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To think random man got his just deserts to his unsolicited comments today?

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Weartherose · 22/02/2025 15:21

I'm wearing a sports top today to indicate support for a match later today.

Was at the supermarket today and this man, clocked my shirt rolled his eyes and riffed off the Name Three Songs comment and said "I bet you can't name 3 players". So I asked him if he was at the stadium (200 miles away) for momentous match a fortnight ago when X Y and Z scored?

He had the grace to look a bit abashed.

Why do some folk assume you are not fans when you wear band/location/ten shirts? Is it just to show off their superior knowledge?

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RobinHeartella · 22/02/2025 19:27

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 22/02/2025 19:02

I don't think so. https://www.etymonline.com/word/dessert

dessert (n.)
"a service of fruits and sweets at the close of a meal," c. 1600, from French dessert (mid-16c.) "last course," literally "removal of what has been served," from desservir "clear the table," literally "un-serve," from des- "remove, undo" (see dis-) + Old French servir "to serve" (see serve (v.)). Dessert-wine is from 1733; dessert-spoon from 1776.
also from c. 1600

desert (n.2)
c. 1300, "fact of deserving a certain treatment (for good or ill) for one's behavior," from Old French deserte "merit, recompense," noun use of past participle of deservir "be worthy to have," ultimately from Latin deservire "serve well," from de- "completely" (see de-) + servire "to serve" (see serve (v.)). Meaning "suitable reward or punishment, what one deserves" (now usually plural and with just), is from late 14c.

Yes your quote is agreeing with me! Both ultimately from the same Latin root, servire, to serve. Dessert is via French.

Why am I doing this...

HouseAshamed · 22/02/2025 19:29

Is that all you have to thing about @AskingQuestionsAllTheTime ? Maybe you're not thinging hard enough and should go and do somethink else. Are you really AskinkWestionsAllTheTime?

@DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe , the one that irritates me, not irrationally, is how people say die-sect for dissect. Look at the word FFS.

I also get pissed (not pronounced piced) off by people claiming to be part-Italian but calling bruschetta brushetta. It's enough to make me choke on my rad-itchy-o. Chorizo isn't tchoritzo either.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 22/02/2025 19:55

RobinHeartella · 22/02/2025 19:27

Yes your quote is agreeing with me! Both ultimately from the same Latin root, servire, to serve. Dessert is via French.

Why am I doing this...

Servire, yes, but with different prefixes, so different verbs.

RobinHeartella · 22/02/2025 19:57

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 22/02/2025 19:55

Servire, yes, but with different prefixes, so different verbs.

OK I can agree with you there, different prefixes yes. I wasn't clear what your point was.

gettingthehangofsewing · 22/02/2025 20:03

MasterBeth · 22/02/2025 15:30

What noise does a dinosaur make?

Current belief is that rather than roaring their sound was more bird like. So probably a goose honk.

Zusammengebrochen · 22/02/2025 20:05

Weartherose · 22/02/2025 15:21

I'm wearing a sports top today to indicate support for a match later today.

Was at the supermarket today and this man, clocked my shirt rolled his eyes and riffed off the Name Three Songs comment and said "I bet you can't name 3 players". So I asked him if he was at the stadium (200 miles away) for momentous match a fortnight ago when X Y and Z scored?

He had the grace to look a bit abashed.

Why do some folk assume you are not fans when you wear band/location/ten shirts? Is it just to show off their superior knowledge?

Did this actually happen?

WitcheryDivine · 22/02/2025 20:10

I’ve been getting this shit from boys since primary. Honestly when will they fucking give up.

viques · 22/02/2025 20:13

I don’t care that it is supposed to be deserts not dessert. I think deserts sounds wrong, and looks wrong, so I am sticking with dessert on the grounds that whereas people who behave properly end up with the properly made crème brûlée with an almond tuile and a generous serving of raspberry coulis (insert own dessert of choice as required) , people who behave badly should end up with the corner piece of the school jam tart with a scrape of jam and no custard thus getting their just dessert.

uhOhOP · 22/02/2025 20:22

viques · 22/02/2025 20:13

I don’t care that it is supposed to be deserts not dessert. I think deserts sounds wrong, and looks wrong, so I am sticking with dessert on the grounds that whereas people who behave properly end up with the properly made crème brûlée with an almond tuile and a generous serving of raspberry coulis (insert own dessert of choice as required) , people who behave badly should end up with the corner piece of the school jam tart with a scrape of jam and no custard thus getting their just dessert.

But "deserts" in this context sounds the same as "desserts".

viques · 22/02/2025 20:23

uhOhOP · 22/02/2025 20:22

But "deserts" in this context sounds the same as "desserts".

Not out of my mouth they don’t. 🙂

OrangeYaGlad · 22/02/2025 20:33

uhOhOP · 22/02/2025 20:22

But "deserts" in this context sounds the same as "desserts".

No it doesn't. They're not pronounced at all the same.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 22/02/2025 20:47

Thinking about stupid men thinking they are being clever and are the first person ever to think of "name three songs/plyers/whatever" as a response to a womans tee-shirt, does any person ever hear a new joke about their name when they are in their teens or twenties? All the nit-witted would-be-funny stuff about mine was very, very old, as far as I was concerned, well before I was ten.

Quinlan · 22/02/2025 20:55

OrangeYaGlad · 22/02/2025 20:33

No it doesn't. They're not pronounced at all the same.

Yes, they are. In this context, desert is pronounced how you would usually pronounce dessert. It isn’t pronounced like desert (like the Sahara) even though it is spelled that way.

They have difference pronunciations from each other despite being spelled the same. Like “I live in Scotland” and “We are reporting live.” Spelled the same but pronounced differently depending on the context.

Also @viques Then you’re pronouncing it wrong.

AngelicKaty · 23/02/2025 00:12

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 22/02/2025 18:22

This probably just indicates that people hear what they expect to hear rather than what was said, and report it that way?

ooh, Simon and Garfunkel: "still a man he hears what he wants to hear and disregards the rest". Mmm.

I have a friend who often refers to something being a "mute point" (instead of the correct "moot point") - makes me cringe every damn time! 😂

viques · 23/02/2025 02:19

Quinlan · 22/02/2025 20:55

Yes, they are. In this context, desert is pronounced how you would usually pronounce dessert. It isn’t pronounced like desert (like the Sahara) even though it is spelled that way.

They have difference pronunciations from each other despite being spelled the same. Like “I live in Scotland” and “We are reporting live.” Spelled the same but pronounced differently depending on the context.

Also @viques Then you’re pronouncing it wrong.

Edited

That’s fine, I can live with it.

Herewegoagainz · 23/02/2025 02:24

NotTheDebtDoctorWithTheHungryScalpel · 22/02/2025 15:29

My teenage dd wears a lot of band tshirts, she's very into music and can reel off songs and facts like nobody's business.

She's had the 'three songs' comment quite a few times by middle age men, but she can't be arsed so she usually makes a dinosaur noise at them and walks away.

Far more effective than engaging with them.

I love this response. I have told my daughter if she ever gets the why aren’t you smiling comment to use her middle fingers to make herself smile.

Allergictoironing · 23/02/2025 08:38

One of my pet hates is when people insist they are pronouncing "mischievous" correctly when they put an extra "e" in, "mischieveous". They will correct me, as obviously their way is how it's spelt (no, it isn't).

Another one is suit, as in 3 piece suit, and being told the correct pronunciation is "soote".

Back on the original subject I do find it amusing when younger people pronounce to me on older bands and musicians, and have caused many a rush to Google to prove me wrong only to get a shamefaced mumbled apology. Yes David Essex WAS the original Che Guevara in the London production of Evita. Yes Led Zep did play live at Knebworth on the same day as Chas & Dave - I was there at the time. And yes, the lead singer of Buggles (Video killed the Radio Star) was also the lead singer at one time with iconic Prog Rock band Yes. Loads more I can't recall off the top of my head, mostly relating to songs that were classics and later covered by more modern bands

SALaw · 23/02/2025 09:40

@Allergictoironing how are you pronouncing "suit"?!

Allergictoironing · 23/02/2025 09:47

Ah I see a possible confusion. Suit of clothing - sewt. Suite of furniture - sweet.

SALaw · 23/02/2025 09:57

Allergictoironing · 23/02/2025 09:47

Ah I see a possible confusion. Suit of clothing - sewt. Suite of furniture - sweet.

You were referencing the clothing though, right? I wouldn't pronounce "sewt" and "soote" differently?

TimeForTeaAndG · 23/02/2025 10:07

ohyesido · 22/02/2025 17:32

It's an excuse to start a conversation rather than a micro aggression isn't it?

No. A way to start a conversation would be something like "oh, you follow X team? Did you see the game last night? Great goal by man-name player, what a way to lob it right round the goalie".

Demanding proof of knowledge is done to put someone on the spot and make the questioner feel superior in their level of fandom.

HoppityBun · 23/02/2025 10:13

viques · 22/02/2025 20:13

I don’t care that it is supposed to be deserts not dessert. I think deserts sounds wrong, and looks wrong, so I am sticking with dessert on the grounds that whereas people who behave properly end up with the properly made crème brûlée with an almond tuile and a generous serving of raspberry coulis (insert own dessert of choice as required) , people who behave badly should end up with the corner piece of the school jam tart with a scrape of jam and no custard thus getting their just dessert.

You’re confusing what’s written with how it’s pronounced

Brefugee · 23/02/2025 10:33

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 22/02/2025 19:55

Servire, yes, but with different prefixes, so different verbs.

that is literally what "same root" means tho, no?

i do love a bit of prog rock, i grew up with a mum who listened to Vangelis, Tomita and The Enid. An uncle who was into Bowie and Roxy Music and a younger brother heavily into Rush and Iron Maiden. But Pink Floyd are my absolute favourites - we go to a lot of tribute bands, and one in particular always does Set the Controls which i love. (none have done Spveral Species yet)

As for the gatekeepy fuckers about band shirts, or sports shirty: they can get in the sea. I wear NMA t-shirts a lot and mostly people smile and say "gosh i used to love them, wait, they're still around??"

I recently managed to get to a few football matches of my English team (diaries coordinated for a change) and i mentioned it on Twitter, and got a load of "plastic fans never go to the stadium". Which i hate anyway. But it was hilarious when people who know me pointed out my first visit was in the 60s and continued way into the 80s.

mrlistersgelfbride · 23/02/2025 12:24

Well done OP. I'm guessing you support a popular sports team.

When my partner and daughter wears theirs they've had people laughing in their faces saying "Haha they are shit" which is ruder than "name 3 players" I think.

DrawerHandle · 23/02/2025 12:26

PurpleFlower1983 · 22/02/2025 15:26

It’s desserts not deserts.

I am embarrassed for you.