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Would you leave a class WhatsApp due to a "mole"

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PsychoHacker · 23/02/2025 23:38

I have one DC so I'm not very experienced with this sort of thing. I'm trying to work out if this is a non issue or if I have a right to be miffed.

There's a unofficial WhatsApp chat for DC's class. I've found it pretty useful as I don't have any other DC and this is my first rodeo with a child in school.

For a while now I've suspected that someone has been "feeding back" the chat to the school. The reason being that any time something is discussed, there seems to be a notice posted within a few hours, discussing exactly what was said in the chat.

I've not really given it too much thought as there is never anyone being malicious or saying anything bad about the school however there has been a few minor rants regarding the usual things like homework or school events etc.

There was a specific topic discussed recently that had nothing to do with the school, and there's no way the school would have any knowledge of it unless someone told them. Again nothing malicious however this really confirmed the "mole" theory for me.

Last week someone in the chat basically "outed" themselves as a friend of the teachers. Fine, doesn't make much of a difference to anyone however the more I think of it, the more uncomfortable it makes me.

Why would anyone feel the need to go running to the school with every little detail posted in this chat? Most of the topics are nonsense. Are they trying to score brownie points? Isolate themselves from the other parents? I just don't understand the thought process behind it.

I think I'll need to leave the chat as it's making me rather uncomfortable that someone is sharing my messages and input without my permission. Such a shame as the chat has been very helpful with keeping me informed with events and anything else school related. Wwyd?

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MaybeItWasMe · 26/03/2025 23:20

I’m a teacher and have children at my school. I’m in the parent WhatsApp groups for their year groups and have been absolutely appalled by things parents have said in them. Vitriolic comments about other people’s children, spreading of false rumours, witch hunts of teachers based on half-truths. Lots of parents whip each other up over issues that could easily put right if just raised with the school. I don’t think I’m your mole, OP, but I am a mole and I know that issues have been resolved because of it.

PsychoHacker · 27/03/2025 07:33

MaybeItWasMe · 26/03/2025 23:20

I’m a teacher and have children at my school. I’m in the parent WhatsApp groups for their year groups and have been absolutely appalled by things parents have said in them. Vitriolic comments about other people’s children, spreading of false rumours, witch hunts of teachers based on half-truths. Lots of parents whip each other up over issues that could easily put right if just raised with the school. I don’t think I’m your mole, OP, but I am a mole and I know that issues have been resolved because of it.

There's definitely no drama like that in my chat so I don't think you are my mole.

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