong in this situation, what goes on in their house is nobody's business but theirs.

I understand that people have different views on nudity
And what they do in their own homes is their own business.
But personally I would expect by 13 a boy, or girl , to be aware that walking around the house naked with their genitalia on view for all to see is not an appropriate way to behave.

I'm actually surprised at how many people walk around with nothing on, even if it is in their own homes/in front of own family. My 3 dc, youngest 11 oldest 18, don't do this and they all stopped wanting to be seen naked around age 10. I don't do it and like my privacy in the bathroom and respect the fact the dc and dh do too. So it would be odd for me but it clearly isn't for many.

If he has a bath or shower and then walks from the bathroom to his room without any clothes this is not a big deal.

If he randomly walks around the house naked for no reason then yes this is wrong.

I am 100% Victorian prude. But, if we happen to come across each other in and out of showers doing a quick nude shuffle to our bedrooms once in a blue moon (no pun intended) it’s fine. We are all respectful, averted eyes, and nobody makes a big deal.

But it is 'appropriate' in their family home if that's what's normal in their family. If you can't be naked in the privacy of your own home with people who accept it as normal, then it's a very sad state of affairs.