This is wrong isn’t it?

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Firstly apologies if anyone was offended by the tone of my thread last night. I was very tired and put it on with little thought of the wording. The thread got deleted so here I am trying again.

Chatting to a friend and she told me that her son, aged 13, walks around naked in front of his sisters who are 16 and 18. Obviously he doesn’t purposely flaunt himself, but will walk from his bathroom across the landing and often encounters them. My friend’s has told him to cover up but he isn’t bothered.

I have a DH and a young adult DD and DS and we would NEVER do this. We are very private and this has shocked me.

AIBU - This is ok
YANBU - This is not ok

IMO it's odd. And I seriously doubt most people do it. (Especially at that age... Teenagers!) When they are under 7 say, then that's OK, but a teenage boy walking around completely naked in front of his 2 teenage sisters is weird. I am willing to bet that the vast majority of people saying it's OK, NEVER walked around in front of their brothers and sisters (and parents) naked when they were teenagers. Sorry no. Don't believe it.

@Staggeredatthisadmission YANBU. Of course it's wrong. As well as odd and weird!

Some families are open about nudity and don't consider it a problem to be nude in the privacy of their homes in the presence of family members.

Im a shoes off person always have been i was raised the same way shoes off or get back out side.

I think it probably depends on how mature the 13-year-old is, both physically and emotionally. Some 13-year-old boys are still very childish and don't care about this sort of thing much yet, while others are a bit further on in terms of maturity and more conscious of wanting privacy.

@Trunksarebetter

So what are you implying exactly. That I’m some kind of pervert or weirdo? I created a second thread because the first got deleted. I created it because I found it off that a 13 year old boy would do this in front of his sisters and I wondered was it normal or not.

it’s a shame that your first thought was that I’m being inappropriate by posting this. I work in a school fgs.

This wouldn't bother me at all. People have different views on nudity but he doesn't seem to be doing anything wrong

But why is it wrong? I go to my local swimming baths which has a female communal changing area (very few lockable rooms). When it's busy I strip off completely in front of absolute strangers to get changed. They do the same! It's not like anyone is dancing around drawing attention to it... Are we all odd and weird? 🤔or just minding our own business and not being horrified there's general nudity happening?

How would you know? Its not something I ever asked families I have encountered. For all I know all of them do or none of them do.

See I think that's weirder that you don't know anyone who has a shoes off house. I would say the majority of my friends do (as do I).

We all walk around naked sometimes in our house. Who cares?

Keep your beak out. It's nothing to do with you

This wouldn’t concern me in the slightest.

I'm really amazed at the number of posters who are trying to present families walking round their homes stark naked as normal behaviour.

Some posters on MN have a really weird agenda whereby people who actually adhere to accepted social conventions - such as wearing clothing - are the ones with the unconventional view of life.

I find it really strange how people get so hung up on nudity. They are just bodies. I grew up up seeing my parents naked daily and they me. I still wouldn’t think anything of it.
I walk around naked in my own house. DS is 12 and covers up but will still walk to the shower etc naked and still comes to talk to me in the bath. DH is less naked than me but would be naked in front of me (obviously!) and DS if showering or getting changed.
I think as part of family life it’s perfectly natural.

It's batshit isn't it?! It's not something that is a normal, regular thing to do. I don't care what anyone on here says, it's absolute tripe that most families walk around naked in front of each other in their home... Utter bull. 😆

Parallel world of Mumsnet and all that! 😂

I think there are basically naked people and non naked people. As long as the latter don’t impose their nakedness uninvited on the former and make them feel uncomfortable then I don’t think anyone is right or wrong. It’s only a body - everyone has one

Exactly. Unless someone in the family is uncomfortable with this it’s not an issue.

@BatchCookBabe

I don't care what anyone on here says, it's absolute tripe that most families walk around naked in front of each other in their home... Utter bull

How can you possibly know this? Are you in the homes of all 70 million people in the UK? No you’re not.

Different families have different approaches to this. As long as no one is being made to feel uncomfortable or unsettled by it why is it anyone else’s business?

I admit even at 15 I walked round the house in knickers and T-shirt/vest. I had an older brother. Never felt uncomfortable or like it was weird! I was just comfy!

I am still known within my friends for being extremely comfortable getting changed or whatever in front of them, I just don’t see it as a big deal! It’s a body! We all have them!

Not really naked though was it?! Not if you had knickers and a T-shirt on!

Is it? Do you have a partner? Do you wear a collar to floor nightgown when you go to bed with them? If you go to the beach on holiday do you freak out if a woman takes her top off?

You laughed at my swimming baths post. Have you ever been to a swimming pool before? Or communal changing rooms which were quite common in some shops in the 90s?

Nobody is saying they all let it hang out hanging out watching TV in the living room together, but someone doing a 3am naked run to the bathroom isn't that abnormal!

Am I weird that my Dd doesn't freak out if I've got changed in front of her occasionally? She came out of my body and had changed her bum, bathed her for many years as a child. I think it's more batshit someone is so hung up on essentially seeing skin. That they clutch their pearls in horror. How do you cope during the summer when a fair percentage of men insist on wandering about with their top off? 🫣

@BatchCookBabe haha fair point!

Seems perfectly normal to me
He is only walking from the bathroom to his room it's not a big deal. He is in his own home with family he has known all his life and no doubt will have seen his nappy being changed when he was a baby. I don't see the issue

He is not a baby. He is a teenage boy. Walking about naked in front of his older teenage sisters. I don't think it's normal but you do.

i take it you would also think it normal for a 13 year old girl walking about naked infront of her older teenage brothers? I certainly don't.

I am just asking how you know what goes on in the homes of others though to categorically know you don't know anyone who does? To me this is more odd that you must be asking all your friends this to be so certain. It is less weird not to ask and therefore have no idea whether or not you know anyone.

Exactly. No-one would think it OK for a young 13 y.o. girl to be walking around naked in front of her 2 older brothers. So it's no more OK for a 13 y.o. boy to walk around in front of his older sisters naked.

Nope, not buying it. I don't believe anyone thinks it's OK. 😂