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To think random man got his just deserts to his unsolicited comments today?

220 replies

Weartherose · 22/02/2025 15:21

I'm wearing a sports top today to indicate support for a match later today.

Was at the supermarket today and this man, clocked my shirt rolled his eyes and riffed off the Name Three Songs comment and said "I bet you can't name 3 players". So I asked him if he was at the stadium (200 miles away) for momentous match a fortnight ago when X Y and Z scored?

He had the grace to look a bit abashed.

Why do some folk assume you are not fans when you wear band/location/ten shirts? Is it just to show off their superior knowledge?

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PersephonePitstop · 22/02/2025 17:19

CaptainMyCaptain · 22/02/2025 17:04

She didn't spell it right. She meant desserts.

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Another one 🙄

ProfessionalPirate · 22/02/2025 17:19

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 22/02/2025 15:56

I did indeed 😂 and despite the miriam-Webster official definition I think it appears to be one of those phrases that has morphed over time so I think we're both right 😂

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You wish 😂

The only use of ‘Just Desserts’ in the English language is as a punny name for a pastry shop

PuppyMonkey · 22/02/2025 17:21

Just hear to see how many threads @DadDadDad finds about “another think coming” - I’m putting my money on 200 from the last month alone. Grin

PullTheBricksDown · 22/02/2025 17:22

Good for you. I take it he didn't actually apologise for his rudeness though?

fluffiphlox · 22/02/2025 17:23

For those who don’t know, it is ‘deserts’ because it is something the person ’deserves’.

RobinHeartella · 22/02/2025 17:24

Hehe I've been "corrected" so many times now with the spelling of just deserts, I'm wondering if op was just trying to smoke out the Muphry's Law types with this thread after all.

I might start a thread "issues between my MIL and me" and sit back and watch the finger waggers insist "it's between MIL and I, just look it up!"

(But, I won't, obviously. Just had no idea how much quoting I'd be in for, after commenting on page 1 haha)

Spirallingdownwards · 22/02/2025 17:24

I am with you @Weartherose . I also suspect he wouldn't have said it to a male fan wearing the team shirt either.

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 22/02/2025 17:26

JudgeBread · 22/02/2025 16:51

I mean sure. As it happens I did know all their songs, but my smugness came from denying the stupid little man the opportunity to meet a band he loved, not from proving him wrong which wouldn't have been nearly as satisfying.

But by all means carry on nitpicking pointless elements of what was supposed to be a light-hearted anecdote, I'm sure it brings you great fulfillment in your life.

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It absolutely does.

Othermentions · 22/02/2025 17:28

Told Mr Clownface if he'd not been such a cunt he could have come for a pint with the band. I

im sure the band would have just loved this. A random person that someone the drummer was shagging invited to join them for a drink!

maudelovesharold · 22/02/2025 17:28

I think it appears to be one of those phrases that has morphed over time

Like the awful (and incorrect) ‘you’ve got another thing coming’?

IButtleSir · 22/02/2025 17:29

Why do some folk assume you are not fans when you wear band/location/ten shirts?

Because he's a man and you're a woman. It really is as simple as that. He would never, in a million years, have said it to a man.

Well done for putting him in his place.

Also, thank you to everyone on this thread for teaching me that 'just deserts' is correct!

Miaowzabella · 22/02/2025 17:30

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 22/02/2025 15:51

It's just desserts! Can't believe how many people have got it wrong (and yes auto correct does do it) 😂
Desert- eg Sahara
Dessert- eg trifle

If you don't believe me just use your friendly Internet search provider 😊

No, it's 'just deserts' i.e.what you justly deserve. Puddings have nothing to do with it.

TitusMoan · 22/02/2025 17:32

PurpleFlower1983 · 22/02/2025 15:26

It’s desserts not deserts.

Wrong

SlashBeef · 22/02/2025 17:32

People being confidently wrong gives me much more pleasure than it should 🙈

HouseAshamed · 22/02/2025 17:32

Surely you mean 'Myself and MIL are having issues',@RobinHeartella .

ohyesido · 22/02/2025 17:32

It's an excuse to start a conversation rather than a micro aggression isn't it?

FlyingTigger · 22/02/2025 17:38

niadainud · 22/02/2025 16:09

No doubt you also think it's "another thing coming"...

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Thank you for teaching me something new 😭

Mightymoog · 22/02/2025 17:40

ItGhoul · 22/02/2025 16:47

Are you expecting some sort of medal?

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no, just an observation

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 22/02/2025 17:41

oakleaffy · 22/02/2025 15:45

''In this warre Alexander was made Capitayne of one of the battailles, wherein his noble hert and courage did well apeare, specially when it came to the stroke of the fight, for there he acquited him self so valiauntly yt he semed not inferiour vnto his father, nor to any man els, but by moste iuste desert got the honour of the victory.''
— Quintus Curtius (trans. by John Brende), The history of Quintus Curcius, 1553

The phrase comes from the French verb “deserver” — with only one S — which means “serve well”. (Or so Google tells me).

Couldnt care less about the football shirt - T shirts with slogans/bands/sports seem to invite comments whoever's wearing them

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 22/02/2025 17:41

DopeyS · 22/02/2025 16:15

Do you mean this friendly internet search provider?

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When I googled it, it gave me the desserts option as a phrase- don't blame me- blame Google 😂

crankytoes · 22/02/2025 17:42

Othermentions · 22/02/2025 15:26

So you didn’t name the 3 players 😂

Read again

crankytoes · 22/02/2025 17:42

NotTheDebtDoctorWithTheHungryScalpel · 22/02/2025 15:29

My teenage dd wears a lot of band tshirts, she's very into music and can reel off songs and facts like nobody's business.

She's had the 'three songs' comment quite a few times by middle age men, but she can't be arsed so she usually makes a dinosaur noise at them and walks away.

Far more effective than engaging with them.

What sort of dinosaur? What noise? How loud ? 😂

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 22/02/2025 17:44

DadDadDad · 22/02/2025 15:57

I believe that's called being confidently wrong.

But if I take your tip and google it, then I can quickly find what you seem to be ignorant of: "just deserts" is a phrase "... using an older noun version of desert meaning "deserved reward or punishment," which is spelled like the arid land, but pronounced like the sweet treat." www.merriam-webster.com/grammar/just-deserts-or-just-desserts

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I love being confidently wrong. Even better is to double down and insist you're right just to wind everyone up- just like a politician 😂! I won't derail the thread further 😊

ohyesido · 22/02/2025 17:44

Both deserts and desserts work in context and structure so everyone can win

DadDadDad · 22/02/2025 17:44

PuppyMonkey · 22/02/2025 17:21

Just hear to see how many threads @DadDadDad finds about “another think coming” - I’m putting my money on 200 from the last month alone. Grin

The one I had noted was from a few years ago if you are really interested... https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4704503-another-think-coming-or-another-thing-coming-aibu-to-suggest-we-accept-both

There was one many years before that where it was a husband and wife argument, and all the early posters came on in favour of "thing" before it really kicked off, but I'm not sure my search skills are up to finding it.