Neighbour tried to get into DD car

[WeirdNeighbour]

Wondering if I should say something to neighbour or not. Teen DD arrived home in her car, parked in road, finished her call in her locked car. She says she was just chatting quietly for less than 5 mins. She's not a loud person at all but I'm aware handsfree calls in cars can be loud outside of the car. However I didn't hear her and I was home, tv off, at that time.
Some neighbour she doesn't know and has never interacted with, ran into the street in her dressing gown, trying to open the car doors and shouting at DD for being loud and waking her children. Scared the shit out of DD.

I've advised DD that calls in cars can be louder than you'd think, so she'll be aware of that in the future, but we both agreed trying to open the car door and shouting were inappropriate. If the lady had said something in a reasonable manner, DD would have been mortified that she'd woken children and apologised profusely but as it was, this woman scared her.

Do I speak to neighbour to say sorry DD woke the kids but something something inappropriate behaviour, or just not bother. I have DDs permission to do so, but not sure I can be bothered.

Makes you very wary of what you're saying if someone has you on hands free - people should have to declare it before getting into personal conversations!

The car must have been running as hands free disconnects if your turn your car off? But yes the amount of times I’ve been sat in traffic and can hear someone’s call is crazy, it really is loud!

The evidence is that you should not make calls even on a hands free when driving

Same! And if more than one car is doing it, it's maddening!!

not the case for any of our cars. You turn the engine off but the hands free/radio stays on until you remove the key

The other day, someone was on a call in their car outside my house and it was the most ridiculous loud noise

It was middle of day though so i couldn't complain although it was annoying

If it was 11pm, that would infuriate me but i wouldn't go out in my dressing gown

I had to tell my friend to stop having personal conversations on hands free and about how loud it was but she wouldn’t believe me. I stopped talking to her when she was driving because she would never tell me when it was on hands free and sometimes she’d have other people or her kids in the car, I didn’t realise till her kids started mentioning a conversation that was supposed to be private, I was pretty angry about that.

She finally believed me after she’d had a phone conversation on hands free outside a man’s house who she had been on a couple of dates with and who she really liked, she was just finishing her conversation before she went in the house.

She said he was a bit quieter than usual and shied away from contact saying he didn’t feel well and hinted heavily for her to leave after an hour. She said it was obvious he was faking and was really upset when she left.

She came to see me after she left his house and I helped her write a text asking what was wrong and asking if he wanted to see her again. He replied saying he’d overheard her saying she had bum worms she’d caught from her kids when she was telling her ex husband on the car handsfree!
The poor guy had no kids and had never heard of bum worms and assumed she was telling a man on the phone it was an STI, he didn’t realise it was her ex husband and she was just asking him to worm her kids.

Sadly the bum worms were a complete passion killer and he “was up to his eyes in work” for the rest of eternity so she never saw him again, she finally believed me that you can easily hear conversations on hands free even from inside a house it’s that loud!

Can't imagine she was trying to get in the car, more to ask her to be quieter.

@WeirdNeighbour you can reduce the volume on handsfree calls too. Your daughter should apologise to the neighbour. Inconsiderate behaviour.

Definitely should not have tried to get into her car, however as someone who regularly has an idiot park up late at night and talk on the phone (can be heard in our house) I can understand the annoyance.