This is wrong isn’t it?

[Staggeredatthisadmission]

Firstly apologies if anyone was offended by the tone of my thread last night. I was very tired and put it on with little thought of the wording. The thread got deleted so here I am trying again.

Chatting to a friend and she told me that her son, aged 13, walks around naked in front of his sisters who are 16 and 18. Obviously he doesn’t purposely flaunt himself, but will walk from his bathroom across the landing and often encounters them. My friend’s has told him to cover up but he isn’t bothered.

I have a DH and a young adult DD and DS and we would NEVER do this. We are very private and this has shocked me.

AIBU - This is ok
YANBU - This is not ok

Indeed.

This is exactly us, very private.

I guess I was really shocked that her DS was doing this at 13 and just wondering what other people thought. I’m not criticising my friend, I just thought it was kind of odd but from the replies I can see I was wrong.

Well as I said if people walk round naked in their own homes then that's their affair.

I'm stating a personal view: genitalia are known colloquially as " private parts" for a reason.
And again, personally, I think by age 13 boys and girls should not be walking around exposing their genitalia to all and sundry.
And I dont think it's appropriate that they are viewing their parents genitalia - which I assume is what is happening in all the households of the pp on this thread who say nakedness is the norm in their homes.

I wouldn't be keen on this in my house, and it would right put me off my dinner

.....but there are people who just don't mind being nude in their own homes, there are even naturists who wander butt naked around designated beaches and play volleyball starkers, it doesn't have to be sexual, and it's not wrong, that being the title of your post.

Not in this house. I am sure my daughters would hate to see their father’s or brother’s genitalia and he would not be too hot on seeing mine.

If it doesn't make the girls uncomfortable, it's fine.

Everyone is different with how comfortable they are being naked. My friend's mum used to walk across the landing naked. The dad and friend didn't, but didn't care that the mum did. As a teen, I would rather die than let anyone see me naked, but I had no issue barging in on my mum in the bath, lol. As an adult, I'm comfortable changing etc in front of all female friends. I now have a baby, and when she grows up, I really doubt I'll care. I sometimes sleep naked and cba to get dressed in the night everytime I need the toilet. It's different when you live together as at various points in time, all siblings, parents etc will have seen each other naked, so it's just not a sexual thing or a big deal to some.

Having said that, I personally would have felt (and still would) highly uncomfortable seeing my dad/brother's privates, and certainly wouldn't want them to see me. Whereas I couldn't care less if I saw my mum naked in the shower, even as an adult.

My partner is half Finnish, and I'm Finland it's normal to go in the sauna together naked lol, which wouldn't happen here.

I’m trying to navigate this question at home right now. Growing up at home, we were three sisters - my mum and us just walked round as we pleased and my dad knew to stay in the livingroom and keep behind the newspaper.

Now it’s just me and my 8yo son, and I’m wondering what boundaries I need to lay down that strikes a balance between privacy/decency and body confidence.

My son’s late father was a little bit hung up on privacy - I’m more of a lackadaisical nudist - and our son is exactly the same as his dad. It’s curious to witness - inherited traits are definitely a thing…

Very similar to my house. My husband does not walk around naked (he does in underpants though). DD2 (age 9) will run around naked. DS (age 14) will be more private. I will walk naked from bathroom to bedroom if I have forgotten something. Any of us will walk into the bathroom if someone is showering and we need something or to brush teeth etc.
Personally, I think bodies are healthy and it's wrong to over sexualise them. So I have never discouraged this (performative nakedness is different).

It’s fine. If he were walking around naked at 18 and his sisters were watching it aged 13/16 that might be more questionable.

It’s nice that he’s not self- conscious yet.

It’s very weird. But I also don’t know anyone who has a shoes off house.

@ludicrouslycapaciousbags

I hate to state the obvious, but you’re here discussing it too!

This thread is sooo typical of the British attitude to nudity. I'm sure some of the posters still cover table legs in case male visitors find them shocking and to show ones ankles what brazen behaviour.

The Europeans are so much more relaxed about nudity. Mixed naked saunas, french men freely peeing at the side of the road.

It's a boy walking around upstairs in his own home. With family who have seen his todger a million times before. It's not sexual. It's not perverse. It's family life.

We've been shoes off ever since we got our first home and got rather house-proud. Many of our friends and neighbours likewise.

walking to/from the bathroom naked? i can't see how this is an issue. he isn't doing wrong with that. I'd say the issue is from those seeing this as a 'sexual' thing when it's siblings.

Maybe because i grew up in a family where someone walking across the landing naked was normal?

I grew up in the fifties, my German mother and English father always walked around naked, it was something we were quite used to. When I had my DC my exh and I did the same.

Shoes on or off in the house is on of MN’s favourite subjects, likely to stir up more arguments than anything else!
We are a shoes off house too.

Haha!! I don't have daughters, but both my boys (13 and 11) will happily run around after their bath and show v little modesty!! I can imagine if they had a big sister they'd b no different! My oldest does seem to be showing a little more awareness of his body but he's still very much pre-puberty and a 'child' in terms of his body development, and I am not sure this modesty gene kicks in until puberty.

If your friends son is still a pre-pubescent 'child' then I expect it's fine! Once puberty hits and he properly becomes a teenager I'm sure he'll be more careful!

Everyone covered up in my upbringing and are similar now but my cousins would do this. Boys and girls, even as teens, they were so at ease with each other. Getting dressed or walking around naked was OK. They were also very physical too, as were both parents. They were always touching in some way unlike my family, holding hands if sitting beside each other, or a hand on the knee or an arm around each other's shoulders. It was quite lovely really. They are still close today, all in 40s.

In the UK we are all abit funny about nakedness. I lived in Germany for 12 months in my twenties and they are not in the slightest bit bothered about nakedess, to the point that friends of opposite sex will happily strip off in front of each other and not think anything of it. There are bath houses where everyone is naked and no one cares. My 11 year old still wanders around naked upstairs without a care in the world and likes to get changed into her school uniform in the living room and needs reminded to draw the curtains. I am sure this will change shortly. When she was little she would run around naked and then as soon as she put her knickers on she would hide as they were 'rude' :D everyone is different and it doesnt sound like there is any kind of issue where you describe.

Nudity in your own home is fine, it’d be better if more people were relaxed about it imo, then people are seeing real bodies when they grow up instead of just airbrushed.

The fact that it's come up in discussion indicates that someone in the household isn't comfortable. If this is the case, then I think modesty wins. I don't think it's common for teenagers who have gone through puberty to walk around their in front of their parents and teenage siblings.
Underwear - fine, being spotted nipping to the loo in the middle of the night and not been traumatised - fine.
Having a shower, drying yourself off and then walking about getting on with your day with nothing on - unusual.

YANBU @Staggeredatthisadmission and I am gobsmacked at the poll results on here to be honest. I don't believe anyone would be OK with their teen son walking around completely naked in front of their teen sisters. Nahhhhh. 😆

YANBU @Staggeredatthisadmission and I am gobsmacked at the poll results on here to be honest. I don't believe anyone would be OK with their teen son walking around completely naked in front of their teen sisters. Nahhhhh. 😆